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    #1

    Did I just get lucky???

    I am seeing drug and alcohol counselor where I work, sweet guy. Checks on me every morning. He suggested I go to AA, and I said no way. After doing one of his homework assignments (It was a really eye opening experience yet very simple...if anyone want to do it just message me).

    Well anyway, within 1 hour of completing this assignment I called a local AA place and was at the first meeting last night. I went again tonight. They seem like a wonderful group and I really think AA, along with being on this board, is going to help me finally quit drinking. But I think it's AA that is finally get my attention because of the face to face setting.

    I've heard terrible things about them...did I just lucky and find a good group?
    This is no longer a drinking problem...it's a matter of Life or Death!!!
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    Did I just get lucky???

    Looking: I have been wondering where you've been . I know some people here don't like AA but I think the right group could be wonderful. AA has saved so many .. as they say, "take what you need and leave the rest." I think we need all the resources we can muster and embrace whatever works for you !!!:h:h Please keep up posted!!!
    :boxer: Get the hell out of my house, Al, you worthless bastard!!

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      #3
      Did I just get lucky???

      lookingforhope.

      happy for you. nothing wrong with AA. humans wanting change who mean it. i'm going to a sober party tomorrow for a member. great food, nice people, actually some very beautiful people will be there, what more can one ask for? i am happy for you.

      i'm tapering off as of lately, must get my re-certification and back to employ.

      :h

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        #4
        Did I just get lucky???

        Lucky or not, it doesn't matter. It's working for you and that's what matters.

        I'm so happy for you. Keep up the great work. Stay strong.

        Love, Me
        :l
        Alcohol is simply the device between success and failure.

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          #5
          Did I just get lucky???

          that is awesome . keep it up .
          :beach: life does change as long as you are willing to change yourself ..
          best thing about the future it comes one day at a time..

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            #6
            Did I just get lucky???

            Looking, I am having a good experience with AA. I like the people there. I am impressed by their openness in sharing what the topic of discussion means to them and their own experiences. I also like the speaker meetings. Those seem to be quite popular as the room is crowded on those nights. It's only been a few weeks but I find it helpful and will continue.
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            Thoughts become things..... choose the good ones. ~TUT

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              #7
              Did I just get lucky???

              Looking,

              I, too, like AA. The face-to-face of it helps a lot. It is somehow a relief to walk into a room of people who have the same issue with alcohol/drugs I do. They "get it" while hubby and other family members just don't.

              Lots of people dislike the reference to a Higher Power in AA and that turns them off. I have no problem with that at all.

              I go to AA whenever I can, which is not often enough.

              Good luck. I am so glad you found a good group. Take your time before finding a sponsor, though. That relationship needs to be one of trust and mutual respect.

              Love,
              Cindi
              AF April 9, 2016

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                #8
                Did I just get lucky???

                I appreciate the support and advice. I just learned some things too I didnt know about AA, didn't know they had speaker nights, which I will definately want to attend. Also, thanks for the advice on finding a sponsor, wasn't real sure how that worked either. Right now I have a random list of names of women I can call anytime, and have met a few personally.

                Dex...I've been keeping and eye on your posts, I am stalking you....:H :h:h
                This is no longer a drinking problem...it's a matter of Life or Death!!!

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                  #9
                  Did I just get lucky???

                  Lookingforhelp - funny story I actually called my local AA group to see if I met enough of their criteria to go to a 'closed meeting!' Little did I know that the only requirement was a desire to stop drinking! I had lots of preconceived notions about what AA was going to be like. But, I had to throw those out the window in order to be able to accept the program and the serenity that it offered to me. I could probably say the same thing about RJ's book, but in the end all that matters is how hard you are willing to work to achieve what you are looking for. No magic beans lying around here or anywhere else, just lots of good people.

                  Like you, I use both MWO and AA to maintain my sobriety, and I wish you nothing but success in your fight against alcohol.
                  Sobriety Date: June 15, 2007 -- "It's not having what you want, It's wanting what you've got...."

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                    #10
                    Did I just get lucky???

                    I did outpatient yrs ago and we had an hour of AA during our 3 hr sessions. I loved it. It was headed by AA participants. I wish I had taken them up on going to meetings. I don't go to meetings but if I ever need to I know that their doors are always open. If i don't like one meeting there are plenty of others.

                    I'm happy for you! Wishing you continued success....
                    :flower: Change a life; make someone feel important. ................. ........................ ..................... ........................ ................. ....... sigpic

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                      #11
                      Did I just get lucky???

                      I live in a rural area and there just aren't that many meetings within a reasonable driving distance. I tried AA 25 years ago, after my eldest daughter suddenly died at 21 from cardiac arrythmia (rare congenital heart defect), and I really started drinking too much.

                      I was serving on our local school board at the time, and we were in the process of a very complicated merger effort with two other school districts, I had three more children, two still in high school, and helped my husband run his architectural practice.

                      I couldn't attend meetings every night, because I had too many other obligations. A very crude and vocal few people started in on how "some of us" weren't working the program correctly, and looked in my direction (was supposed to go every night, etc).

                      It was the last meeting I attended. I did stay sober for years after that, but gradually started drinking again.

                      I didn't try to explain myself that night, for it seemed clear this bunch would have told me "nothing was more important than attending meetings and staying sober, that I was making excuses, etc...

                      My second child, a son, now 45 also has inherited the predispositon, and has attended AA for over 10 years now. AA has turned him completely against me, just because I do not go to AA. He is verbally abusive and hostile, and will not have anything to do with my husband and I because we do not go to AA. But, he is sober. I am happy for that, but sometimes it feels to me that he is still lost, and has made AA into a cult.

                      I do not blame AA, for it has helped so many people. But, it certainly was way too rigid for me, and my son has never learned to make amends to his Dad and myself for all the problems he caused us during the years he was drinking. He instead blames us for everything that has gone wrong in his life, calls his Dad "an enabler" for not leaving me, etc.

                      His younger brother and sister are sick of his attitude, and now won't speak to him. All because he misuses the AA concepts for some weird kind of defense mechanism.

                      If anyone has any suggestions as to how we can get through to him, I would appreciate it. He is 45 years old right now, and has just had his first child. I would love to know my grandson, but do not know how to relate to this difficult son.

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                        #12
                        Did I just get lucky???

                        Fieldmouse....i need to process before I answer this to you. Only having been at AA three nights straight in a row now. Tonight, I went there drunk. Not blacked out...but drunk enough to be silly, but with some control. That was very refreshing.

                        Due to some discussion I heard last night, maybe we can become enlightened on whats going on here with you and your son. If your son is verrbally abusive and hostile, it is not AA's fault. It is his own and he needs to own it. It is possible AA has brought up some things within him, but he needs to learn how to communicate without abuse.

                        My son has also been verbally abusive on a few rare occasions, not because he is in AA or even has a problem with alcohol or other substance abuse. It is simply because he is angry. And I really dont blame him. However, we need (and are finding other ways) of communicating this anger.
                        This is no longer a drinking problem...it's a matter of Life or Death!!!

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                          #13
                          Did I just get lucky???

                          I would agree, and would argue that he is not working a true AA program. The whole purpose of AA is to show people a new way of living that promotes tolerance, humility and understanding - something that he appears to not have right now.

                          Unfortunately, there is nothing that you can say or do to change his way of thinking - he has to do that on his own. I don't know if it is him or the group he is in, but I can tell you from my own experience that this is not the norm, and I feel for you.
                          Sobriety Date: June 15, 2007 -- "It's not having what you want, It's wanting what you've got...."

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                            #14
                            Did I just get lucky???

                            I am thinking about what you both have said, and thank you for the insight.

                            You are right, this is my son's individual problem, and not the fault of AA. I am guessing that I would prefer to blame AA, than to come to terms with the basic fact that my son isn't facing his own problems with anger and personal responsibility. It is always easier to blame someone else, right?

                            Am I making the same error my son is making? Deflecting the blame elsewhere, rather than face reality?

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                              #15
                              Did I just get lucky???

                              Mouse, is he going to the same meetings you did? Just wondering......I can't remember.
                              Noelle sez "Do want you like, like what you do. Life is Good."

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