FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

[Eastender]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hi Firecrackers,
Sweetpea, As we discussed earlier I am in for the long haul, but for now 30 days for me.
Blow that whistle and all aboard!!!!!!
Take care Sweet will be thinking of you today:l

Eastx

[happydog]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hi ALL firecrackers,

Sweetpea....thinking of you lots. please let us know when your ready how you are feeling.

East... im aboard yesterday find it hard getting angry because i want that AL drink fighting against my own mind and body.

1day af for me wow had so many differents dreams last night that upset me and when i woke up everytime my head felt so heavy and body felt so weak just hate what AL does to me.....

I hope everyone is well and doing well.

Take Care ALL

Love
Teardrop.x

[lukalee]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

It's really good to see so many of us "old" firecrackers ready to jump aboard the Sweetpea Express. Old and new, let's do this together.

[57Shelby]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Boy, this must be the week for sadness and bad news. I failed on day 2 AF because I was totally distraught based on a conversation I had with my boss. He basically told me that patients are leaving the practice because of ME. He said several patients have told them that my way of speaking to them is demeaning. This is very, very disturbing to me, as I have always prided myself on great communication skills, having been in the dental/orthodontic field since 1979. I have done extensive work in communication workshops, and courses outside the dental field in communication skills.
Every time I go away on vacation, something goes ary. The same girl has covered my area at the front desk while I am away. It is totally ironic that on a day to day basis, everything with my performance is spectacular and my boss has NEVER had an incident to speak to me about anything other than being to work earlier (thanks to AL).
I am TOTALLY distraught over this. I have given my heart and soul to this practice. I am totally devastated that my job is on the line due to he and the co-worker making assumptions about my performance on one week out of the office. Why is it that there are NO complaints about my care and interactions with the patients while I am there? But, let me go away for a vacation and all hell breaks loose and I am all of a sudden a horrible person who treats our patients like crap. My boss believes that patients are leaving our practice because of ME!!!!!! I know that part of the problem lies in the lack of systems to process new patient through our diagnositic and consultation process correctly. I just approached my boss about this void in our practice two weeks ago and told him how I wanted to develop a better process.
Supposedly a patient complained about me while I was away on vacation. He won't tell me who, or what the problem was "because the patient asked him not to". Ok, well how the f**k am I supposed to defend myself or correct a problem if I do not know the circumstances?????
I am sorry I am just totally venting. I admit I have had a whole bottle of wine. I knew I was giving in to the demon to deal with this problem, but I am totally heart broken over this. I feel like he has ripped my heart out. I truly thought we had a relationship that would deal with all of this, but I actually heard him say to me, "If this doesn't change, I don;t know if you can work here anymore." As the practice Manager, I have heard him say that to other employees and I know what it takes for him to get to that place. I am totally amazed that he has put me in that category.
I have done everything to promote and grow his practice and assist him in being a better practioner. I feel that he has shown me his true, fickle colors today in our conversation.
The bottom line is that I will go back to work tomorrow and profess to want to do whatever it takes to better the practice. But, over the weekend, I will be getting my resume in order. He has lost all of my respect and trust.
There is alot more to the story, I am just sharing my barest of emotions.

I apologize for caving and drinking wine tonight. It totally proves my weakness. I was so totally devastated I just wanted to go to the bottle to take away the hurt and anger. I know this is not the most positive thing to do.

Tomorrow will be day 1 AF all over again............. Sorry for the long, bitchy, confusing post, but I just needed to vent.!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks!!!!!!
Love, Shelby

[jessie]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hallo Shelby,
I can understand your hurt. You've been stabbed in the back. Like you say, your heart ripped out. Smoke burn your eyes but people make you cry hey!
It's going to be difficult for you to get behind the truth - try to stay calm and just yourself. My mom used to say that she has never seen a storm that did not go away...hold on.
I'm sending you a big hug.

[57Shelby]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Jessie,
Thank you for your kind words. I feel a little better this morning having slept on it all. However, I still plan to find another job. I will go in today and hold my head high, knowing that I am good at what I do, knowing that things said about me have been blown out of proportion and that I will survive this and come out in a better place on the other side.
Again, thanks.

Shelby

[sweetpea]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

CHOOOO CHOOOO Sweetpea is back on the Express

:l Hi all you wonderful, wonderful crackers

I am back on the express day 2 AF and ready to roll. I am still feeling very tired and down but I have dusted myself down and ready to start chugging along ODAT

Suez, startingover, Erin, One2many, Teardrop, East, Lukalee, Jessie, MWO2, KAT, vlad and all the other caring folks that have posted or pm'd me thank you soo much for all your support and kind words and hugs - they have been a great help and I love you all for your kindness:l:l

I will be back in cheerleading mode soon I promise

Once I have got body and soul back together I will also respond to all the wonderful pm's I have had xxxxxxxx

Loads of love Sweetpea xxxxxxxxxxx

[lukalee]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

I am soooooooooooooo happy you are feeling better Sweetpea. We will all pull through together!!!!

[happydog]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Gald to see you posting sweetpea:l im on day2 af as well ....

sorry but have to catch up on reading shelby post.

Take care all new and old firecrackers.

Love
Teardrop.x

[happydog]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

shelby,
i have just read your post im so sorry for what you are going through and to think you have been there since 1979(and had no other complains before)
i agree how are you supposed to defend yourself if the patient complained about you. YOU should have every right to know what the complain was about. something is not right and is not fair in my books. Are you in a union? just in case... i know in the uk if there is a complain about a person they give you a written warning. they allow you 3warnings. it funny how it always when your on vacation, what is the girl like the one that covers your area at the front desk?.
Hope things are ok for you tomorrow thinking of you and stay strong shelby.:l

Take care
Love
Teardrop.x

[AMELIA]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hello to all Firecrackers! Sweetpea, so glad to see you are back on the sweetpea train. Teardrop, great to see you are back on the wagon as well.
To all the other Firecrackers.....keep on keeping on! Love to you all.
xxxx

[sweetpea]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Amelia you are the best thanks so much for your support:l

I don't normally post at this time of day because of family but today have got the chance

I can only say thank you thank you thank you every one for your support

I could not have survived without you all :l

Shelby will pm soon promise xxxxxxxxx just fragile at the moment

Lukalee xxxx

One2many xxxx

Will be back 2 morrow and hope I can be more supportive to the crackers love you all loads xxxxxxxxxxxx

Sweetpea :l:hxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[57Shelby]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Happy Humpday crackers!!!

I am feeling much better, however still feeling betrayed and sad. I talked to my boss today and told him I have been dedicated to this practice since day 1 and that will not change. I told him I have always operated out of what is best for the practice. I told him it was very difficult for me to hear the things he was saying yesterday, that for him to gather up all this blame and throw it in one basket from one isolated incident was unfair. I told him I did not believe that patients were leaving the practice because of me, and would like the proof that they were. He said the only way to get proof is to ask them. So, that tells me he has no proof or no solid evidence that anyone has left the practice because of me. I told him I want to pursue a new role that we had discussed the week before I left on vacation. I told him I was sorry for my mistakes and wanted to move forward on a positive note with the same level of commitment as before. I told him it was up to him where I stood in the practice.

I will still get my resume in order. I cannot continue to work for someone who is so easily swayed to believe such bad things about me after I have given my heart and soul to his practice. I have lost all respect for him and my co-worker that was involved.

I am sorry I have rambled on and on so...... I appreciate all your kind words of support. I am glad to see you all are doing well. Sweet pea, it is so good to hear you are doing better. Don't worry about PM'g me. Just knowing you are doing better is good enough. Take your time, get things straightened out for you and we will catch up.

Have a great day!!!

[rustop61]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hi Firecrackers

Have had visitors the last few days and more are coming so am afraid I will not get near the computer. Sweetpea, big cyber hug, you too Shelby. Everyone else big hello. Will catch up when I get the house to myself again.

Rustop

[sweetpea]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Just a quick Hi to say doing OK

Big hugs to everyone

Loads of love

Sweetpea xxxxxxxxxxxxxx:l:l