Middle-aged and just starting

[RavenGirl]

Hello everyone,

Hope you will be okay with me.

I'm not sober tonight...but so excited at the prospect of getting my life together. Please don't turn me away. Just ordered the book today after running across the website by accident today at work. Have known for a loooooong time that I have a problem with alcohol. Can't wait to get the book and become as successful as you are at beating the "beast." Please be patient with me, because I plan on using as much beer (my weakness) as I can between now and the time I receive the book.

Just can't imagine living without my beer. But still excited about living without it.

Is there anyone out there who is almost hitting the big 50?

I can't believe I've wasted this much of my life. Is it too late for me? Would really like to hear from some of you middle-aged warriors. :thanks:

Will post more tomorrow when I'm more sober. Really excited about this MWO.

See you tomorrow,
RavenGirl

[HopefulNow]

Middle-aged and just starting

RavenGirl,

It is definitely NOT too late, and you have DEFINITELY come to the right place.

You'll find a lot of support here, a LOT of people in very similar situations.

Keep the faith, and check in regularly. I think you'll be glad you did.

Glad you're here.

-HopefulNow

[dexterhead]

Middle-aged and just starting

Raven: many here are around your age and older. . I am 44 so also sick of wasting so many years of my life!!! Welcome and stick around!!!!! It is a truly amazing site .. we'll talk more later.

[myra]

Middle-aged and just starting

Raven

Welcome. No time is more perfect than now to start. I will be 50 this year. Aging is not for wussies.

You will find tons of support here. These folks are the absolute best.

[Cinders]

Middle-aged and just starting

Raven,

I am in my 50s. (Okay, I admitted it!!) LOL

More importantly, there is no time better than NOW to work on being AF.

No time.

It doesn't matter if you are 19 or 100.

I so want to go to my grave sober. Period.

I hate being an alkie and have been sober for MOST of the time on MWO. I have had some spectatcular relapses but those don't matter.

Before joining MWO, I was drunk every single night.

Today, I can count on ONE hand the nights I have been drunk since Sept. OMG!!

Please stay with us and work on it. It is difficult, it is fun, it is exasperating and it is easy. All these things rolled into one.

Hang in there, read the book, please, and figure out what YOU need to do to get to where YOU need to be. 50ish or not.

Love,
Cindi

[laura anne]

Middle-aged and just starting

Welcome RG. I'm 48 and looking forward to living the second half of my life sober. I've heard it can be a lot of fun!

[Winefree]

Middle-aged and just starting

Hi Raven....hey, I'm in my mid fifties and still don't feel middle-aged!
Just started here in Nov, have good days and bad, but feeling positive in this struggle.
Welcome to the site.

WF

[iowegian]

Middle-aged and just starting

You'll be surprised at how many there are around here with 20+ years of problem drinking. I'm turning 48 next month myself, and have been an alcohol addict for at least 25 of those years. And not everyone is exactly a long term success story, either. (including yours truly). You may find that you try and fall down a few (or alot of times) times, or you may may be one of the ones who fly free on the first try. I hope so for your sake you do. But if you fall down get back up, Never, Never NEVER (did i mention never?) quit trying if you should fall down. People do not fail, they give up. As long as you are trying, you have NOT failed. Everyone is here for you and there ALOT of good people here.
Take care and welcome,:welcome:
Iowegian(aka Morgan)

[abby1]

Middle-aged and just starting

Raven,
As I approach the nifty fifties (have just a few more to go), one thing that inspired me is having a daughter in her early twenties. I knew in my heart that I never wanted to be remembered as the "drunk mother of the bride". Besides other circumstances I knew I had to quit drinking.... it took sometime. I thought I could moderate but failed miserably at moderating. I believe setting goals for yourself to overcome any drinking issues you might have helps, be it moderating, 30 days af, 60 days af or giving up alcohol completely.
Welcome to MWO and take care.
Abby

[Bessie]

Middle-aged and just starting

Welcome welcome! It IS exciting! It is also daunting and frustrating and difficult. Well it can be. But what tops those feelings is the enormous sense of achievement, of being true and kind to yourself. Of beating your problem. These boards are a wonderful source of help and support - keep coming back. See you around.

Bessiexxx

[rustop61]

Middle-aged and just starting

Hi Raven and welcome.

I second what all the others have said. This is a great place and there is loads of support. Lots of us are around the same age, I'm 46 and want better for the remainder of my life. I have not managed to go completely AF since joining MWO but instead of drinking every single day I have been AF 90% of the past 4 months. I am currently working on going 30 Days AF but am taking it one day at a time( ODAT). There is a great thread over in newbies ODAT started every day where lots of us sign in, come join u.

Rustop

[Finding My Self]

Middle-aged and just starting

Welcome Raven - you've found a great place....funny how we stumble upon here in the, "When the student is willing the teacher appears" kind of way! Happy learning!

And, you know, this often has me thinking - all the 'stuff' in the media about drinking....and yet, perhaps it would be better if 'they' just said, "Women of 40-45 just LOOK OUT....you are heading for a seriously dangerous time; X% of women find they are in the grips of alcohol addiction by 50......" I'm beginning to think it would be scary to see how high a figure 'X' actually is! X is a high one here! You are so not alone! B**** hormoans (!) fighting back....their change about now does change our ability to deal with alcohol in our systems - proven. It's just that some just cut back naturally and some aren't affected...but some of us, well, hmmmmm. Never mind! You're here!

The very best of luck and courage to you
Love FMS xx - jolly old (not!) 50 last year!!!!!

[debruce]

Middle-aged and just starting

Welcome Raven,
I am turning 50 this year also. I am 8 days AF and really feeling good about it, and also feeling really good in myself. So clear headed and full of energy!! Won't say that it is plain sailing, but want to remember the rest of my life, seeing as the first 50 years are a lot of blank days/nights that I don't remember.
I am having the biggest 50th and I am going to have a blast and remember it all!!!!
Good luck

[Suzanna]

Middle-aged and just starting

Hi Raven, welcome to MWO! You would never be turned away, you are one of us! I will turn 50 this year, and I am aiming for 30 days af right now. After that, I shall see. It was not smooth sailing and there were falls along the way but nobody ever gave up on me, nor will anybody give up on you either. :welcome:

[Suki411]

Middle-aged and just starting

Welcome Raven. Yesterday was your lucky day......when you stumbled across MRO. No matter how you found us, you struck gold!

Age? 50? Oh yeh, been there, done that. Won't tell you when!

Going to quote my grandmother AGAIN. She always said that age was mind over matter. If you don't mind, it don't matter. Think I must have been in a coma, don't know where the time has gone. I know one thing, I'm not going to waste another day!

So glad you are doing this for yourself. Read and post, often. There are so many wonderful people here, full of unconditional, nonjudgmental support who have so much to teach us!
:welcome: