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[Accountable for Me]

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5 nasty PM's for the fart post?

Why are you being targeted? I have read things here much more crude than about farts....

I am sorry you had to deal with this crap. If people don't like to read stuff like that - then don't read it. Simple as that.

[tawnyfrog]

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dexterhead;270603 wrote: ... I fart in your general direction ...

... AND I point my private parts at your aunties.

[cowgal]

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HA

WOW, I went to chat once and felt I was talking to a "big book thumper" (that is a person who goes to AA for years and thinks they know it all,and it is "their way or the high-way"sorta mentality...........I never went on again, BUT it did keep me a little entertained....................

HAHAHAHA FIVE PMs about the farts....................yeah, GET A LIFE MORONS!!!!
Croft, you are too cool, and I know you on't let this bother you, glad you didn't and are back to tell us all about your adventures

love ya!!!!!!:h :h

MA

[Sunbeam]

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I guess they were offering their best advice, based on their experience, but it is always wrong to impose your way on others - it lacks respect. I am AF just 15 days, definitely plan to do more than 30 days. Someone here said that you really need those 30 days to convince yourself that you can control your alcohol intake. Maybe if you can't do 30 days, you can't moderate. But it is all up to you. Personally, I have tried cutting back before, and don't plan to make the same mistake again. If I drink again, it will be just one glass of wine, at an occasional dinner out. If that doesn't work, I'll know I can't moderate, and will need to quit for good.

[Croft]

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Patty - I adore you songs and poems!!! I especially liked the one about the postman - I have it printed and posted in my office at work.

and, yes, the French do have a way with words, even when it comes to farting.

cowgirl - dont let that chat session keep you out of the chatroom. it is a great place to hang out for a while. that chat room has gotten me through more than a couple cravings.

[StraightLines]

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UGH!

Everyone is different - e.v.e.r.y.o.n.e. Some people know what works for them, so dont, some have to remain sober, some can moderate, some are lovely people who are open minded and supportive, others are cretins....


Patty I ADORE your version!!!

No one can tell another what is right for them, they are not that person. Probably why I dont like organised beliefs. There text does not come across as supportive at all, more like attacking you like you are a numbnut knowing nothing.

Croft, you know what works for you, stay true to yourself. You did the right thing hitting that little x. Like you, I'd like to think I can drink moderately again, time will tell, but for now I know what is best for *me* and that is sobriety until I sort all my other stuff out.

SL

[lukalee]

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I adore you all. I wouldn't come to this site if I couldn't have a few laughs. F*&k um.

[Deena]

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This surprised me. One of the things that attracted me to the site was that it was "non-judgmental".

Imagine the opposite:

John Doe: I am on day 15 AF!
Jane Doe: Why? Why are you doing that to yourself?
John Doe: I have set a goal for myself to go 180 Days AF!
Jane Doe: That makes no sense...you will feel so much better if you moderate...have a glass of wine with dinner once in awhile. Stop fighting yourself.
John Doe: But this is what I want to do, I think it's where I want to be.
Jane Doe: Well, I don't think that's right, you will fight yourself every night about drinking, and eventually cave in and binge for a few weeks. If you moderate, you won't do that.
John Doe: But I feel so good about myself now that I'm AF!
Jane Doe: I still think you are making a bad choice. It's important that you moderate.
John Doe: Why?
Jane Doe: Because, I feel great moderating. I can't wait to moderate next month...you should do it too!

Blah blah blah

[dexterhead]

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Deena -- I love it!!!

[Croft]

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Deena - that is great!

moderators vs the AFers - lets to the holy wars again - that was fun!

[Deena]

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Nah, no holy wars please, that's what makes this site so great. Support all around, sans a few people who feel they are perfect and know what's best for the rest...

May we all meet our own personal goals each day, whatever they may be, and have a few laughs while doing it.

[ducky]

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Why Can't We All Get Along...

You are so right Deena. I have noticed a bit of attitude in some posts lately and ignored it. But since the issue has been brought up...

Let's all focus on what works for us == abs or mods == and not try to convince others that one way or the other is THE WAY.

If someone tries mods and it doesn't work, they will realize abs is where they need to be. And vice versa.

Let's all be open to the fact that different approaches work for different people.

[embraceddarkside]

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Oh Ms. Croft! The thread of the judgemental abstainers you wrote about was one of the many reasons that I choose not to go to AA. I am aiming for moderation and limiting my need for AL, and I don't need preaching. I just want support from those who wish to stay away from excess and the cravings that pull me to overindulge. Keep writing! I need your humor and no bullshit wit.

[Not Happy Hour-Happy Life]

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Deena;270826 wrote: May we all meet our own personal goals each day, whatever they may be, and have a few laughs while doing it.

Amen!:h I'll drink to that!
(but I'll never tell what's in my goblet!)

[dexterhead]

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I love all you guys! and i'm not normally a very "gushy" sort of individual. like, hugging people is hard for me this site is my lifeline .. and I really would not keep coming back if there wasn't a big smacking dose of humor here and NO JUDGMENT!!!!!