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[auntiegriselda]

Well, I went back to the wine at the end of Jan. and have been going strong ever since. :boohoo: It's the same old story....I can have just one or two glasses of wine after work and hold it there. Then before long the bottle is gone. I've been saying every day that I'm going to go AF again, but then evening comes and I'm sick of work and everything else and what the Hell. Might as well have a few. It really isn't hurting me anyway...I can function at work, etc etc. Trouble is I'm not functioning as well as I should. Have that fuzzy headed feeling in the mornings, worried that someone will smell stale alchol, feeling guilty for giving in.....the list goes on.

I've been SO busy at work and come home to a 38 year old daughter who is living the life of a teenager. Can't (or won't) find a real job, just does babysitting for a friend. Doesn't pay any room and board...I have to stop this but don't know how to do it. Oh yes, she sees a counselor and takes antidepressants, but if I bring up voc. rehab or anything else, she gets angry. I know I need to kick her out, but it's so hard. Guess I need to set out some expectations and a time table and stick to them.

Sorry for rambling on. Today I'm going to get back on the L-Glut and Vitamins and NOT DRINK!!

Thanks for listening.
Auntie

[Not Happy Hour-Happy Life]

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Auntie G~ Welcome back! I wondered where you were! :h

Better admit it now than find yourself at the VERY bottom of the barrel, you know? Even though you are busy at work, work on you too, okay?

Get yourself to a place where you have the strength to deal with daughter.... :l

[bald headed old guy]

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Auntie,
I have not had the pleasure of meeting you before, so HI!
Try to make today Day 1 AF again, take it one day at a time!
Between work and daughter it sounds like you have a lot of stress going on. I found it is better to deeal with stress without dealing with my old girlfiend ALice! so, throw your ex-buddy AL out on the street, then maybe you can better deal with the daughter.
I had to sit my son down one day (he was doing the same thing, only younger) and say, Mom says we can either pay for utilities or buy food. You need to get a job and start to contiribute to the household instead of living off us. It Worked! He was employeed the very next day!
Good Luck, keep us posted!
Enjoy Life!
BHOG

[auntiegriselda]

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Thanks!

Thanks for the welcome back, Not So Happy Hour and nice to meet you, BHOG! I've seen many of your posts. I'm going to try to get some things straightened out. I do know that AL doesn't help problems, just creates more really. However, he does numb the pain for awhile. It just doesn't get you anywhere. My daughter's situation is somewhat complicated since now that she hasn't worked for awhile, it's hard to find something. But she's also being pretty picky about what she's willing to do.

I'm going to keep plugging away and enjoy my nice day off here. And today is Day 1 again!

[tea]

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Hi AuntieG, don't think I've met you. Welcome back though. Sorry you are stressed out just now, bet you feel it will never end eh. Do you have 'job agencies' where you are? We have quite a few here where you register with them and they find you temporary work say covering a sick leave, maternity leave etc. Just thought this may be a way back into the working world for you daughter and would get her confidence back up to apply for jobs? Just a thought.

Lx

[jettek]

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Hi Aunti. I have never met you either. I have a similar position with my son, although he is only 18. He stays up til all hours of the morning, sleeps and eats all day long. He also just won't get a job. I'm tired of it. I have managed to remain AL free for 75 days today. It hasn't been easy. I have gone through a recovery program and both myself and my son are going to counseling. It has certainly helped me alot! We went and got a couple of job applications yesterday and when he gets the phone out of his ear, we are going to go turn them in. He also is going down to the local Job Corps on thursday. Hopefully his unemployment is not for much longer and that will make my life much less stress free and he can help out with some bills. Good luck to you and take it one day at a time. That is the only way to handle it.

[KateH1]

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Glad your back, AuntieG. You already know that we are here to support you and boy! It sounds like you could use some support right now! Sorry to hear that you are dealing with all of this! It is so easy to think that alcohol will help us deal with life and struggle. Just one or two to "take the edge off". But we know in our AF minds, that when we are not drinking, both our resolve and our decisions are just better! You will figure this out! If not, perhaps BHOG will make a "House Call"!

XX Kate

[auntiegriselda]

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Thanks Tea, Kate and Jettek,

My daughter has been to the temp agencies. She "failed" a couple of placements and the last couple of times they didn't have anything for her. She's also supposed to be going to Voc. Rehab for help with finding something that she can do that isn't too much stress. She has panic attacks. Now I'm worried that she may have turned down something with them bec. she didn't like it. She needs to take anything at this point and not be picky. Guess I'll have to get tougher. Have just been so busy at work that I haven't had much time to think about it. And to be truthful don't want to think about it which is why wine is so handy!
It's time for some Tough Love I think! Past time, in fact.
Oh, and a house call from BHOG would be great!! Altho I'm not sure my guy friend would like it

Thanks again.
Auntie

[Victory]

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Hello from one Aunt to another

Hello Auntiegriselda, haven?t had the pleasure but looking forward to hearing more form you.
We can beat the "same old story". Best wishes Aunty Vic

[auntiegriselda]

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Thanks Vic,
I'll look forward to getting to know you.

[cmhguy3]

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Auntiegriselda,

Welcome back! I have also come back for the third time! It's day two AF for me...third time is the charm! WE CAN DO THIS TOGETHER!

[slightlysuze]

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Welcome back, Auntie......I think you were already here when I joined last year.....nice to see you again.....and I know where you're coming from with the modding....end of the day drinks etc.....phew! I'm doing well with the modding, but it just isn't as good as when I was AF.......

Hope you can get yourself motivated to get where you want to be :h

Love


Suze xx

[IAD]

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Antie,
The third time is a charm......if that does'nt work the forth and fifth are just as good ! LOL

[meditation mama]

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Hi Auntie...

Third time is a charm, just believe it! It was my third time that did it for me, too. I came and went a few times last year, then finally in January I decided enough was enough. I have a high profile job, didn't miss work (well not much, anyway), functioned (I thought well, but now I see otherwise), and always had the committee in my brain telling me I can do just fine in the evenings with a few - but then it was a few more.

You can do this.. just stay close and let everyone support you. Stay connected in the beginning. Find a "home thread" for a while (30 day booze busters, etc), and let us help you along.

Good luck and strength.

Namaste,

MM

[auntiegriselda]

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Thanks everyone. I must admit I've had a little slip. Had a couple of glasses of wine last night and tonight. I talked myself into it because of all the work stress. I'm going to try again tomorrow.