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Hi All,

I just wanted to check in with this great group of people to let you know I'm here. Actually been lurking about for a month or so now. Read the book, have dipped my toe in the stream of the CD's, got the sups on the shelf (but not in my system yet) and have ordered the Topa... and I am procrastinating on making the commitment! I'm pretty sure it is a fear of failure thing or I just don't care enough about myself and my relationships to do what I know needs to be done. Maybe both.

So here is a brief bio. I'm a 54 year old male, married for 25 years to a wonderful, basically non drinking woman. Living in southern california. Self employed photographer working out of my home. Been a problem drinker for about 10 years. Lately I'm drinking around a pint of bourbon and some wine or beer a day. I tend to do my drinking during the day and stop after dinner. I am definately in a love/hate relationship with alcohol. My preference would be to moderate but wouldn't reject abstaining. Actually my intention is to abstain for 30 days then feel it out. I have been to several AA meetings, but always came away having more of a desire to drink than when I went to the meeting. I know AA is a great organization, but it is just not for me right now. I take full responsibility for my choices and don't accept that I am powerless over alcohol.

So, I guess that is enough for now. You ladies (and few guys) are an inspiration to me. I really enjoy the kind, gentle, accepting and loving nature of this forum. I hope to both give and receive here... whatever that might look like.

Warm Regards, Uffdaguy:h

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Uffdaguy!
So glad you jumped in!
You sound ready to go ahead and start things. Honestly, now you posted, so we know you're here, we know you have the "stuff", we know you wanna do it, so now we're gonna bug you about it :lol .
I'm joking. Seriously though, you have found a great way to tackle this thing. What you have said about AA is the way many of us feel. We take responsibility for our actions, and can choose to "drive this bus". The great thing about this program is that there are so many tools to use, so many changes you can make if things are not working, and so much wonderful support.
Get your supps sorted out, and how about joining one of the events? The program does suggest a brief period of abstinance before moderation (you probably know this since you've been hanging around...).
I love your first post. You sound like a wonderful addition
Becca

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Alright!!!! Another 54 year old male. I don't feel so all alone now.
Thanks for joining.
I too work out of my home and the tempation to drink in the afternoon is powerful. But my control is getting better.
Hang with us,
Phil

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Hi Becca, appreciate your post. I don't mind being bugged at all. I know it comes from a caring place. Support from those who share a common "issue" is very powerful!

Phil, yea, thank you. I look forward to spending some "cyber" time with you. This is a great place to hang out and grow.

Warm Regards, Uffdaguy

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Welcome Uffdaguy!

Like Becca said, sounds like you're ready--jump in any time! If you want to get some abs time in before you moderate, come on over and visit us on the abs board...mods or abs, we're a loving and forgiving bunch as you have already figured out!
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susan

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Hi Uffdaguy

Welcome. Hey, why not start trickling a few of those supps through your system right now? Better in you than on the shelf.

Look forward to seeing you around.

Tawny

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Hey Uffdaguy,

Welcome aboard this here train.

You could even have fun and stuff.

Sober! That's the part that amazes me.

It's a good place to be for all of us.

Helen

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Thank you all for your warm welcome. I was up to my useual drinking patern yesterday... ugh. This has got to stop! I really feel lost sometimes. Starting the sups today. Hope to get in a CD sesion. Waiting for the Topamax to arrive.

I sure hope this helps me get to where I want to go.

Warm Regards, Uffdaguy

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Hey guys,
Very inspiring to read your posts. I'm like some of you.
Start off with the thought of 2 drinks only. Can manage it if out with hubby for dinner. But if we come home and there's wine or beer in the house, I'll sneak an extra drink. Also, if I open a bottle of wine in the house- can't stop at 2...just HAVE to finish the whole bottle! Very frustrating. I've taken the (are you alcoholic?) tests and I've failed miserably. Yes, in my years of drinking I've had blackouts and have felt so hung over the next day that I've had "a little hair of the dog that bit me". I don't want any more dog bites. New to the program - like what I'm reading. Look forward to getting to know a lot of you online.
I'm female, married to a great guy who drinks the way everyone should (knows his limit which is usually two) and have two great sons...and lots of animals!
Bo

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Bo, you sound like me!! I am still sorta new, have ahubby who can drink noramally, 2 boys, dog, cat, chickens, horses, ........hmmmm what else, cochateil (spelling??)......enough!(Can you tell I love animals??):h

Anyway, I love alcohol too........TOO MUCH!! Am trying to moderate, tried AA, where you have to quit forever, it was too hard, didn't make it but still sometimes go to meetings as they are "free counseling" in a way.......: :rolleyes

I just had an uncontrolled few days, but an AF day yesterday, and plan on a few more, if not as many as possible (maybe even 30!):rollin

Climb on board and keep us posted on your progress Bo!!!

Mary Anne:h :happy :P