Newbies in need ODAT - Wednesday

[Croft]

Newbies in need ODAT - Wednesday

rudemama;263647 wrote: Hi all,
Bessie take care girl:h I understand the multitude of chores and booze connection ....
Well i have an appointment with the head honcho today. Lets just say if you are going to skip a little work to go to a political rally, don't get your picture on the front page of the local newspaper
rudemama

THAT IS FRICKIN HILARIOUS!!!!

[Croft]

Newbies in need ODAT - Wednesday

Suki411;263648 wrote: Good morning all. Bessie, you are not alone. Al was here in Boston Sunday night. Was very ugly. Stressd so much about going to court on tuesday. Had huge fight with my sister Sunday, went into work late, sobbing. Was sent home again. After court, called my boss to see if I still had a job, said he hadn't decided yet.

Called again after my therapist's appointment and he was a bit friendlier. So going in to face the music this morning.

So Bessie, I'm with you today. Love your tumbling kitty!

Good luck to al today!

Stay positive. Not only am I thinking about you today, but it looks like a bunch of other people are as well. How lucky are you!!

[Croft]

Newbies in need ODAT - Wednesday

Bessie - I feel for your predictiment. "This Ain't No Disco"

But today is a new day as you so rightly pointed out. And you had a better month than me, so you must be doing pretty good.

Hang in there and don't forget rule number 11!!!!

[universal]

Newbies in need ODAT - Wednesday

Hi everyone,

Bessie, sorry to hear you had a slip - but you know what? It's all part of recovery.

Suki, Keep your chin up girl, you have a lot of people here on your side.

Rudemama, hope all goes well today!

I am doing well, DAY 10 for me today. It's funny, I am actually afraid to drink right now.........afraid because I know I won't be able to stop at one or two, afraid because I know I'll feel like crap the next day, afraid because I know I'll be so dissapointed in myself. Can anyone relate to that fear? I really want to be able to moderte but I just don't think I can yet. Today is day 10 in a row but day 18 for the month of January so I'm pretty proud of myself. Don't really have any goals except to keep going ODAT.......

Take care everyone,
Love and Hugs,
Uni

[Croft]

Newbies in need ODAT - Wednesday

universal;263743 wrote: Hi everyone,

Bessie, sorry to hear you had a slip - but you know what? It's all part of recovery.

Suki, Keep your chin up girl, you have a lot of people here on your side.

Rudemama, hope all goes well today!

I am doing well, DAY 10 for me today. It's funny, I am actually afraid to drink right now.........afraid because I know I won't be able to stop at one or two, afraid because I know I'll feel like crap the next day, afraid because I know I'll be so dissapointed in myself. Can anyone relate to that fear? I really want to be able to moderte but I just don't think I can yet. Today is day 10 in a row but day 18 for the month of January so I'm pretty proud of myself. Don't really have any goals except to keep going ODAT.......

Take care everyone,
Love and Hugs,
Uni

What I heard was DAY 18:goodjob:

[bald headed old guy]

Newbies in need ODAT - Wednesday

Bessie,
Hang in there! You can do this! Remember how long it took you to get to this point? So you had one little slip...you didn't let it become a landslide!! Good for you!
Keep on starting this thread every day..it is the first thing I look for when I take my morning break!
BHOG

[Bettelove]

Newbies in need ODAT - Wednesday

Bessie
I haven't had a great week either:upset: . Let's just shake it off and take it ODAT. Best wishes

[Janice]

Newbies in need ODAT - Wednesday

hi everyone...first chance to get on the computer today. Bessie, treat it for what it was - a slip, not a fall. You can get back on track.

I just about got through yesterday......thanks Cowgirl & LongRoad for your help yesterday pm!!!! I actually went down into the kitchen got a glass out, and an "old" box of wine that was nearly empty.....poured it, took a sip and it tasted vile!!!!!!!!!! Then I remembered that it was this disgusting wine we'd bought a few weeks ago, too horrible to drink (though I think I'd drank most of it - you get used to anything don't you!!!) and was keeping the rest for "cooking". Anyway spat it out and came back upstairs feeling very sorry for myself!!! Still, I was relieved this morning that I'd managed my second AF weekday!! (although by default!)

Have a great evening everyone.....

Janicexxx

[Suzanna]

Newbies in need ODAT - Wednesday

Hi Everyone, just wanted to say hey to my buddies, the ODATers!

Bessie, you are doing so well, one slip does not take that away from you.

Suki I hope your boss welcomes you with support. Your sister is pushing your buttons! Don't let her.

Finally RN, that story just cracked me up. Guess we all should be mindful, just in case!

Janice that box wine taste like yuk when it's new, it must have really turned bad by then. Just imagine it all tastes like that.

Day 2 for me again.

[dexterhead]

Newbies in need ODAT - Wednesday

Hi All! Bessie , sorry about your bad date with Mr. Al Gin. beastly creature!! Oh I also just discovered the rolling kitty cat icon as you can see.:H Suki, hope things go well with the boss, you have been thru so much , damn girl!! CowGal, sorry about your knee .. I have knee probs too, possibly because Al has made me gain so much weight ..
Rudemama, tell us more about your political rally.. hee! FinallyRN, hilarious story!!! Janice, good for u for dumping out the wine. i probably would've drank it. Uni, you're doing good .. me not so much , had an Al-free weekend, but Mr. Al came calling again and even though he is a toothless troll with bad breath, five warts on his nose, and drool running down his chin, he so often has his way with me!!! gotta run as i'm at work

[Croft]

Newbies in need ODAT - Wednesday

FinallyRN;263714 wrote: Boy......AL really gets around!
Bessie, you're awesome, don't let anyone tell you different, not even AL. I had a day last week after days of being AF when I just knew he was going to win. I was at work, my favorite wine was calling my name, I daydreamed all day about how it was going to taste. I wasn't on call for the hospital so I had no resistance.............he won, but not entirely. He has only won once this month. Once in one month.........do you know what that means to me?! I have had wine but in mod and on MY terms...............I expect you to get up tomorrow and start ODAT because we need you.
Suki, what can I say..........we're with you.
And Rudemama...........funny, that reminds me of when I was at work at the hospital, my girlfriend and I walked into town to have lunch...........which included a couple of glasses of wine. The Mayor of Los Angeles was campaigning and walked into the restaurant with TV camaras..............well I just thought that was a hoot and picked up my glass and toasted to him in my nurses uniform!!!!!!! So there I was that night on the local news, a flash but long enough to be recognised!
Take care all...............

This is a great story. Extremely inspiring!!

[anxious]

Newbies in need ODAT - Wednesday

Help please

Hi,

I'm tired of making promises to my adult children and not being able to keep them. I need help and am married to my drinking buddy. I am sick of hating myself its an endless cycle.
I always feel so much better when I don't drink, but my dna comes from alcoholic parents. I never thought this would happen to me. But I was the mediator in my house and thus very co-dependant. I am done I've read some really strange side effects for topamax and would like to not use that but any other input on dealing with the "urge" I know glutamine is supposed to help too but hasn't worked for me. I have a dr. appt on fri. but I love my dr and don't want him to know I have this problem. I feel so weak and I'm usually very strong physically and mentally but this is kicking my ass!!! I don't want to keep feeling guilty. I just had 3 deaths mother in law, my father, and my grandmother(who was like my mom) this past year. I took care of my dad because he moved in this direction away from my mom. I have been told by everyone I know that I have such a great heart. So why do I keep trying to hurt myself. Let me answer that. I had an affair with a man for a long time and he was a borderline personality disorder(he didn't know it but I could see it well) Glen close in fatal attraction (which was his favorite movie now I know why). I could not get away from him (he would refuse to be broken up with) even though he was also married. I am not a homewrecker and wanted out immediately. I was feelling neglected by my spouse (he likes porn and titty bars), :upset: and the other made me feel good and laugh a lot. long story short he took phone #'s out of my phone and threatened that he had the last card and would use it if I tried to break up with him. He ended up leaving his wife for me but I wouldn't leave because I could see how erratic and emotionally unstable he was. So he called my husband like he said he would to get me thrown out of the house. I changed all my phone #s including husbands But I cant get the guilt to go away. which keeps me drinking. Sorry for the novel. I am a good person and I have tried AA cult don't like it.
:h :thanks:

[dexterhead]

Newbies in need ODAT - Wednesday

:welcome: Hi Anxious, I am so sorry you are struggling and in pain . You have found a great site with so-o-o much support and wisdom. but i would suggest starting a new "thread" maybe in the "Just starting out" section .. that way a LOT more people will see your post and provide some help. sending hugs your way :h

[Croft]

Newbies in need ODAT - Wednesday

anxious;263841 wrote: Hi,

I'm tired of making promises to my adult children and not being able to keep them. I need help and am married to my drinking buddy. I am sick of hating myself its an endless cycle.
I always feel so much better when I don't drink, but my dna comes from alcoholic parents. I never thought this would happen to me. But I was the mediator in my house and thus very co-dependant. I am done I've read some really strange side effects for topamax and would like to not use that but any other input on dealing with the "urge" I know glutamine is supposed to help too but hasn't worked for me. I have a dr. appt on fri. but I love my dr and don't want him to know I have this problem. I feel so weak and I'm usually very strong physically and mentally but this is kicking my ass!!! I don't want to keep feeling guilty. I just had 3 deaths mother in law, my father, and my grandmother(who was like my mom) this past year. I took care of my dad because he moved in this direction away from my mom. I have been told by everyone I know that I have such a great heart. So why do I keep trying to hurt myself. Let me answer that. I had an affair with a man for a long time and he was a borderline personality disorder(he didn't know it but I could see it well) Glen close in fatal attraction (which was his favorite movie now I know why). I could not get away from him (he would refuse to be broken up with) even though he was also married. I am not a homewrecker and wanted out immediately. I was feelling neglected by my spouse (he likes porn and titty bars), :upset: and the other made me feel good and laugh a lot. long story short he took phone #'s out of my phone and threatened that he had the last card and would use it if I tried to break up with him. He ended up leaving his wife for me but I wouldn't leave because I could see how erratic and emotionally unstable he was. So he called my husband like he said he would to get me thrown out of the house. I changed all my phone #s including husbands But I cant get the guilt to go away. which keeps me drinking. Sorry for the novel. I am a good person and I have tried AA cult don't like it.
:h :thanks:

You don't have to order Topo from your doc if you don't want to. I can't do it. I ordered it from a link from this site. It takes forever to get here, but it is secretative.

Have you tried the Kudzu - it does seem to take the edge off the craving.

And keep coming here. These people are some of the best people I know and I don't even know them. But they love and support me anyway. They love and support you too.

[Cinders]

Newbies in need ODAT - Wednesday

Anxious,

First off, :welcome:

You have an awful lot on your plate. I am so sorry.

If you cannot or will not discuss your drinking with your doctor, then go to another doctor and pay cash for the visit. That is what I did at first.

I am on Campral and it does help somewhat with very few side effects other than a little gas (which is embarrassing at the client, but oh well) but no cognitive side effects.

Others have done marvelously on it.

Download MWO's book and read it. Read the posts and read more.

Ask questions.

Take care and know that we will support you in anyway we can.

Cindi