Newbies in need ODAT - Monday

[Bessie]

Morning! Happy Monday! Just starting the thread cos I can!

Had some wine last night ... not planned but got some really depressing/upsetting phone calls from two friends going through a split. Alcohol plays a very big part in their relationship - I am going to email both of them this website address. However, despite giving in to Al initially I was able to drink some and then put the empty glass down and say "I've had enough" even though there was still some left!!! NOT something I would have been able to do before. And we watched a movie - usually an opportunity to drink myself stupid and not remember the ending. But not last night. (Can anyone explain Kill Bill 1 to me though!?) So, slowly, things are changing and improving. I'm planning the next few evenings to be AF but still focusing on One Day At a Time.

Hope you all had good weekends. Looking forward to seeing new and old (as in established, not elderly!!!) on here and hearing all about how things are with you.

Bessie xxx

[GottaChange]

Newbies in need ODAT - Monday

Good Morining!

Good for you at being able to put it down. It is a great feeling being AF, but isn't it also great to wake up the next morning with wine still in the bottle or beers left in the fridge?

I always have a chuckle when I see those ornamental wine stoppers people give as gifts and think, what the hell is the point? There is never any left anyway. Someone actually gave me a set of three for Christmas and I set them out as decoration.

I am at day 10 and wondering where I am going from here. I am wondering if the same concept can apply to drinking as to dieting. Many insist that you have to make a "lifestyle" change instead of being on a diet. This is the only way it will work.

I am also attempting to do the low-carb think right now and good or bad(haven't figure out) drinking is not on the menu.

ODAT.

-GC

[Suzanna]

Newbies in need ODAT - Monday

Good morning ODATers! I drank 4 drinks Thursday, Friday, Saturday, then yesterday none, which to myself is really good, because Sundays tend to drag along, but I made sure to keep busy. Watched the Giants win, YEAYAH!!! Bessie I don't know what's up with Kill Bill 1, that's one movie you can only watch once. Gottachange, congratulations on day 10. Have a great day!

[Suki411]

Newbies in need ODAT - Monday

Spent the entire weekend in bed. My "perfect" sister called me saturday morning and accused me of being drunk. Not so, was so tired from working 60+ hours last week, that I decided to sleep in. She doesn't work. The biggest decision of her day is what to cook for the perfect husband for dinner.

BUT, she presses the right buttons, the right triggers. Had been AF since the first of the year and one phone call from my perfect sister can set me off. I drank after her obnoxious phone call. My tolerance has changed, since I've been AF.

Thank God for ODAT, for MWO. Back to day 1.

[rustop61]

Newbies in need ODAT - Monday

Hi everyone

Did not get to post at week-end as we were away. MIL was playing up, dont know if its early stage alzheimers or her playing games!! I can only share that thought with my MWO family. It's sad really, she had 7 kids but has hurt and upset so many people thats she been left there on her own. Some of them have not been to see her in 5 and 7 years! She had company over xmas but he was only gone 2 days and she started playing up. I have to learn to step back from it and leave them all to it, hard at times as I'm an only child and was used to taking responsibility. So Suki you are not alone, some families seem to cause nothing but grief.

On a positive note I'm on Day 14 so nearly half way through the month which is good. I still have drinking thoughts and at times the cravings are bad but I'm determined to get another 30 days AF.

Hope you all had a good week-end.

Rustop

[Suki411]

Newbies in need ODAT - Monday

Thanks Rustop. I have one brother (who sexually abused me as a kid) and my perfect sister (who didn't believe me when I told her about my brother). But my mother choose me to settle her estate.

I'm starting, again at day 1 AF. Will have to get some more Becks AF. Love it!

[rudemama]

Newbies in need ODAT - Monday

hello, good to see you today suki I am like you all are so early but then i had the snowday mentality when i went to bed and sure enough a later wake up and no drive in today gee whiz gotta love those northeasters though yesterday when i was prestorm i thought make a stew get a few bottles of wine.... in anticipation of the weather....didn't do that. made the stew walked in the woods, brought in wood went to library to get movies whats the weather like in b-town suki? how much snow? by the way there is no such thing as perfect:h rudemama

[Not Happy Hour-Happy Life]

Newbies in need ODAT - Monday

Hey Suki~ Happy Monday! If this is out of line, I apologize, but.... do you think you can maybe tape yourself saying, "uh, uh. Yep.. nuh. uh... cool. Yep."...... and the next time your perky sister calls to brag about everything that she's painted as perfect, and how you need to change your world to fit into hers....... well, you can play the tape recorder and walk away from the phone! AND- change your ring tone to, "Blah, blah, blah, blah", so you know NOT to answer!

We all get labels within the family~ the funny one, the brain, the perfect one.... Well, if I had to put a label on you, dear Suki, I'd start with being GROUNDED.:flower:

Have a super AF day! Much love,

[cowgal]

Newbies in need ODAT - Monday

good morning!

Hi every one, had a moderating weekend, so at day 1 AF today, not upset w/ myself, cuz I did better than I would have a few months ago

Yeah, family really know how to push those buttons, I avoid contact whenever possible cuz they trigger me to, so Suki, I know EXACTLY where you are coming from, your sister probably deep inside is NOT so perfect, (just think about that when she gets to you..........she is probably compensating for an inferior feeling somewhere)

Every one to follow and all who have already posted, have a wonderful day,I will check back later to see how everyone is

Love and hugs!!:h :l

MA

[universal]

Newbies in need ODAT - Monday

Hi everyone - hope everyone had a great weekend!

Good for you Bessie in putting down that wine and you Rustop for not giving in to those cravings - another 30 days will be here before you know it.

Suki, there are those in everyone's family that can trigger that want/need/craving for AL - I'm sorry it was a rough day for you - You're getting so much stronger though, I can see it in all of your posts - I really think the more AF days we get under our belts, the stronger we become. Maybe next time she calls you can just go, you know what? This is worth it!

Have a great Monday everyone!
Love and hugs,
Uni

[jane jane]

Newbies in need ODAT - Monday

Morning, all. Not too awake yet, clinging to a huge mug of coffee and taking noisy sucks on it in hopes of getting my eyes open! Up early (here in USA; you Brits are lunching about now!) because there's an auction ending on eBay in a few minutes, and I want to win my item. Anyone else addicted to eBay? Anyway, dawn of Day 13, and I'm feeling strong.

[Miss October]

Newbies in need ODAT - Monday

Good Morning Everyone !

We were anticipating a "snow day today" with 4 to 6 inches of snow..........nothing but a dusting......so off to school and work we go.

Bessie, don't know how you did it but great job not finishing the bottle. I'm not ready for that yet.

GottaChange, Very funny about the ornamental wine stoppers. They don't work for the small bottles cause there is never none left. They do come in handy if you buy the half gallon bottles I call them....the ones that don't fit in your wine rack.

Hi Suki, You sister may think she is "perfect", but we all know that no one is. Don't let her ruin you AF days....just vent with alot of swear words and get it over.

Hi Rustop, I'm with you, I still have cravings but only on the weekends. Saturday I was taking down Christmas decorations, and I wanted my wine. So for 3 hours I was not in a good mood because I wanted it, but I knew if I had some, I would be in a bad mood the entire next day. I'm surprised I didn't break anything while taking them down. I finally settled down and it passed. Thank goodness, but what a battle. So yesterday was a completion of 13 AF days.....Yes !!

Rudemama, I guess you got all our snow.....lucky you.

Cowgal, great job on moderating...that's my goal one day.

Good Luck all you One Dayer's at either your mods or AF !!

[jane jane]

Newbies in need ODAT - Monday

Miss O and GottaChange, I agree about the utter uselessness of wine stoppers! I have a huge (unused) collection of 'em! But they don't work for the big bottles either---I could easily polish off one of those in the "bad old days."

[retteacher]

Newbies in need ODAT - Monday

Hi Everyone: I used to wonder as I got to AFday 7, 14, 30, etc.: "What's the purpose of this?" I can see now that all I have to do is look at how much better my life (w/all its ups & downs) is wo/booze, & I know why I'm doing the AF thing. Take care everyone. Mary

[Diamond7]

Newbies in need ODAT - Monday

Good morning fellow ODATers! and congrats on moderating/staying AF.

Suki I'm so sorry about your sister, I too know that feeling all too well although my sister claims I'm the perfect one. Ugggggh, if I'm perfect then God help everyone else :H . My whole family has a way of setting me off so I'm not talking to them right now .

I got through the weekend still AF (day 8 woohoo!) pretty easily? though there were triggers. The first was Friday when I was shopping some complete and utter PRICK pulled up to the pump behind me and left his engine running while he pumped gas, I told him and he just STARED AT ME like I was a piece of dog crap on his shoe. I was so mad that some complete idiot decided it was OK to endanger my life and everyone else's there I spent the rest of the day fighting the urge to drown myself in AL. Saturday was easy then yesterday, just as I was feeling so strong my wonderful Colts lost their game and I was in a lot of pain to boot so all I wanted to do was drink again but I fought it hard and I WON! What a great feeling to win the fight!!! This is the first Monday in as long as I can remember that I feel good, even though I only got about 3 hours of sleep . And there is just NO WAY I could have done it without all of you. Just knowing you all are here fighting just like me, and all so very kind and loving, gives me strength. THANK YOU ALL!:h

Ohhhhh...and on a funny note, I had a dream (nightmare?) last nite that I forgot I quit drinking and started on a bottle of Jack Daniels, as soon as it hit my throat I spit it out and felt like I'd lost my mind or something . Woke up sooooo glad it was just a dream.

I've droned on enough....have a great day everyone and stay stong!

Love and :l to you all.