WHY CAN'T WE LET GO OF THE PAST BAD EXPERIENCES IN OUR LIVES
I just read this thread this morning and had to go out, but thought about it the whole time until now. I have been going through the same thing. I'm on day 19 and I'm getting very weepy lately. I cry at the smallest things. You'd think I'd be joyous. My kids are healthy, I feel better than I've felt in a long time etc...but I just feel sad. I've realized that the sadness has been there all along and I've just come up with different reasons for it throughout my life. I'm learning that the only way to get over the sadness is to just feel it and not make a story out of it. When I just acknowledge it as sadness and let myself feel it without assigning some reason to it, it subsides much more quickly. Its when I start bringing in all the "reasons for it" and dwelling on them that it grows and becomes stronger. Sometimes the pain would be so bad but I would still refuse to attribute it to anything...just feel it. At those times I would think "This is going to kill me." or even "I wish this would kill me." But it never did. And every time I've made it through I've become stronger. What do they say "When you're going through hell...keep going!" In other words, I don't try to live in the past or the future. It's like the pain reminds me to get back into the present moment and deal with what's going on right now. Just deal with the sadness, anger, worry, whatever, don't drink it away and know that it will pass.
I just read this thread this morning and had to go out, but thought about it the whole time until now. I have been going through the same thing. I'm on day 19 and I'm getting very weepy lately. I cry at the smallest things. You'd think I'd be joyous. My kids are healthy, I feel better than I've felt in a long time etc...but I just feel sad. I've realized that the sadness has been there all along and I've just come up with different reasons for it throughout my life. I'm learning that the only way to get over the sadness is to just feel it and not make a story out of it. When I just acknowledge it as sadness and let myself feel it without assigning some reason to it, it subsides much more quickly. Its when I start bringing in all the "reasons for it" and dwelling on them that it grows and becomes stronger. Sometimes the pain would be so bad but I would still refuse to attribute it to anything...just feel it. At those times I would think "This is going to kill me." or even "I wish this would kill me." But it never did. And every time I've made it through I've become stronger. What do they say "When you're going through hell...keep going!" In other words, I don't try to live in the past or the future. It's like the pain reminds me to get back into the present moment and deal with what's going on right now. Just deal with the sadness, anger, worry, whatever, don't drink it away and know that it will pass.
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