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[mya]

72 sober and last night b/c DH had to work late i bought a bottle, drank, cooked dinner, wrapped presents with my son and then fought with DH - he is on to me which he probably has been for a long time but this is the first time he said anything. Just bought the download version on the book, i'm kind of afraid to tell DH b/c you know the whole thing i need to quit and then they say good and you never do he will probably just think she is just saying that again.
What do I tell him to believe me I need help

[jane jane]

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This is a familiar scenario, mya---oh, yes, I've been there/done that! Probably best not to talk too much about it, or make too many promises---just let actions speak for themselves.

[GodsGirl]

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Mya, I understand so well what you are saying...I know the scenario well. I am new to this site too and hoping for success. There is nothing you can say. Trust will only come with time and actions. I think that is the worst thing I gave to alcohol was the trust of my husband it hurts to the core the look that he gives me when I tell him that I have or am going to do something and I see that "Yeah sure whatever" look in his eyes...Hang in there and come for help...we can help each other.

GG

[cowgal]

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Mya

I've been there/done that too................mine just likes when I drink (which is worse)until I get bad........then he wants me to stop, BUT................he won't!! I wouldn't promise too much to too many people right now, esp w/ holidays approaching, maybe make it a New Year's Resolution,lots of people do that!??

My husband thinks this is a cult and a dangerous place to be, BUT he stands behind me sometimes while I type(last night I decided I am not posting from home anymore, not safe, ok, nobody will worry, they hear and see enough of me in the daytime .............probably totally sick of my shit by now:H :H !!!


Anyway, it is a tough nut to crack, just stick around and hopefully things will get better, they have for me

MA

[trixietrack]

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yep I agree with Jane. that is what I have done. like they say around here ODAT. one day at a time.
the guilt from failure is not good for your soul. take it one step at a time.
it has taken me almost a year to achieve my goal.
good luck
Trix

[trixietrack]

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cowgal;242802 wrote: I've been there/done that too................mine just likes when I drink (which is worse)until I get bad........then he wants me to stop, BUT................he won't!! I wouldn't promise too much to too many people right now, esp w/ holidays approaching, maybe make it a New Year's Resolution,lots of people do that!??

My husband thinks this is a cult and a dangerous place to be, BUT he stands behind me sometimes while I type(last night I decided I am not posting from home anymore, not safe, ok, nobody will worry, they hear and see enough of me in the daytime .............probably totally sick of my shit by now:H :H !!!


Anyway, it is a tough nut to crack, just stick around and hopefully things will get better, they have for me

MA

don't mean to change the subject around here, but why does your H think it's dangerous around here?

[cowgal]

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he's just paranoid??

I think he is just paranoid, says "big brother" can see everything , and I say too much about myself(which I probably do, but I am VERY open....................what can I say???) Need guidance in that department

MA:h

[trixietrack]

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there is nothing but love in it's purest form and compassion around here.

[Accountable for Me]

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:welcome: mya & GodsGirl!

I wanted to welcome you both here to MWO!

[Akinna]

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I wanted to welcome you too also..