Breaking a cycle

[Seashell]

This maybe a bit heavy but here goes, I am sure there are others here that have grown up with alcohol being part of life ie rubbed on the gums when teething, whisky for a cold, to ease a broken heart etc etc. This still goes on in my life my dad still greets me with a bottle to drink whist I am with him and and sends me off with a bottle for at home. I f ever I phone with any problem or ask him how any problem is he says nothing that cant be cured with few cans!! so I suppose I am brain washed this has always been my way of life, and I dont seem to be able to break it. I cant change or talk to my dad he told me many years ago he would rather die than not be able to have a drink, he is not in good health and will forfit certain medication for the drink.(plus to old and set in his ways)

But I look at him and think how ill he looks and what drink has done and wish i could end this cycle that I will pass on to my children.

[betty boop]

Breaking a cycle

Seashell ......... you obviously want to break this chain ........

Be strong and let us help you ..........

What can we do to help you through this?????

[greeneyes]

Breaking a cycle

Oh yikes. My daddy and I could kill a botle of scotch. He had one of those "went down the wrong way" things on a happy hour hour scotch and had a stroke. Never had a drink since and is a nursing home but I certailnly took over. Just another trigger, just another excuse. I'm trying to take responsibility for my own drinking and it's really hard. Really hard to look at yourself in the mirror and say " you are doing this to yourself". Bleah.

[Seashell]

Breaking a cycle

Wish I knew !

[tlrgs]

Breaking a cycle

hi there..seashell..been there and done that. i have seen so much death cause by al. in alot of ways thats what made me really think about it .to be able to live that way and i didnt want to end up like that.so yes you can end the cycle by teaching our kids what not to do . and do your best to keep on trying. good luck

[Croft]

Breaking a cycle

I hear what you are experiencing. My dad drinks but he is not addicted. He can go months without it, but when we go fishing we take the whisky. His relationship to it is so different though. He is not constantly on the make for an oppurtunity to drink. Wheras I am. Hopefully that will change with time.

[StraightLines]

Breaking a cycle

Hey Seashell

Know it all too well. I have just come into the sun now about the concerns I have for my daughter, now obvious that both her parents are recovering/active alcoholics. She is only young, when she first asked why her dad doesnt drink I told her he is allergic to it (makes sense), she doesnt like me drinking cos she hates the smell on me. I want to break the chain too, so far she thinks alcohol is pathetic, I can only PRAY that she remains in that thought for the rest of her life.

[lookingforhope22]

Breaking a cycle

Hey Seashell,
I think just from the sheer fact of raising the question is breaking a link in the chain - awareness of a situation/issue brings light to it....our parents definately influence our behaviour and beliefs but it is our choice how we deal with what life throws at us... we can follow in their footsteps (good or bad) or we can take another path based on our experiences.
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