Newbies in Need ODAT - Tue.

[retteacher]

Hope all is well w/all newbies & oldbies. I'm busy but doing fine. I'm feeling more & more committed every day. I think it's because in "giving up" alcohol, I'm not sacrificing anything. I'm only gaining:
-self-respect
-freedom (the "My Headache" thread says it all)
-health
-happiness
-etc.
Janice said what I've experienced. When the time is right, something just "clicks." Don't give up...even if you slip, it's important to come back here & keep trying.

Love, Mary

[gonegator]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Tue.

Ok, well I will post again since I have accomplished "something" other than a hangover. This weekend, well Friday and Saturday was a disaster, party Friday night luckily within walking distance and big Football game on Satruday. However Sunday I felt pretty good so I went AF all day. Well, today I am working on day 3 and feeling pretty smug about myself. I am convinced that alcohol is like a bad relationship, the kind you are in with someone that you know you shouldn't be. You say it's over then go back, intoxicated by the sex or whatever, night of fun, and the next morning you wake up and feel terrible. You go a few days without then here comes that feeling again, ugh. The funny thing is that I believe the longer you stay away, the easier it is. We will see...........

[shelbysmiles]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Tue.

Very true Mary. I think it is hard for us to see what we are gaining because alcohol is like a good friend. I turn to it when I am happy, sad, bored, nervous...It is always there to support my mood. But it is such a toxic friendship!

I'm also on day 3 Gator. I'm feeling very anxious because I do not want to screw it up this time. I'll just take my 3 days today and deal with tomorrow, tomorrow!~

Olivia

[Janice]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Tue.

Hi to Mary & Gonegator, old friends & new. This thread is such a lifeline, it's like "home". 30 days and it feels great. I know I've been there before and lost it but this time, no matter what life throws at me, I know drinking is not the answer. I intend to stay abstinent next month - I've got a ball to go to early December so I'm also aiming for a chocolate-free month too - now we are talking about a challenge!!

Good luck everyone and remember, if you want it badly enough, take responsibility and commit to it - either just for today (ODAT), 3 days, 5 days, a week, a month - whatever it takes. Do it!! Do it for yourself! You are worth it!!

Janicexxx

[rustop61]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Tue.

Hi everyone

I agree with what you say Gonegator, the more AF time we can get under our belts the easier it will get. Reading the stories of the people who do succeed keeps me motivated. It really helps to know that there are so many others in the same situation and the support you receive on this site is second to none.

Rustop

[shelbysmiles]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Tue.

Funny Janice! I have a wedding to attend in December; so I may join you on the chocolate-free month. Of course I have already eaten my weight in Halloween candy!

Olivia

[cowgal]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Tue.

good job

Gator, I am jealous, 3 days, I am 1 behind you, trying for the LOOOOONG stretch of maybe a week or something at least...............BUT just today, one day at a time is alot less overwhelming!!

Yeah ditto to what everyone said, the longer it is out of my system, the better I will feel, and Mary I agree w/ all you opened with, we do gain alot (like a good night's sleep!?) Hopefully will get one soon!

BTW, My headache is gone Funny how a normal headache goes away, unlike a hangy-headache, that sticks around all day..............

MA:l :h

[happydog]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Tue.

hi every one,
Day 2 .There something about this site that makes me want to keep coming back. I just seem to learn some new everyday. That saying( i'm still learning and never too old)
Thanks
Teardrop.x

[cowgal]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Tue.

keep coming back!!

I know that is what they say at AA, so don't let that be a turn-off, but Teardrop, it is good that you do.....................I am on day 2 also, we can have a deal together as I do w/ someone else...........has worked yesterday, bet it will work today and the next but remember..............JUST TODAY:h :h Don't overwhelm yourself!! I do that and make myself CRAZY!!

Love

MA:l

[MyOwnWoman]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Tue.

Hi all,
I'm jumping in here... again. I had so many false starts, when I said I'd go for 30 days, or forever, then caved, so got shy about posting at all about my progress.
But I now have been drinking only 2 nights a week (down from like 8 or 9 nights a week, if you know what I mean). I feel great about that progress. I do though, want to cut out those two nights as well. I'm on a cleansing diet and should not be drinking a drop of alcohol (all sugars are forbidden for this cleanse to work). Also, when I drink I'm still polishing off a full bottle of wine (or sometimes a six-pack) - and have grown very weary of the nights of not remembering going to bed. (though it is still far less than what I drank daily the prior year!)

So, i'm checking in, and will try to do so daily (especially those weekend nights when I tend to drink).

Congrats to each of you, for big and small victories (though, when it comes to drinking, even those small victories - a single AF day - is big, isn't it?)

Hugs!

[evergreen]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Tue.

Hi all,
Really bad night last night . . . probably the worst that I have had in a while. It seems as if the harder I try the worst I do. It's like all or nothing with me. I am so compulsive. I either go AF or drink like it is my last chance which is probably what I did last night. Was going to start with the fireworks gang for a 30 day stint on November 5th . . . planning to bump that up to November 1st - nice even 30 day month. I am tired of doing this. I just need to get off this track!!!!
Evergreen

[MyOwnWoman]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Tue.

Evergreen, I can totally relate. But you are still here, which shows you still have optimism in you that you can do this. You will get off this track if you keep the faith in yourself and keep trying and trying as long as it takes. So many people here have shared their stories of trying and failing many, many times, and finally reached long lengths of time AF - and so many have posted that they never thought they could do it. But they did. We can too. We WILL do it. Just don't throw in the towel thinking it is hopeless.

[jaypee]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Tue.

MOW: THat's some much needed inspiration. For me, it's NEVER good to drink and there should never be a reservation to do so but feeling guilty and like a failure when I slip doesn't help any. And the fact that I'm here shows that at least I'm seeking some help/support. I know what it feels like to be hopeless but right now I feel optimistic.
Thanks,
-JP

[cowgal]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Tue.

hey all

Sorry to hear of whoever is having a hard time, evergreen etc................ we only have today, so you are here now, hang in there, you can do this!

love and support,:l :h

MA

[happydog]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Tue.

Hi everyone,
Hang in there evergreen ok. i know what you mean everytime i say im going to do something always( jinxs my self.) keep on coming back we are all in the same boat.
love
Teardrop.x