sick of me yet?

[greeneyes]

OMG. I ask sister how can I help w/ dad's stuff and she send me al list of things that are impossible. What do I say? I can't manage my own friggin'' life but I don't want to tell her because I'm executrix and hope to land on my feet and pull all this off. I need my guaradian angel. Or spirit guid or some one. I'm in that God help me mode. Imagine that

[dexterhead]

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Hi Green : don't know about the estate (?) stuff but i think it was Suki recently going thru that. anyway, we're going to get through this. DAMNIT ALL WE DESERVE BETTER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And that's a fact.

[Croft]

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you said it DEX!!!!

smiley toes - give us a task - what can we do. Probably nothing but maybe we can offer some unsolicited advice or something.

[WA]

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Green first off...I WILL NEVER BE SICK OF YOU,,,second I lovvvvvve you
Love Jacqui xxx

[hulagirl]

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Hey Green, You sound absolutely overwhelmed. Been there. Can you do one thing on the list? Doesn't have to be the first thing. Can you begin or start one of the tasks? Does it involved making a phone call? Write down your questions or requests before you call. If you can just focus on one part of one of the items on the list you will find that "yes, I can do that". Does it involve going somewhere? Making an appointment? I don't know if you work regular hours but try planning ahead. "On Monday I will make this call on my break" or "after work." "On Tuesday I will go ________ after work" or "first thing in the morning." Just try and break it down into baby steps. Hope this helps

[greeneyes]

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Yes I can . I can make one phone call a day. It's jsut that ... here comes the whine... Frigigin' voice mail thing and being on hold does not work for me. I have to answer my own phone at work. I don't have the luxury of someone else picking up the phone. " All available agents are helping others, Your wait time is approximately 5 minutes" blah blah blah. My dad's room is private pay at $160 a day. I want to say to him her them get the frigging phone book and give him the phone and work this out. I need anger management. You know what? I'mthe one feeling abandoned. My daddy, my hero has become someone else. Maybe this is part of my recovery, to adknowledge this. Mom is gone, daddy doesn't care, hubby is stumbling. Damn, where are my big girll pants? I am a whiney butt.

[hulagirl]

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When you get put on hold put on speaker phone and walk away and do something else. when they pick up come running back. Please be patient with your father.

[IKnowItsTrue]

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Greeneyes,
Sometimes its ok to put on your little girl pants and WHINE and CRY. Sometimes things get to be too much and you just have to shut the door for a while and feel everything. Be angry with everyone. Feel abandoned and overwhelmed. What you are feeling is OK. Accept each moment as it is...even if it's horrible. Just as it seems that good times always end. Bad times end too. Hang in there. We'll never get sick of your happy toes.

[greeneyes]

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OK, I walked the dog. 12 hours later then according to plan but did it. Can we call that a start? I feel so bad. Hubby wasn't here for the plan and I did not do well. It's not his fault. I accept all responsibility. Boo-hoo.. I will try the plan tomorrow.

[dexterhead]

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yes, I'm starting my plan of pulling myself out of this sinkhole tomorrow so we will both start. yippee!!

[hulagirl]

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of course that's a start.

[dexterhead]

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Green, we'll never be sick of your green eyes, your cute toes, or just your hilarious nature. !

[livingfree]

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Green - It's perfectly fine to say - "sis - I feel comfortable doing (A, B, and C) but am sorry I just don't know where to start with (D, E, and F) so am going to have to pass those back into the hat until A,B, and C are completed. I'll let you know when these are complete. Love ya, and we'll try to get through this together, but sometimes it isn't going to be easy on either of us - but right now this is what I can tackle .. bye"

1. You work on one thing like hula said and then wait until you have a little strength to work on something else tomorrow.
2. They will call you if something is going to fall between the cracks before you get to it if a payment is due and they know you are working on things
3. Right now is not a good time for you to take on more than yourself except for the one or two things you can do to help with your dad's estate. Go easy on yourself and give yourself permission to be a little girl. It's ok. I've actually been rather LAZY for the first time in my life lately - and the good and bad part is .... I'm kinda liking it! (Must be a sign that I'm gaining strength and should start doing more!!)
4. MY HEART goes out to you - as we just went through this very thing over the past few years with my Mother in Law. She did pass away this fall - but it was a long painful road. My :l to you greeneyes. Love you
Liv

[hulagirl]

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Howsit going Green? Were you able to start the to do list? Let us help you.

[greeneyes]

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nah, hula, too much drama today and busy at work. Decided to put it on the back porch for today. The world will not stop turning and if she thinks I'm slow well.... she can make those calls.