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[Not Happy Hour-Happy Life]

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Happy Saturday afternoon, Froggin!

First off, you didn't fail- as Mickey Rooney says,
You always pass failure on the way to success.
If my calendar is right, you're saying that you drank last weekend, and then started over AF on Monday, right? Well, today is Saturday, and you CAN do something about Saturday nights. Yep, Friday night is over- can't change it- until next Friday. So, you have 6 days to find a new Friday night plan. Figure out your triggers from last night~ did you join the gang at Happy Hour? :groupluv: Go to dinner? Or relax at home and tell yourself that you deserved one (the last one is me )....

The experts here say to get 30 days AF free before moderating, and I don't know if you want to moderate or stay AF, but hey, you have time to decide. Stay around, girl! When I read your first post, I thought that maybe I wrote it in my sleep..... we are on this journey together.

We're here, Frogging! :l

[greeneyes]

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Froggin, You didn't fail. You're doing good, it's just a blip.

[janka]

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Hey Frogging, you've made loads of progress!!! Look at your successes and not your mistakes! j

[betty boop]

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Frogging, only just found this but wanted to say how proud I am for the AF days that you managed. Hope that you remember how good you felt ....

Get back on track ..........

BB xx

[frogging]

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Ya'll are great!

I feel so good the next day when I don't drink until 5:00 PM rolls around. Fridays and Saturdays are going to be a problem for me. I want to stay AF for thirty days and then assess the situation. Frankly, I don't think I can moderate. One glass of wine makes me feel crappy, but . . . two glasses and more . . . the crappy feeling goes away. That makes no sense when I read it, but that's the way it is for me.

My partner is at the local sports bar right now watching a game and getting drunk. I would have been there with him, but after my experiment going out last weekend, I know I can't. Besides, drunks are boring when I'm not drunk.

[frogging]

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Six months later

Well, six month later and at 10:30 PM tonight, I'll have been AF for 48 hours. Sheesh. I only made it four days last January. I've been lurking for months, drinking more, and feeling worse.

I've eaten my weight in carbohydrates tonight because, for some reason, I crave them. My jaw is clenched. My head feels like it's filled with oatmeal. And, of course, my pants don't fit because I've eaten my weight . . . etc.

I cannot fail this time. Drinking is completely screwing up my life.

[A Work in Progress]

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hey, frog, I am new here, so just now seeing your earlier posts. Great that you came back to posting again! That's a hard thing to do.

I hope you can hang on to the motivation you can draw from all these awful feelings you are expressing. That's how it works for me sometimes... feeling utterly like crap can be the way to get the energy and determination to make changes. And that sustains me through the early difficulties, desires, impulses to drink.

best wishes,

wip

[Nurseindistress]

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Struggling

I was determined to start an AF free day today---made it until 7PM when I started feeling awful--headache, and lousy all over. So, of course I gave in and went to the liquor store.

I feel lousy--I was so determined today.

I will try again tomorrow, and keep searching for the supplements that will help me. I haven't really found anything that makes a difference so far.

I don't get it. How can some people come on this site and seem so miserable and then tun things around so quickly? I must be missing something, and would love to hear ideas as to what would help. Thanks.

[frogging]

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NurseID. Me too.

I'm a good example of someone who came to this sight 6 months ago, was miserable, had 4 AF days, was still miserable, subsequently drank, and was miserable.

Now, I'm back and, truth be told, I'm miserable.

For me, I have to say positive statements to myself to keep from spiraling down into a bottle, and obviously that hasn't worked very well for me.

I would love to have a glass of wine, right now, but it would lead to a bottle, and tomorrow would be more miserable than I am right now. Compared to how I would feel tomorrow morning, if I had the bottle of wine right now, I'm pretty fabulous. Wow. I think I just made myself feel a heck of a lot less miserable!

[sharktooth]

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Hello nice experience everyday i too think of this plan... how to stop? i was a chain smoker 4 23 yrs but i stopped it 4 two yre now plz help me 2 stop drinking too i consume 4---6 pegs a day plz help me....

[vera-b]

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Hi Frogging, Nurse and Shark,

Sorry to hear you're having a rough time. We all have different experiences with what works because we're all so different! But, the MWO program covers the main categories (physical cravings, rewiring our heads, taking care of our bodies, etc.) The best thing to do as with any journey, is to be fully prepared. Read RJ's book and get totally familiar with all aspects of the program. There's an excellent thread by DeeBee in this category that discusses this aspect. If you arm yourself, you don't have to rely soley on willpower. And if we had any, we wouldn't be here!

Then, don't be a stranger to the boards. Frogging - do you use the cd's? I've found them very helpful, and add to the enjoyment of coming here. Posting and listening - it's better than booze! I've found that I get to know others in the struggle by visiting daily, so when I feel particularly challenged or need a lift it feels so natural to come here. I'm constantly amazed at the wonderful spirit that graces these boards as people just like us in the al struggle face some major life challenges. Yet hope is always there. Hope to hear from you. Stay tuned.

V.

[gyco]

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yo frog ,congrats.welcom back to the world of the living,hahahha keep up the good work gyco

[frogging]

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Woo hoo! I made it through Day 3 and I'm 17 hours into Day 4. I slept well last night (with the help of a couple of Benadryl). That was a relief because the previous two nights sucked.

It's a start.

[A Work in Progress]

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That's GREAT, frog!!! Stick with it! "Miserable" probably just needs a chance to get out of your system along with the alcohol, and all the feelings/regrets about the alcohol...

wip

[noodle]

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Hi Froggin - you sound like a long lost soul mate. I'm new here, but good luck with your quest - gonna be doing a few challanges myself in the near future - feel proud your doing something so positive, and once that day has finished - no one can change it - you've done good!

Noodle x