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[universal]

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Alcohol free - took me a while to figure it out too!

[Miss October]

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Universal,

Oh my goodness. That makes sense. Thanks so much ! But I'm hoping to go:

WF Wine free )

[universal]

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Love the term!

[12many]

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Welcome miss O-

I lOVED your comment "Everynight became a Friday night". That is Exactly my story. I also have two teens (boys). We have had dinner at the dinning room table most every night with music. Occaisionally candles and sometimes a game while we eat. The kids love having company for dinner - they dig our family tradition too and like to share it. We hear about everyone's day and I keep the communication open with the boys which is soooo hard at this age. My wife gets all wound up cooking and it is a terrible end for her day, so I've been the family cook for years and I have always enjoyed it.

If only I didn't have to keep drinking after dinner...... but that's the truth right now. I'm no good at stopping, slowing down, nothing. Just charge to the finish line and waking up feeling crappy, big memory gaps and my new trick - bumps and bruises I can't explain - nice.

Right now I'm focussed on getting some AF (now you know the code LOL) days in and I'll take stock after that. I really miss the feeling of cooking for those 5 or 6 Fridays I was having every week. Like you, I'm cooking the quickest things possible to keep away from my trigger(s). I've spent the last couple of months proving to myself that I need to start off with 30 days AF, probably more, before I make my next plan. Your path may very well be different. That's one of the great things about MWO - customization is welcome. Take the good stuff from this site and their programa dn add in anything else taht helps YOU reach YOUR goals. Juts keep posting along the way - looking forward to hearing about your progress - ups and downs and in betweens.

:welcome:

Cheers,
Dave

[SportsGal]

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this site is super!

Hello all....
I made it to 3 AF days...because of those of you on this site. Thank you! I have confidence for tonight b/c work is gonna involve yoga instructor evaluation...can't really down a cold beer in a yoga class. I won't get home until late so I feel confident for tonight. My delimma will be Friday night dinner w/my partner. To drink in mod or not at all. Pressure here b/c I will have to "talk" about WHY I am not drinking...my be easier to just mod. Plus, my internal jury (not that they are a fine judge of anything when hops are involved) has not figured out if I should just stop or try to moderate....serverly.

12many, universal, miss o, rustop, I have benefited from your post...

I have yet to download the book and could not buy the supps that I wanted to last night so right now I am on the board and 3 days AF.

I had a great workout yesterday and plan to run a lunch today. Work was good yesterday and my employees are responding to my leadership ... which has nothing to do with this stuff, only that I felt really good about yesterday and me. Today is going well, I feel a bit anxious at the moment but only think it is b/c I want to be lazy and not run.

I will quit rambling...thanks to all of you.


SportsGal

[pepper]

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Sportsgal,

So glad to see you are still here and on 3 days AF! Woo-hoo way to go!

As for Friday night why don't you just say you're working on trying out a healthier lifestyle? I am going to a family function Saturday night where the alcohol will be free-flowing and I too am trying to figure out my strategy. To my advantage, my partner has given up alcohol in support of my sobriety. He does not have the same problem I do with stopping--he can take it or leave it...what a concept.

Keep up the good work and I will continue to send positive energy your way!
Pepper
Day 9AF

[Miss October]

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Hey 12Many aka Dave, Maybe we should cook eggs for dinner. Wine sure doesn't go with that )

SportsGal.....great job !! I know, Friday night is just around the corner and it's Pizza night for me..... Hope you run at lunch today. I ran 4 miles on the treadmill at lunch today. It felt great.

Rustop, thanks for the welcome. I don't know if that switch in our brain will ever turn off. That's the problem. Let's try and out smart our brain and show it who's boss !!

[Fresh Hope]

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My 18 year old acts 14 and creates lots drama...poor kid has health issues and we are getting it all sorted out... BUT...in the meantime family issues are always a good excuse to pour the wine.
I dream of being AF. I dream of losing weight and bloat, Like others I have read here, I am a high functioning person ...work out 3-5x week, yoga 2x week, run & own a successful business, nice house and garden, walk the dog... blah blah. It is all a facade.

THANK YOU to all who are so brave to post...so many of you are just like me and that makes me feel as though I can do this. I really thought I was the only person in their nice house bored and drinking wine every night. I don’t drink at parties (because what’s the point...can’t get tipsy in front of people so why bother having only 1 drink, save the calories and look so perfect and in control.....does anyone else do that? and I don’t drink before 7PM it is just that window 7 to 10.

Today my excuse is all ready...stressful night, child didn’t come home till morning and those pesky drops from the eye Doc means I can’t work ...lots piled up for tomorrow so of course I should have wine tonight.
Kinda pathetic but maybe, just maybe if I read here and get the chamomile tea going I can get through those 3 hours and then I will be to tired to drink.

[SportsGal]

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hang in there FH

Fresh Hope hang in there. I am sorry to know of your stress. You have a plan and that seems good. So far, that has worked for me...being cognizant ( did I spell that wrong ) of the need to be busy andb/c boredom is a challenge to my not drinking. So go with the plan for tea, know we are wishing you the best. Post tonight if you can from 7-10.

I thought of something funny...when I really committed to running and workingout seriously 7 years ago...I made the commitment to NOT work out at night & afterwork....b/c you guessed it ... it cut into my "drinking" time.....that is soooo sick. Of course I knew this then but seriously am just admitting it!

Pepper & Miss O thanks for the encouagement. I did get my booty out of the chair at lunch and went on a GREAT 4 mile run with one of my students. The 40 minutes flew by and I feel hopeful and more in control of my emotions. I am in charge of me, I will decide good and positive actions to determine my life path. Having the courage to join this board is renewing my spirit.

My wish for you all today is happiness, self-forgiveness and the courage to take one step at a time. Thanks to all for the energy and support.

Run to enlightenment!

SportsGal

[chefette]

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hi you guys. i am still new but i have had a good day. here is my story. i come from a familly that always had a drink at night as a wind down from the stresses of the day. my dad passed away when i was 13 from cancer. my mum had a nervous breakdown after that. it was a lot to cope with at a young age. my brother took it really bad and i had to look after everyone. i travelled a lot in my late teens, europe and austraia. i came home to much the same as before. i met what i thought was a really nice guy and we had a few good years together. then it got abusive. i kept it together when i got pregnant and after. i still did not drink regularly in those seven years. it was only after that i got into the habit of having a glass or two of wine at night to wind down after a stressful day of being a working single parent. after three years or being on my own i met my partner who i have to say has put up with the worst of me over the last 7 years. i have had periods where i have not needed to drink wine .but i have stress triggers that send me straight back to it. why can i not just be normal.:new:

[universal]

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Oh wow - this is so like my story as well - I know I have made some posts but haven't really told the story yet........

Drank a little in my early 20's in school - but when I graduated and got married the beer was flowing. My father was a big drinker of wine so everytime we were there, the wine went down. Then my husband had an affair with a friend, I had a baby and my mom passed away all within months of each other - after that the wine started flowing.........nightly...........at first it was a couple of glasses........then it got up to a bottle.....sometimes even more........

Same as the stories I hear on here - I wake up going "oh crap, who did I call, what did I do?"; unidentified drunken wounds.....scary stuff. And meanwhile I have a child here with me - what the heck am I thinking?????? Thank god nothing has gone wrong - I have done okay on my own for the past couple of months working towards moderation - I have done pretty well with that but would also like to do 30 days AF and then pick my plan of attack. I haven't been able to do that yet and am anxiously awaiting the supps in the mail.

Fresh Hope - I hear you - we are so good at the facade, aren't we? Some people suspect I drink more than I do when I'm in their prescence but it's funny how in public it's so much easier to control then when I am at home during what I call the "witching hour" (for me it's 6-10 pm).

Thanks to all of you for your understanding and support - I love this site and I really hope we can all become great supports for each other during this journey. Unfortunatly for me tonight will not be an AF night - I hope to keep things in moderation but I had a crap day at work, my child is at her dads, and I need that glass of wine to calm the nerves. I'll chat with you guys tomorrow.

Best wishes guys.

[universal]

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Frick, I just had that excuse ready didn't I........................oh god.......

[chefette]

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i luckily had a good day today. even though i fell out with my partner about my drinking last night. again!!!!!!! nothing new there. i hope you find the strength to make a go of it. we are all here for you:l

[Miss October]

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Fresh Hope, My bewitching hour is 5:00 to 8:00. I'm right in the middle of it now, drinking a can of ice tea with a straw. I sure do look funny !! Keep on exercising. It's the best thing for us, and when we cut down or stop the alcohol, we lose the weight, because we are not consuming all those empty calories. I'm going to join you with a cup of tea tonight. Sound good ?

SportsGal - great job doing out for that run. I'm sure you feel so much better. Let's run together sometime even though we are a few hours different in time. I'm in N.J.

Chefette, Your story is so sad.....I hope we can take away some of the stress in your life. Keep reading and posting. I hope you have a good night tonight.

Universal, thanks for telling us your story.....it sounds like we are all related.....those times we don't remember at night are called "blackouts". That is why we all need to get in control somehow..........and I think talking to each other about anything at anytime is going to help. Good luck to you tonight. Our prayers are with you.

[IrishGirl]

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Love the wine

Hi all - I feel like I've found a new family! Yes, it's the wine and even though I've seen the damage it can do I still love it. Would love to have a less obsessive relationship with it though.

Loved the talk of the "witching hour"

For me it's 8:00 to 11:00.