Newbie in Need ODAT - Sunday

[Suki411]

Newbie in Need ODAT - Sunday

RUDE, I WANT TO COME FOR BRUNCH. SOUNDS AWESOME!!!

[Suki411]

Newbie in Need ODAT - Sunday

Deena, love your signature. Worthy of my fridge door!

[universal]

Newbie in Need ODAT - Sunday

Morning everyone!

I am on Day 7 today - still feeling emotionally overwrought knowing that my relationship is close to ending but I am learning how to deal with it without AL. I'm incredibly tired though as I'm having a hard time sleeping because my mind keeps going and just won't stop - you know us women, analyze everything - run out all the possible scenarios of conversations in our minds - generally we just drive our selves emotionally insane! And that's what I've been doing pretty much every night for the past week and a half.

Suki, I am sorry to hear you had a bad day but I am so glad that you are learning your feelings through counselling. And you always have us - I too look for this thread first thing in the morning - I feel like I can't get through the day without checking in with everyone, good or bad, just need to know how everyone is doing.

Take care everyone, I'll check back later.

Love you guys.

[OverIt2007]

Newbie in Need ODAT - Sunday

Hey Pattty. I live just over the bridge in Clearwater! I knew Gasparilla was last night, but I knew not a good place for me to be!

[rudemama]

Newbie in Need ODAT - Sunday

Uni , i can so relate to the "loop" over and over. have you seen the movie "What the Bleep do We Know?" It is about that loop. Its like we get grooves in our brain and we are destined to replay scenarios or repond in predetermined ways and it takes a conscious effort to stop the loop... do something completely different !!!!!!!oh well just thought i 'd add that and watching movies helps so that might be one you choose :h :h :h rudemama

[FinallyRN]

Newbie in Need ODAT - Sunday

Good morning all..........Suki, I'm sorry about your bad day. Today's another one. Breakfast grilled PBJ.........lunch same, dinner mac and cheese! Sounds good.

Suki, I have done many years of therapy....I have a mother who is a little eccentric to say the least. I actually wonder if she's bi-polar. ( Undiagnosed ) She was also mean, for years I had a horrible self image. She use to tell us we were fat and and we'd have to go on a 3 days fast. We were only 13. ( we're weren't even heavy! ) Anyway, it was torture to admit I didn't like her. How could you say that, she you're mother! But it was a huge relief to get that off my chest, AND be ok with it. I thought god was going to strike me down. But she doesn't hurt me anymore.
I went out to dinner lsat night to ANOTHER favorite restaurant and didn't drink!!! Do you know what that means?????? Through being here I have learned that a lot of my issues are social events, intimate dinners where you have to admit to those you know you have a problem. Parties I can get lost no one pays attention to what you're carrying in your hand but dinners are different. I was not one to buy a bottle and consume alone at home.....social would trigger a binge usually. If I was having fun with one bottle, think how much fun I'd have with 2 !!? Irrational but that was my history.

Thanks to all of you getting me to this point..........I'm actually going to see my mom in 1 week. Its been 2 1/2 years........wish me strength. She a drinker..............( how strange )
and will want some company.

[dexterhead]

Newbie in Need ODAT - Sunday

Hi all of you. I am always late on this thread so probably no one will read as I of couse was having a major "lie in" (love Brit speak!). I had a sober Fri and Sat night, what a shocker. Suki, I am sorry you are struggling. I will tell you later about my know-it-all sister, but the truly toxic people in my life were my in-laws ... so this is one reason to remind myself I am happy to be alone.!!!! Uni, yes I know all abouut the loop. Love to all of you and have a good day!!

[dexterhead]

Newbie in Need ODAT - Sunday

Finally RN: sorry, didn't see your post. You know, your mom, just from the teeny bit I know, does sound a lot like my former mother-in-law, and she was definitely bi-polar, plus some sort of personality disorder ... wow, did she screw up her kids, and that is why I'm divorced! She controlled her kids by ripping on their self image and telling them they were selfish, worthless etc. Anyway, I wish you best of luck on seeing her again and that she no longer has as much control over you ..

[universal]

Newbie in Need ODAT - Sunday

Hey Dex,

Congrats on your sober weekend!

RN - see, you are doing awesome - you can get through your visit with your mom.......I know you'll do great.

Rudemama - thanks so much for your understanding - I think today my daughter and I are going to veg and watch movies once she is home from gymnastics - this cold has finally hit full force and I feel like crap.........need to just relax and drink some hot tea in my pj's with a good movie on tv.

Take care everyone, talk to you tomorrow!
Uni

[paula]

Newbie in Need ODAT - Sunday

Hi everyone, I have had a very good day today, went out for lunch with my family,
didn't think about drinking. Couldn't get on line much this weekend grandson spent
most of his time on it , so I have to wait until they have gone home. My husband is
downstairs sleeping off the excesses of the afternoon, any other time I would have
taken advantage of the situation and had a drink, but no I'm sat here with my coffee.
Well done RN, and best wishes to everyone here.
Love Paula.xx

[Suki411]

Newbie in Need ODAT - Sunday

RN, thank you for your post. It touched my heart.

my beloved dad was a surgeon, so if there was a problem, you cut it out, not talk about it. Therapy was very difficult for me to start. Today, I completely lost it with my sister. Let her know exactly how I felt. Difficult, but cathartic.

Good job of going to another favorite restaurant and being AF. My thoughts will be with you when you visit with your mom.

Uni, hoped you had a good day with your daughter. You have been one of the most inspirational people for me. Reading about how your relationship with the BF has transpired, to reading about how confident you feel about yourself. So inspiring. Your daughter has such a good role model.