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    FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

    Hello dear firecracker friends, Thank you for all your support and advise.
    :thanks: Could not have done it without you and MWO. 30 days :shocked: Your words of encouragement mean so much as only someone who has been through this can understand. Rustop, had to laugh about the kids. You never told my mom you were bored when we were , kids. She'd say "why don't you clean your room or go pull some weeds." Don't tell your kids but we use to get out of the weeding thing by pulling plants and saying, "is this a weed ?" East, I actually ended up with a 7 speed bike with hand brakes. The company I went with is called Sun. They have some great retro looking bikes. One speed, 3 speed, old fashion back pedel to brake. I liked the idea that a few of the models I looked at let you put your feet on the ground at stop. That bike was called Driffter by Sun. I got the Cruz model in a sporty yellow with a basket on front. "Aunty EM, Aunty EM":H Maybe I can get my little dog to ride up front and call him:H Toto. Spiritgirl, We don't have alot of choices of AF wines in the US. Sutter Home and Ariel. The better grocery stores and some wine shops have them. I don't like sweet so I go with a Chardonay or red. No, its not exactly like wine but if you have one of the issues I do of the ritual of pouring, sipping and holding a glass it works. The bottles even have corks in them. The best part is they are half the price and half the calories of regular wine. Thanks for asking about my sister. I'm disqusted. Our legal system is so F'd up and she is in complete denial. They postphoned her hearing for three weeks because her lawyer is working on throwing out the blood alcohol evidence when she took out a fire hydrant and telephone pole on Easter Sunday and was taken into the hospital on a back board and neck brace. Blood alcohol level of .38. She said she was stressed and fell asleep. Bull S**t. How do these lawyers sleep at night. Stop her before she kills herself or someone else. I am also disqusted that I thought she was really asking for help this time so I made calls and took her to my therapist. Well, since the trial is postphoned and her lawyer has this new strategy she suddenly has no sense of urgency to do anything. It was just a ploy to possibly avoid jail if it came to that. People wonder how you have drunk drivers that are on their 12-15 DUI, its our legal system and slimey lawyers. This is my sisters 4th. I'm not saying I never drank and drove. I'm saying if I got caught or crashed once shame on on me, Twice should be it. Sorry such a rag on. I am having a celebratory O'Doulds and enjoying my sobriety and will look forward to helping those who want it. I do love my sister and still hope and pray for her. :thanks:

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      FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

      Kat,

      I completely agree with you. I recently got my first DUI. I was humiliated, ashamed and felt like a terrible mother. Then I realized that the DUI shouldn't have made me feel like that - the irresponsibility of getting behind the wheel of a car drunk is all the above. I got off easy by getting a DUI - it's better than killing someone else. I live in KY and the law in my state is very lenient. I had to attend alcohol risk reduction classes. That might have been the best thing to happen to me, because it got me thinking and thus I found MWO. I really had never considered QUITTING drinking (which is what I want to do now - originally I wanted to moderate, now I really don't think that will work for me). I hope for your sisters sake the legal system requires some sort of treatment program. Her lawyer needs to quit postponing - it sounds like she needs the help.

      Thanks for the info regarding AF wine. I am fortunate - I called the wine shop near my home and they have a chardonnay, merlot and a cab from Napa Valley. I really think that will help alot. I do have the need to pour and hold the glass. I have been putting Perrier in the glass, but it's not always the same. Plus, I can bring the wine to a friends house and not feel like I am the odd man out. I am going to tell my friends that I am dieting (which IS sorta the truth since I've gained 30 pounds largely due to AL the last 3 years). Someone on a thread also suggested saying that I am suspicious of an ulcer and my dr told me no AL. Now, who would coax a person with a health problem. If I DONT quit drinking I am going to give myself an ulcer from all the stress I get from over indulging 3-4 times per week!!

      Thanks again for this thread. Made it through Day 1! Looking forward to Day 2.
      God gives his toughest battles to his strongest soldiers...

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        FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

        Morning Firecrackers

        Just popping in for a quick hello before I start a very busy day

        :welcome: doubter well done for being AL free for the last 3 months. Good luck with your continued success and look forward to hearing from you again

        Spiritgirl East is so right it is not a question of rejoining just starting again and taking one day at a time. We have all been there and know how you are feeling so dust yourself down and go for it again. Each slip is normally bought about by a trigger so recognizing what caused the slip is the first step in avoiding the same thing happening again. So get the AL free wine and carry on YOU CAN DO IT

        Kat so sorry about your sister I really hope she starts to realise the implication of what she does when she gets behind the wheel after drinking. Sooner or later she will ask for the help she needs but it will be a waiting game. As you say it is a shame her lawyer is trying to get her off the hook again. Anyway just to let you know I am thinking of you and hoping that this denial stage does not last too long and she asks for the help she so desperately needs :l

        Rustop keep focused on the riding School next week you can then have some calm time again. Went through the same with my kids but now they have gone things seem very empty and quiet. Why is there never a happy medium. When I think back to when I was the same age things were so different then. Kids today seem to want so much far sooner and get very argumentative when things don't go exactly how they want them to - Showing my age now:H

        East hope things have settled down with youngest daughter :l

        Teardrop Day 53 keep going you star xx

        FBY, Lukalee, Mad Mummy, Cowgirl, Patricia, Shelby and all you other Crackers thinking of you and sending you all my best wishes and hope each and everyone of you are reaching your respective goals today

        Loads of love Sweetpea :groupluv: xxxxxxxxxxxx
        :flower: Keep strong and focused things do get better and you will find your happy :h

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          FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

          Hi Firecrackers

          Welcome Doubter and well done on 3 months. Spirit hang in there, been there done that, we all have. Sorry about your sister Kat, I guess all you can do is be there, she has to want the help before you can really do anything.

          Teardrop, you are doing amazing, keep right on going. Sweetpea, you seem in better form, hope all is going well for you. You too East, children are both a gift and a curse at times. Fby, Lukalee, Mad Mummy and anyone else I missed big hello. Have a great day.

          Rustop

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            FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

            Good morning! Sweet Pea, you crack me UP! you always say "just popping in for a quick post" and you mention everyone who has posted and touch each one of us. Thanks! You must take notes on paper as you are reading the posts! I can't remember what name belongs to what post, yet. All I know are you crackers are wonderful! Day 5 is on the Horizon. I am starting to stress a tab bit about a couple work related events coming up. We have a staff outing and we are taking a former employee out to dinner. My boss is a wine guy. We always have VERY nice wine with our dinners. I am planning on using driving and weight loss for my reasons which are both totally true. But, I am afraid I will falter. I know I should be just going ODAT, but it still keeps creeping into my head now and again.

            Well, I need to get my rear in gear and work out. I haven't been doing that as much this week as I should. Last thing I did was ride my bike on Monday. I will crank it up over the weekend with some step aerobics and elyptical trainer and weights. Going to visit my daughter in CA next month and I DO need to lose some weight!
            Have a great day everyone, hope you all hit your goals and feel good!
            "PAIN IS JUST WEAKNESS LEAVING THE BODY!" USMC

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              FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

              Hi ALL firecrackers,

              Shelby...i know when i go shopping and buy af wine it just feels like im buying the real think (mind over matter thing) but it takes a lot longer to finish the bottle. i know the early days can be hard especially when there are event coming up(good luck). i found christmas time was very hard for me. shelby i still sometimes no all the time write notes down when im reading post because i just forget what i read sometimes.
              rustop... Its my sons last exams today so he will be finish school....lol (no way) he wants to go calfornia with some guys from the skatepark. Im sure he thinks money grow on trees. I said he will have to get himself a part time job during the summer, the good think is he does.
              East...being tearful..that the worst time when i crave for a drink the feeling seems to come from the stomach and works it way up to the chest and then i get tearful. i feel like im scared like as if your going for a interview for a job. I think im begining to learning how my feeling and emotions are. my therapist must be doing some right. I have to go and lay down and relax and it does past.
              Spiritgirl...dont be worry we have been there the main thing is you keep on coming back, because in the end it does work....how bout if yo say to your friend on your medication you cant drink.
              :welcome: doubter... well done 3 months AF wow!! :goodjob: pop in any time you want your always welcome be nice to get to know you.
              Kat20, 7gear bike its funny i dont use my gears much maybe that why im not going that fast.lol im sorry to hear about your sister i though they were more strict in the USA then in the UK...But im sure if it was here she would of been in jail for 6-9months..is she worried at all?
              Sweetpea... thank you.x I just did this old ladies shopping the lists was longer then my arm took me two hours, and she get meals on wheel . lol. dont know were she put it all she only small. bless her! Im of to the school now and then i have another job that will take me 2hours helpful i can get back on here afterwards to reply to other threads.

              To all firecrackers have a good day, actually its a nice sunny day today.

              Love

              Teardrop.x
              family is everything to me

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                FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

                Hi Crackers

                Well it's almost another week gone by can't believe it's Thursday!

                Have had big stress with the 2 foster kids we look after being TOLD by their older brother (who is a crack addict) that they HAVE to give him ?10 each for his birthday tomorrow - they only get ?2 a week pocket money..... Makes me so mad as it puts pressure on the kids and they feel they're letting him down - totally wrong! Aagh.

                Hey teardrop great advice to Spiritgirl I've pulled the "medicine" trick and people don't question it - worth a try.

                I find my worst triggers are when I feel I've not done good enough - can be about anything, me, the kids, the house, anything really and yeah I recognise the nervousness bit as well - thought it was just me tho'.

                The bike sounds great Shelby - keep saying I'm going to get back on mine (what with the cost of diesel in the Uk now costs me ?90 to fill my car....). Perhaps that should be another goal for me???

                Luv to all others to come and Sweetpea, Rustop, Eastender etc etc who've already been.

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                  FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

                  I have just lost a long post that I did not copy:upset:
                  My internet provider has change connections and I lose my connection eveytime phone ring! Arrrrrrrrghhhhhhhhhhhhh!

                  In short
                  Spiritgirl the good thing about being lost is there will always be someone to show you the way you are not hopeless in that case.

                  Doubter 3 months you could teach me so much .welcome and well done so far.

                  Kat Do they have a model that helps you take your feet off the ground, thats my problem!
                  Oh and dont go out in the rain you will start "melting":H
                  I have a sister with eating disorder, You cannot help those until they want to help themselves.

                  Sweetpea, I am hanging on to the motherhood rollercoaster,have a few more dips methinks!

                  Teardrop That place that you speak of is the solar plexus, seat of emotions. I get that feeling alot not just scared but angry joyfull choked anything!:l

                  Shelby ODAT is mega, but having a plan is good , after using the weight/health/driving/medication excuse it only takes half hour max, that questions about what you are drinking cease. No one cares what's in your glass after that, they are usually in ALs grip themselves by then. Good Luck try not to worry.

                  Hope this one gets through

                  Take care and Hi to anyone I have missed.

                  Eastx
                  In life we can live out our dreams its true
                  the one who decides,takes chances,makes choices is YOU.

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                    FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

                    Sorry,
                    Mad Mummy I missed you on this not my first post.
                    What a mean brother! You must be one hell of a mad mummy listening to that, I know I would be.
                    My daughters last bf was and still is on crack, has threatened me in the past,whilst protecting her,not y worse than what he did to his poor mother though! Those poor kids, hopefully their brothers behavior will send them on a different path, I do hope so.

                    Eastx
                    In life we can live out our dreams its true
                    the one who decides,takes chances,makes choices is YOU.

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                      FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

                      Hi Fellow Crackers,

                      I am going to bed after another successful AF day. However, this is EXACTLY where I was last week. 2 Days AF and then its - FRIDAY!!!!:alf: I planned a night at the movies with a friend tomorrow who is not a big drinker and will want to eat popcorn and diet pop which is great with me. So I think I have Friday covered. However, I have a bday dinner party to go to for a friend on Saturday. That will be a challenge. I thought about attending 5:30 church prior to dinner to put me in the right frame of mind instead of "party mode"... I will also get on MWO and spend a little time reading. You all inspire and motivate me. I hope I can make it through the weekend. It will be a major accomplishment.

                      Good night!! Sweet dreams to you all...
                      God gives his toughest battles to his strongest soldiers...

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                        FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

                        Good Night All Crackers! Just signed on to say hey and good bye to day 5 AF! Congrats to all who are doing well, my hugs to those who are struggling. Will check in tomorrow.
                        "PAIN IS JUST WEAKNESS LEAVING THE BODY!" USMC

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                          FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

                          Morning Crackers

                          :yay: I seem to be going through a really good upbeat spell at the moment so hopefully this weekend will be a constructive and energetic one :jumpin:

                          Rustop I am in better form thanks - it does help with beating AL and staying focused

                          Shelby why say in 5 words what 50 can achieve :H You are right though I do get carried away. I hate to miss someone out lol xx Well done on 5 days AF bring on day 6 YOU CAN DO IT

                          Teardrop day 54 GO GIRL GO you are getting close to that 60 xx

                          Mad Mummy it is really stressful when you have such a manipulative person around - how much access do you have to give the older brother - sorry I have no knowledge of how the system works. Anyway hope you have managed to sort things out - the main thing is don't let it get to you too much. You are doing an excellent job so keep that to the front of your mind and not let the situation set you off track :l xx

                          East hope the computer connection problem :hateputer: is not driving you too mad xx

                          Spiritgirl will be thinking of you at the weekend. It look like you are really thinking things through so strong vibes of support are winging their way to you YOU CAN DO IT xx

                          To all the Crackers and visiting Crackers :heartsnflowers: Hope you are all reaching your respective goals, HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND LET US KNOW HOW YOU ARE DOING - Amelia, barebones. betty boop, Blondie, Bookmum, CaptJBean, Cheebs, Chief, Cindi, Cowgal, Croft, cuckoosnest83, debruce, Determinator, Dexterhead, disapprovingcat Doggygirl, Dolphin, doubter, Dowjbw, Eastender, Elainey, Evielou, Evergreen, exteacher, Ezekiel37, Feeling Fortunate, Finally RN, Finski, fjones, flutterby, gabby!go, Gator,greeneyes, Had12many, headless1, Hope365, indiamike57, Izzie, Janice , Janka, Jessie, KAT20, LauraAnn, Leebo, Livewire, Long Road, Lucy Van Pelt, Lou, Lukalee, Maasai, Mad Mummy, Mattje, meditation mama, Me145, MissCheryl, Mitz, Noelle, Patricia, Paula, Rags, Raoul, Redgal, retteacher, Rosalind, Roz and sister, Ripple, Rudemama, Rustop61, Sante, Shelby, Shillner, Slightlysuze, Sparkey77, Spiritgirl , Start over, Suki411, Sunbeam, Teardrop, Veronica, Victory, Wakeupmum, whtwshman, Wooflet, wonderworld, Writeit, xEmx, 9 lives

                          Bye for now everyone Sweetpea xxxxxxxxxxxx
                          :flower: Keep strong and focused things do get better and you will find your happy :h

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                            FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

                            Hi Firecrackers,

                            Sweetpea have had huge problems with the new Aol internet provider. The company has been taken over and has changed its connection "wiring" I have spent over 4 hours this week talking to technicians, have got nowhere! Making my work increasingly harder and giving me a lot less free time to "speak " to you guys. When phone rings I am dissconnected, has never happened before this "new line". Techies are trying to blame my house phone wiring. Working perfectly well til now! Arrrrggggggg!

                            Hope you all have a great weekend, Take it ODAT and keep focused.

                            Eastx
                            In life we can live out our dreams its true
                            the one who decides,takes chances,makes choices is YOU.

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                              FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

                              Good morning Crackers!

                              I just wanted to stop in and wish everyone a happy Friday. It feels SOOOO good to wake up at 6:45 (on my own) feeling well rested and bright-eyed & bushy-tailed! What a wonderful difference from either a hangover, or simply the sluggish feeling that AL brings! Who likes to start the day with a headache?? Day 3 for me - weekend is here. Like I said on another thread this morning - failing to plan is planning to fail - so I have planned this weekend carefully (church before a dinner out, movies with a friend tonight, AF wine on hand, reasons to give friends why I can't drink).... I think I'm ready! I will be checking in.... Have a great day!! Much love....:l
                              God gives his toughest battles to his strongest soldiers...

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                                FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

                                Hi Crackers!

                                Another weekend up on us and my daughter is obsessed (again) with Big Brother.... and European Football starts on Saturday.... GROAN GROAN GROAN!

                                Further on from my moan about birthday presents yesterday I can report that big bro (crack addict) didn't even turn up to see his little bros, just sent his girlfriend to collect the dosh and promised he would call them yesterday evening - but you've probably guessed didn't. Poor little guys. Also their brother is the reason they can't live at home with their Mum cos it's not safe! Going to have a nice weekend though and try and make up for their family issues (as they call them).

                                Have a good one.

                                Bx

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