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[elainey]

AF/3 DAYS, would like encouragement

ELAINEY / CHECKING IN

HELLO EVERYONE,

JUST CHECKING IN AND CHECKING UP ON EVERYONE THAT POSTED. I MADE IT THROUGH DAY 3 AND AM ONTO DAY 4....YES! I SLEPT A BIT BETTER LAST NIGHT, AND KNOW THAT WILL MAKE THE DAY BETTER. WISHING YOU ALL A GOOD AF DAY!

SKYDANCER, HOW R U DOING?

FINDING ME, AT TIMES I FIND THE ISOLATION HARD, BUT FOR THE MOST PART PREFER IT THAT WAY FOR NOW. BUT YOU HAVE A FRIEND HERE.

DB2FROMALA, THERE IS A LIQUOR STORE 10 MIN AWAY FROM MY HOME. WHEN THE CRAVING WORKED ON ME, I WOULD GO. SO TAKING IT EVEN AND HOUR OR 2 AT THE TIME IF NEED BE MAKES GREAT SENSE.

CLOUDJOCKEY, CHECKING IN ON U, HOW R U DOING?

JIGGER, YOUR POST HIT VERY CLOSE TO HOME WITH ME. AS YOU, MANY OF MY EMBARRASSING MOMENTS HAPPENED WHILE I HAD ALCOHOL IN MY SYSTEM. MY GIRLS R 17 & 14 , BOTH IN HIGH SCHOOL AND GOOD STUDENTS (THANKFULLY). THEY R VERY MUCH INVOLVED IN HIGH SCHOOL ACTIVITIES, SO THEY R NOT HOME IN THE AFTERNOON AND EVENINGS AS THEY USED TO BE. I FEEL OUR RELASHIONSHIP WILL IMPROVE AS WELL ONCE I GET MYSELF STRAIGHT.
I DO HAVE SOME SMALL BROKEN CAPILARIES ON MY FACE, WHICH R FROM DRINKING I AM SURE. AND SOME RED PATCHES ON MY SCALP THAT ITCH. MY MOTHER HAS HAD SEVER PSORIASIS FOR YEARS. HAS TRIED ALOT OF CREAMS. SHE IS NOW ON ENBREL AND THAT HAS DONE VERY VERY WELL FOR HER. THERE MAY BE AN OVER THE COUNTER CREAM THAT WOULD HELP YOU. I WILL ASK HER WHEN I TALK TO HER AGAIN.
AS FAR AS THE SNICKERING AND LAUGHING, I UNDERSTAND YOUR FEELINGS. WE LIVE IN A SMALL TOWN, I FIND IT VERY HARD TO GO SHOPPING OR OUT TO EAT. I THINK THAT BEING AF I CAN BETTER DEAL WITH MY SITUATION. HANG IN THERE. WE CAN OVERCOME!

EASTENDER, WAS WONDERING HOW LONG AF FOR YOU NOW?

FINDING ME, HANGING IN THERE?

DREAMBELIEVER, KEEPING WHAT YOU SAID IN MIND.....SOBER I CAN BE THERE FOR MY FAMILY.

SICKGIRL, HOW R YOU DOING, LET US KNOW.

SWEETPEA, SOUNDS LIKE YOU R DOING GREAT, KEEP IT UP!

RUSTOP, I LOVE THAT NAME!

[Eastender]

AF/3 DAYS, would like encouragement

Hi Elainey,
In answer to your question 31 AF days today.

[fjones]

AF/3 DAYS, would like encouragement

Hi All, I have been in relapse for 4 years - had 19 years before but life stress got the better of me and I started drinking again but have paid the price on more than one occasion. I never know which way it will take me but this last month the paid of withdrawal is really tough. I didn't do rehab before and I don't want to do it know and the pain lessens after day 3 and the feeling of depression lifts but today I am hurting quite a lot and feel exhausted. Thanks all for being there - I want to be sober over Xmas not topped up drunk and numbed. Hang on in there but I a struggling with the reality of where I have been this last four years and I quickly go into fear which is a great trigger for the alcohol to take the egde off the anxiety. Will check in again later because Friday night has become a regular binge night for me and I need two days under my belt.

[Wasboss]

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The way I figure it is you are in the boxing ring punching away at the big guy that you cannot see, sometimes he hits you and knocks you down, but from what I am reading you just keep getting up and having another swing. Well good on you for having another go and another and one day your going to hit that guy so hard that he will go down and not you. Dont give up we want you to succeed just keep posting and listening to your supporters.

[Cinders]

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fjones,

Yes. Hang in there. You know from past experience that the first few days are the roughest and then by day 10 you are coming out of the long battle.

I agree. I absolutely do not want to drink this holiday season. I want to be sober and happy with my family and remember every wonderful stressful minute of it!!

My grandkids should not see Granny get drunk ever again!!

Let's shoot for sobriety this month together one day at a time.

Cindi

[PAMN]

AF/3 DAYS, would like encouragement

In good company!

Hello all, I've visited a few threads and feel like this one is a good fit for getting to know some folks. I am on day 14 AF. I started Campral on day 5 and it seems to help. In that 14 day period I have attended a wedding, went to a small party with friends (who ALWAYS drink wine together), and made it through Thanksgiving, all without a drink. I am proud of myself, and so is my husband, but every single day around 3:00 pm I start thinking about getting off work and associate that with happy hour (for me, happy "hour" was from 5:30 to around 8 EVERY SINGLE evening). Someone earlier in this thread used the term "witching hour" - that is such a perfect description of it! 5:00 to 8:00 is my danger zone so I have been trying to keep busy during that time.

It was SO hard to tell my doctor I had been drinking daily for 5 years. He was very supportive and even asked me what I thought "triggered" my drinking. I'm 42 and both my parents died 5 years ago (6 months apart) at the same time my husband's Crohns disease came out of remission. I had always been a heavy "social" drinker, but those events were the trigger and I allowed myself to become a daily drinker to deal with the stress. My doctor did an EKG and blood work and all is normal (well, slightly high cholesterol - need to exercise and eat better!), so I am VERY lucky I have not yet done damage.

I appreciate any support and advice anyone can give here and look forward to talking with all of you. :thanks:

[JIGGER]

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Need Support!!

Hi all,

well, I went 4 weeks AF then, at about Christmas time I started drinking again. First just a little bit, then went 3 days AF and have been up to my usual drunk self the last week or so. I am back here now and will make it this time. As all of you know, it is depressing and I am so mad at myself. The people here are amazing, it is how I could go those 4 weeks. I have not slept well at all and now I am getting sick. That damn booze ruins every aspect of your life. My house is a mess, terrible financial situation, my husband is a worse drunk than me, feels like evrything is falling apart and I wont be able to fix it. Does anyone else ever feel like everything is falling apart because of drinking? I have to do this for me and for my kids, I just feel so stupid!!! I love reading posts from Satori, he is so positive. I cant wait for this monkey to get off my back, and I can enjoy life like he does. Well, I am ready to be AF and am starting now. Day 1 AGAIN!!

:upset:

[livingfree]

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I'm new here also. I've been reading the posts for a couple of weeks now, and KNOW this is what I need. I received my supplements and CD's but have only read the book. I stopped drinking Jan. 1st - and am on day 9 AB! I quit smoking on Nov. 28th and am still on the patches. Yes - I obviously have a very addictive personality, and I don't mean that as an asset!! But, I honestly believe the addiction to smoking, drinking & overeating all come from the same crazy problem in this disfunctional brain! So - to you elainey, you CAN do it with out the support supps etc, until you can afford them. I'm on day 9 AB after drinking EVERYDAY many years - with only once in my life that I quit for 8 months. (10 years ago). I haven't used anything in this program yet - but just the posts have helped me. You can do it! My husband also drinks and is able to "control" it. But I can't. I just want more and more. What scared me into stopping now is that I started drinking in the mornings about 10 months ago. I was always only a evening drinker. This has shaken me to the core - so I know I have no choice but to STOP. I can't imagine I'll ever be able to be a Moderate drinker, so I am setting the goal of AB. I'd love to think I could "control" it - but I'm such a compulsive personality. I plan on implementing the whole program when I can get the topa. The great thing about quitting smoking and drinking at the same time is that you don't know which is causing the withdrawal - and for me that takes the fear down a notch - as I know I won't die from nicotine withdrawal (I might strangle anyone who gets near me, but I won't die!) But I do have some fear issues with alcohol withdrawal. But day 9 and I've survived! Hasn't been easy - but with each passing day - I'm gaining confidence. You will too. Let's all make it - we can do it one minute at a time.

[Cinders]

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LivingFree and Jigger,

:welcome: to both of you. You posted some poignent posts.

Keep up the "good" work because it is so important to stay AF if that is what you need to do.

Download RJ's book and read, post and read.

I am so glad you are here and hope in some small way all of us can help you.

Love,
Cindi

[livingfree]

AF/3 DAYS, would like encouragement

Jigger - I am new here, (as you'll be able to tell when you read that I just posted to an old post - ugh) but I wanted to tell you your 4 weeks was not in vain. For one thing it's a reminder to all of us here that this is a one day at a time process. Also - think of the 4 weeks AF as a "test run" to see if you could do it. Now you know you can - so let the day 1 be the real race. You are living proof that this can be done for 4 weeks. Now you can do it for another 4 weeks. I know I'll be reading about your success. Keep posting. I'm encouraged that you are not giving up. Thanks.

[Theme2be]

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:welcome: I wish to extend warmth your way as you ease into each freeing moment.
I, as well am 3days AF and am using suppliments. The Kudzu is effective I am finding.
I started before but as soon as I ran out I started sloshing em' down until .....

I am so honored to be amongst folks like yourself and send you wishes for peaceful moments, esp, if you are coming here, it is unavoidable.

This is a safe, lovely and kind place to bring your attentions to in the good and the not so good moments.

Its all good,

Karen:h

[Skye650]

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Hiya!!

I know exactly how you feel, especially being on Day 3 not sure what the hell it is with numbers 3,4 & 5... but once you are past these days things start to look up, so please, please hang in until then, you know you can do it!!! and dont let your mind play tricks with you, pour yourself some hot tea or grab a juice, in the end you will be able to look back and pat yourself on the back and show the others that you can indeed be good to yourself!!!!

[indiamike57]

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Hi, all. I, too quit recently. Not an everyday drinker but a binger and I hated every minute of it. (wine only) I've embarrassed my children, etc and just felt useless, embarrassed and utterly depressed. :upset: I am now working on Day 9AF and finding it a relief. No using meds but taking Sam-e, and the usual vitamin/supps - multi, fish oil, calcium, etc.....oh, and watching everything I eat for healthiness. I feel sooooooooooooo much better! With a high stress job, I have no choice anymore or I am at risk of losing it for I know I am not working up to my usual self.

Just fyi - I did quite well for years but my time in Afghanistan, Jordan and Iraq brought PTSD and I know I returned to it for relief from the pain. :argh:

Tonight though, I will be with my girls, helping the eldest move (first time away on her own since college) and will be sober, engaged and remember every minute of it! It is do-able....just keep trying!!!! Every day AF is a plus. :thumbs: Erin

[Not Happy Hour-Happy Life]

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JIGGER;229935 wrote: Thanks Finding Me,

I do have the red dry patches and round spots that itch. It seems to be spreading however, after a binge of drinking it was much much worse, therefor I thought alcohol related. It matches some of the symptoms of both psoriasis and eczema.

I am so happy to have some new friends here that will support me in this struggle when either no one know, cares, or knows how to help. I will too support everyone as well. It is amazing to have this site.:thanks:

Welcome, Jigger! By any chance, have you tried liquid Vitamin E? You can get it in health stores, and it's very potent, about $10 for a little bottle, but well worth it!

We are glad you're here!
:welcome:

[Prindi]

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elainey
I too am new here, and still waiting for my supps and topa, so every day is a struggle. I really do not know what it would be like to be AF for more than 2 days, which is my tops in many years. I am quite a private person, and want no part of sharing this with the few friends I have. HOWEVER, this is the most wonderful thing I have found. We are all in the same situation, and know so much about how each others daily lives go, even without ever meeting. I had a very stressful November and December, so by Christmas, was drunk all day. I feel so ashamed about this wonderful "gift" I gave my family.
I am very lucky, though, my husband is not a drinker, but is extremely supportive of this fight I am taking on.
Finding me, I think you are right, what an encouragement it would be to stay in touch with a group that are all at about the same stage.