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[Roz]

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Hi Ms.Oct.
You have come to the right place. You're going to find out that you are not the only one drinking wine to excess. I'm 51 and your story is VERY familiar to me. I've been here since August and have discovered that this quit drinking thing is a work in progress.
WELCOME!

[chefette]

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my witching hour is 7 till 10. i will be posting tonite because unfortunately i will be home alone and the temptation for that glass of wine will be huge. my partner is away fishing and my daughter is going to my mums for the weekend. boredom is a terrible thing:sigh: finding this site is the best thing that could have happened to me. its going to be a long haul but this support i think i might just make it.:thanks:

[satori]

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Hiya folks - havent "met" some of you so
Hi October, Fresh, Universal, Chefette, Roz

Just to reassure you all that you CAN do something about your drinking!

Stay with us here - post often and read and absorb as much information asyou can - and if you diligently work at it, that "switch" DOES turn off.

When I arrived, I wanted to gain control - but could not imagine life without any alcohol, so I moderated for about 4 months - reasonably successfully - with a few slips.
But - to be honest - I found that it was taking just as much emotional energy and effort to keep the moderate drinking under control as it was to function while drinking uncontrolledly.

I believe by coming here every day, the idea of being able to control my drinking, and the idea that there WAS another way to live finally worked its way into my thick head!

After about 4 months, I just woke up one day just KNOWING I didn't want to drink any more. Really deep down KNEW I had had it with the hassle, stress and negative cr*p that comes with drinking for the likes of us - who can't stop at just the one!

I shortly after that signed up for a 30 day AF challenge to see if I could do it now that I felt different about things.

That was 4 months (121 days) ago.

Oh I still get the odd craving - sometimes STRONG - but they soon pass.
I know they are just thoughts - and if I just ignore them they will go away.

But, I would say 98% of the time, I do not even think about alcohol at all.
It no longer enters my head as a possibility when considering what I would like to drink.

Going AF was the best decision I ever made.
Life is SO much better. And even MORE fun AF.

So keep on working at it - Oh and for all you fitness fanatics out there - I didn't use any medication or suppliments (Well I took Kudzu for three days one time).

Keep on Keeping on - you CAN do this!

Love

Satori
xxx

[SportsGal]

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quickie

hey all this is gonna be quick....

I made night 4 and feel great.....I will post later, I am off to a boring meeting. I am so glad to have found this site...THANK YOU ALL ... THANK YOU ALL ... I am so blessed....

[chefette]

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thank you for the support. as a newbie i still have to think about the supplements. i have written them down and may buy them. any other advice is much appreciated. on my own right now and feeling lonely. my partner does,nt realise how hard this is.

[chefette]

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went out tonight. and had a couple of drinks. ended up home alone again. why am i surprised:upset:

[universal]

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I had a couple of drinks tonight and had a rough night last night as well. It's a struggle and I have promised myself that tomorrow will be AF - it's funny how easy it is to find the excuses, rough day at work, my child was giving me a hard time.......and so on and so on..........but I know that with the support we can do it.
Chefette - know that you are not alone........stay close and keep posting - I have been on this site for only one week and I already feel supported knowing that there are people out there who understand and are not judgemental. We're all here for the same reason. Thanks for telling us your story - and you're not alone - you have all of us. I'm glad you came online tonight.

[chefette]

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good evening guys. satori, universal and everyone else. feeling positive today. satori, read your story, makes me feel like there is hope for me. it wil be a struggle but i will get there in the end. i just need to recognise my triggers and deal with them in a better way. i have had many af days but i need more. i love my partner dearly and my daughter as well but it is coming up to xmas and i always seem to freak out at this time of year because my dad passed away on xmas eve 1981. i know this seems an awful long time ago but it still affects me. i was always really close to my dad and ever since i have felt really alone at this time. my mum loves me i know but i always feel she prefers my brother to me. that sounds nuts i know but that is the way i see it

[chefette]

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are there any british sites like this? i love all the input and advice from u guys but u are not in the same time zone as me. i wiil be here always because ther is always someone who needs help apart from myself. i wiil contitue to post reguarly. i have met such a wonderful bunch of people. u guys are great. at last someone who knows how i feel:thanks:

[Gargykath]

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Hi Chefette and everyone

Welcome from a fellow Scot. :welcome: In answer to your question I did find a site in the UK but it wasnt as good was a bit cliquey. I have been on this a few months now and find everyone welcoming and friendly.

Do get your point about the time zones esp when in chat can be weird and makes for late nights if I am on before bed as most people seem to be over the pond !

Best wishes

Kath

[Gargykath]

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Also wine is lovely lets face it......

I had a bottle last night of red with my friend - my excuse was was to cure a cold....oh well. Have been pretty good all week though. Had a glass of wine with lunch on Sunday and that was it and two glasses with dinner on Thursday.

[chefette]

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good evening to a fellow scot. i hope u are doing good. have a good day tomorrow. i will post tomorrow night. satori, thank u for your support, i think u will be a good friend:l

[Chloe1]

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:new: Reading your post helped me this evening. I can relate in numerous ways.

[dexterhead]

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Miss O: I have loved reading what you, and everyone else, has to say. Like you I am a bigtime wine lover ... and oh, who has got stories about trying not to let anyone know about all the empty bottles .. I have an upper flat, share the recycling bin with the people below and I am SO afraid of them wondering why I fill the thing up so quickly .. damn. Has everyone here read Caroline Knapp's "Drinking: A Love Story." She also loved her wine .. it broke my heart when I learned she died of lung cancer because I felt like I knew her.

[Miss October]

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Hi Everyone,

Hi Chefette, I don't think you ever get over lossing a loved one, especially around the holidays. I pray for you. I also wanted to tell you to that my granderfather came right from Scotland. So I'm part Scotish.....and part Irish, Welsh, and German.....and somehow, that equals .... American ) So right now you are probably sleeping.....It's almost 9:30 pm here, so it's about 3:30 am your time. I hope you sleep well. You take care of yourself and your daughter . Love, Miss Oct.

One more thing - SportGal: Awesome Job. I'm so proud of you. I need to follow suit.

Hi Universal, you hang in there. We are here for you !! Your'e mood is confident, so that is great. I'm waiting to change mine. Starting to feel somewhat better, after 3 days of (AF, WF, BF) or whatever during the week, and a little control on Friday & tonight (but control takes too much work....is it worth......tonight yes !

OK, those who are new to the sight. Here are the acronyms:

AF - Alcohol Free ( I just learned that)
WF - Wine Free ( My idea)
BF - Beer Free ( just made that up)

Hi Roz, Thanks so much for the welcome. Would love to here your story. Private email if you prefer.

P.S. Santori, thanks forjoining this thread. I love what you have to say. I need some time to think and respond to you. Just one question, Is that your picture or is that a role model....