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[jcilia]

hi. I tried to do the moderation thing and was so inspired by the book. I bought all the supplements but only did it for a week. I figured I'm also on antideppressants and trying to lose a bit of weight that maybe it was too much to stop drinking also. But I'm pretty sad about how I look and not happy. How do I come home and find something elso to do other than having a wine?
josie

[meditation mama]

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Hi Josie..

Oh, I can so relate to that questions! My whole adult life (which started before I was an adult), was coming home to an adult beverage. it is my bewitching hour. 5-7pm. If I happen to be doing something between those hours, I am home free! It is weird. But, nevertheless, it is a daily occurance, that time anyway. I choose now to not look at it as a battle because that I will lose.

So, first, try and find something to do at that time. Second, find another beverage, sparkeling water with lime, I like AF beer (I wasn't a beer drinker, so this isn't a trigger), whatever works. If you can exercise at night, that is fantastic. COME HERE AND TYPE YOUR BRAINS OUT - I have to do that sometimes! It really only takes a few weeks, then you start really enjoying your evenings. It is retraining, so be patient with yourself - like poty training a puppy. You don't beat him, just keep putting him back on the paper..

Stay close and good luck!

namaste,

MM

[go2goal]

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EveryDay Wine

Hi - yep, back here again -

I haven't been to this site since July because life got too busy. I was working on Moderating, but seems it was daily Moderating - what I am now calling 'Everyday Wine' - so I am with you in starting AF today - not sure how long, no real plan, I just want to see what its like. My habit is 2-3 glasses of wine daily - not drunk, high functioning, no hangovers (that I notice anyway), get to work every morning, do my tasks..........but its getting harder....I thought because I'm getting older.......BUT perhaps if I go AF a few days, I will notice something different.

Any specific things others have noticed after AF? I have gone a day or two, but if I really look back honestly, its been a long long time since I even went AF for one week....at least 6 months, if not longer. I used to do it at Lent - to see if I could, but never lasted the whole time. I have said - "Anh, I don't need to quit all together, its just a couple glasses of wine around dinner...that's not a problem...." But maybe there is a connection with feeling not so energetic, aching bones, tired eyes, and low mood. If the wine has any part in creating that, then maybe that's a reason to try AF.

I guess I'll try for just today....no big commitments.....but honestly, that seems big just because it IS a different MO.

OK, I rambled......good luck and let's keep track of each other.

G2G

[jcilia]

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THank you for the replies and support - it is so nice to know that people read the messages and also understand! I will certainly keep empowering myself to try and look forward to keeping up with your progress also. Thanks,
JOSIE

[AMELIA]

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Welcome back Jcilia!! Just gotta keep on trying. Re read the book if you have to and post, post, post if you don't know what to do with yourself. x