Another day, Another Bottle

[Janice]

Moderation is not working. I need some inspiration please.

[Noelle]

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Well.....I went AF February 4th. I was totally out of control. I've been drinking for 30 years and it just escalated since this past May. I HAD to stop....it was killing me and my family. Mods was just not an option for me as I've been in rehab and out-patient rehab too. Didn't work. The decision to stop wasn't easy. I just HAD to do it. I have the CDs and kudzu. The kudzu really helps with the urge to drink for me.

I feel so much better. I wake up with no hangover, I remember the night before, I'm not shaking all the time and most of all, I feel better about myself.

I don't know if that's inspirational though. Someone else will be here with all kind of good words that I'm not that good at. However, if I was talking to you face to face, I'd give you one hell of an inspiration!

Good Luck Janice! I think you might've already made your decision, you just need to follow through.

[Suzanna]

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Janice, it sounds like you know what you need to do. Don't think of it as a bad thing or something that you will miss. I am not all that wise or anything, but I am coming to the same conclusion that you are. There is much to read here about folks that have made the transition and have not looked back, and are happy and healthy. We just gotta take the plunge!! :h

[OverIt2007]

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hi Janice

Hi Janice. I wish I could inspire you today...Im back posting because my drinking problem is really kicking my ass in.

Dont be so hard on yourself. Your a good person, we all are. We just have one hell of a problem. Im back posting on here, I hope I can be an inspiration to you another time.

Hang in there.

[Janice]

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thank you fir listening and for replying....just feel so down, so lonely. I have got a gorgeous loving husband yet I feel that drink is the only comfort I have. I have gone two good spells of being AF ...trouble is, I just keep going back for more.

[tlrgs]

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hi there..janice. well that should tell you something.if you keep on going back for more.there is more to the story then. but hey keep on thinking that you can handle it . one day you might not be able. just think if there was a emergency.and you had to act quick. would you be able to handle it you were drunk.so just think about it . but hey good luck on mod what ever works for you

[Guest]

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Hi Janice........I don`t mean to sound harsh........seriously, I`m just not that kind of person, and I imagine you`ve already grasped that about me from our past pm`s.

Janice..........if mods isn`t working for you, perhaps you are one for whom it will never work, like myself. Just consider it Janice........I know you like to enjoy a glass of wine especially at the weekend with your hubby, but perhaps it`s time for you to give up the struggle and embrace AF for good. In no way do I wish to tell you what to do, but you sound very much like how I used to be........I was loathe to accept that I would have to quit drinking period, despite the fact that I`d had several failed attempts at moderating. I can only say that I have come to terms with being a non-drinker now and really don`t miss it anywhere near as much as I imagined I would.......I`m learning what it`s like to be happy again.

I wish you well in deciding how best to proceed.

Much love,

Starlight Impress xxx

[SK8RGRL]

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Mods never worked for me. Neither did switching my drinks. Always lead me straight back to where I left off. AF is the only way for me. and I think that goes for most of us. If I could control my drinking then I wouldn't have a problem, but I can't and I do.

[trixietrack]

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hi janice yep, moderation is not for everyone. I think starlights advice is right on.
good luck and be well, we are here for you.

Trix

[Croft]

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I have been doing very well moderating, with a slip here and there. I think I would have a slip here or there if I were trying for AF as well.

I am thinking about trending my mods to be less and less though.

The thing is I think that we all beat ourselves up no matter what our goal is. If it is moding then we are not moding enough. If it is AF then we arn't going enough days in a row. We are all just so hard on ourselves.

You should definately do whatever you think is best for you. But you should also not be so hard on yourselft. Don't forget to celebrate with vigor the days that you do exactly what you intended!!!!!!

[paula]

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Mods don't work for me. Janice you have proved that you can go af in the past.
So you must decide what's best for you, I think you already know.
Take care of yourself.
Love Paula.

[Sunbeam]

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Hi Janice,
I also have a wonderful husband (27 years). We are discussing retirement, which will be nothing if I don't kick this problem NOW! My alcohol cosumption has really limited our lives over the past few years, and with more unstructured time, it definitely would get worse.

[Janice]

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Oh I'm sorry for the moan on Sat night - I was feeling right sorry for myself!!! My husband always says that I always see the glass half empty never half full (its always empty where I'm standing!!!!) and that I need a more positive outlook. I have been trying certainly since new year - "carpee diem" (spelling??) was my new year resolution - "seize the day"!!!! I'd had a lovely half-term week with my husband - with the kids away at uni, it was our first on our own without relatives, inlaws etc for a long long time. A time just for us. I think my bubble burst on Thurs night when I rang mam.....won't go into details but I just wish she would ring me, or bother about me.....too busy drinking....then on Sat afternoon I went into town to choose mother's day cards for the two mams and standing in Clintons reading all the verses - just hit me really, I want my mam back and I can't have her because she drinks too much and she couldn't give a sh**t!! Everything just hit home and I came home and hit the bottle!!!!!!!!!!!! What hypocrisy!!!

[rustop61]

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Poor you Janice, you are being hit from every side. Not having a Mom there is hard I know. I lost mine at 17 and it still hurts. Al has stolen yours and has his fangs in you. However, you are strong, you have proved that many times over the past year. You have managed to go AF and will again. Break the cycle for your daughters sake. I am trying to do the same for my daughters. It's not easy but I am not going to give up. Because I have been able to drink moderately at times there is a part of me that has not wanted to give up AL altogether. The thought of having wine at xmas or when out for dinner at times kept me going and got me through 30 day stretches of being AF. However, the more AF time I am getting under my belt the stronger I feel. Stick with us, we are all in this together. Just concentrate on getting through ODAT.

Rustop

[Janice]

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Rustop, you really hit the nail on the head.....fastforward 30 years and my daughter could be sitting here talking about me - I do not want that to happen. You have shown such strength having the odd drink and thats it inbetween your fantastic AF runs......I have so much admiration for you Rustop, you really are an inspiration to many of us here at MWO! love & best wishes, Janicexxx