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[rudemama]

Valentines Day humpf what for.....

Hey honey you did nothing wrong.
:l
rudemama

[iowegian]

Valentines Day humpf what for.....

I didn't have a very good Valentin's day either, but we both vented about it last night in chat. My goal now is just NOT to keep chewing on it today. The sunshine is brilliant here, although it's the temp is currently -1 degree. Negative temperatures should be banned, along with plate tectonics. I'm going to the gym to run a 5 mile run(what fool would run outside today?), I'm on day 6 AF, and I feel good. To hell with yesterday. TODAY is the day to live!

[Sunbeam]

Valentines Day humpf what for.....

I used to throw away the Victoria's Secret catalog when it came because, as I always told him, I will never look like them no matter what I wear. He finally got the message a few years ago, and now buys me real silk nightgowns with at least short sleeves, which are wonderful to wear. Yesterday I received two chocolate dipped strawberries in a box. I usually get him chocolate covered cherries, his favorite, but didn't make the 1 1/2 hour trip to get them this year. I won't waste my money on Russell Stover chocolates. We are now married 27 years, and yes marriage finally can get better. My cheating with excess drinking could ruin all of this. That's why I'm here.

[sickandtired32]

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Leanwolf;272667 wrote: Sick and tired 32 - you are me 7 years ago. As I start to read, it was my husbands lack of response to me and his lack of support for all I did do that I started to just entertain myself. So I started with one or two glasses a night. I was happy. I pretended I wasn't alone. (OMG, I can't believe I just admited that!!!) Then 2 became 3 and 3 became 4 and a4 became floor!!! OOPS He can yell all he wants - I know easy for me to say. Think about this, why is he yelling - he screwed up - he waited till the last minute to go out and buy you 'what was left' oh, gee thanks and that is to make you feel better how? and then he's surpised you use the crutch that you and we all use? Where's your support. My marraige councelor told my husband to mind his own side of the street because he was far from perfect and even though she said that a year and a half ago, believe me I still have to remind him. My point is, yes, we have issues, so does he, tell him to back off until his house is clean, and that means supporting you rather than beating you while you are down. What kind of a man is that! Sorry, I have a low tolorance for people, man or women that abuse peopel in any capacity when they are at their low - and we ALL have our lows and NOT just once. So Sicandtired32. Stay strong, stay here, this is only my 3rd day, and maybe you and I can do this together.

Today I start at day one and yes I will do this with you, with all of you THANK you so much for being here. I love what your counselor said and it is true mine should stay on his own side of the street too, lol ((HUGS))

[sickandtired32]

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southernbelle47;272751 wrote: THE day of love has become too much stress............for men to find the perfect gift and for the women who wait for it.
We all fall into that trap.......expect nothing...and you won't be disappointed.
It is not about material things.....what happends the other 364 days of the year?

Well that is just the thing I do not want or expect any gifts not for v'day christmas b'day or any other day so it is not the disappointment of not getting what I was hoping for it was the disapppointment that he chose to get something last minute that was much too big for me then treat me like I was bad for not liking it, wearing it etc. I mean if I had bought him some goofy heart boxers that were 2 sizes 2 big would he wear them, would I get mad that he didn't no and no and certianly would not attack him like he did me. FUNNY thing is he attacks me for not "wanting" gifts too for holidays so I can't win at all.

[sickandtired32]

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dannybehan;272762 wrote: Hi S&T,
Came across your post I know he his your hubby and I really have no buisness commenting BUT I MUST he is a bloody asshole and thats comming from a male who has seen this bullying trick used time and time again. WE are men and we are bullys.Not all of us and bloody not me I hate it . I dont know why? it shits me but its no excuse . You should not blame youre self what you did was so sweet and wonderfull make a beautiful dinner by a bottle of wine look forward to a romantic evening why did you deserve to be yelled at? its not right!!!!! . He stuffed up and like the school yard bully to protect his fragile ego attacked you for his own failings. Please you did nothing wrong he should hang his head in shame. Sorry I get a bit worked up about this because I think men have been bullying women for ages and it has to stop at some stage. you are a beautiful person dont let a bully make you feel bad

Love danny

Thank you so much Danny!! Yes I agree with all you said. I usually do not let his yelling and ranting bother me any other day but yesterday it just did and today my eyes that everyone can see are red and puffed from the tears brought on by my jerk of a husband and my own self hate for drinking. I belive he does attack at what my one weakness because that is his only weapon and one he loves to use and doess it very well. So I want to see what he can find to pick on me on the days I do not drink and he has a life sucks day that should be interesting. Oh wait he will attack my smoking,which he too smokes but for some reason tells me I smoke too much. HAHA just hung up guy trying to sell me chicago tribune hahah that felt good this morn and made me smile TODAY WILL BE A GOOD DAY!!!

[sickandtired32]

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iowegian;272798 wrote: I didn't have a very good Valentin's day either, but we both vented about it last night in chat. My goal now is just NOT to keep chewing on it today. The sunshine is brilliant here, although it's the temp is currently -1 degree. Negative temperatures should be banned, along with plate tectonics. I'm going to the gym to run a 5 mile run(what fool would run outside today?), I'm on day 6 AF, and I feel good. To hell with yesterday. TODAY is the day to live!

YES & YES I agree with everything especially the temps brrr nasty cold out there. I am going to go join the gym near my home, give me ME time and workout during those times I feel the urges. TODAY IS THE DAY TO LIVE YES YES YES!!!

[anxious]

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leanwolf,
I've been married 23 years and started drinking heavily about 7 years ago, too yup I see a trend!!!!! :thanks:

Danny You are so right men have been bullying for a long time cuz you know they must always be right and we must protect their fragile ego's. Now I know I have been wrong for my past indescresion but I'm sorry I got tired of being hurt and no one understanding my pain. Men can be so brutal and they have no idea what effect it has on us.

Finally Rn yes you are so right in your opinion! s&t32 I'm here for you too :h

Anxious

[jane jane]

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All this anger! Why not act thrilled about the gift, rush off and put it on, and let HIM see for himself, with his own two eyes, that it does not fit? A picture's worth a thousand words, girl.

[sickandtired32]

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jane jane;272935 wrote: All this anger! Why not act thrilled about the gift, rush off and put it on, and let HIM see for himself, with his own two eyes, that it does not fit? A picture's worth a thousand words, girl.

Ha Ha well I was not upset I simply laughed and said honey it won't fit unless I wear a push up bra under it, lol but Jane great thought too bad I did not have it last night.