I started the program 1/18/2008 with unbelievable success. I kept a journal and many entires for the first 30 days started with 'I feel awesome, awesome, awesome'...not drinking was easy and I was amazed how quickly I'd changed.
However, around day 35 or so I stopped finding time for the Hypno CDs. My husband works non stop, I work full time as well and we have 3 little kids. At first he would tell me to go do my hypno on the weekends or I would work from home so I could sneak off to do them while the babysitter was here. Anyway, it got harder and harder to find time to do them -- I was always either working or taking care of the kids on my own and I felt I was 'cured'. So, I stopped doing them...and then I started being more social -- we went away for a 3 day weekend with husband only..then family events for easter. I started drinking socially again. "It's ok that I have 5+ glasses of wine while I'm at an event as long as I've stopped drinking during the week. I'm fine!". So this started 3 weeks ago...and then last night my addiction convinced me I needed to make a nice dinner at home for my husband and that we needed 2 bottles of wine....so after 3 huge glasses and 1/2 done with my fourth, my daughter started crying from bed. She has the stomach flu and we both ran upstairs to help her. With my husband upstairs I ran back downstairs to get my daughter a glass of ice water -- OH! And, why don't I stop and fill my glass of wine up a little more while he's busy upstairs. Back to sneaking extra wine so he doesn't know just how much I drink. Nice. So, I had 4 1/2 huge glasses of wine last night. (A bottle+, I think) I'm out of Kudzu. I'm hungover. And I'm thoroughly depressed.
Why can't I just be normal? When I was having success I wrote in my journal, 'it's incredible -- it's like someone finally took the needle off the track of this incessant song in my head crying out for alcohol. It's just totally silenced now!' Well (not sure if this is metaphorically correct but..) the talking in my head seems to be back. I guess that's what addiction is...and I've started giving into it again.
Sorry for the long post. I find it helps to just put this out there so I don't cover this up as much as I am with my husband-- easier to tell strangers. It is so easy to go back to old habits and talk yourself into thinking "I don't have a problem"...but then, what normal mother makes a pit stop to fill up their wine when their daughter is puking?
So. It's a beautiful day here in the Chicagoland area. Instead of being depressed (or in addition to) my plan for today is to take my kids (the non sick ones) to the park. Order some Kudzu. Go do 1 1/2 hours of hypno. And then make my husband make me dinner. Hopefully no wine tonight - but every ounce of my body just wants to wait until tomorrow to start (can't I just do wine on Fridays and Saturdays??). Or maybe just staty AF a few days of week? Or just try 1 glass a night...the bargaining with myself will just keep getting worse Now I know.
Not so happy right now...but learning more and more what I need to control this nonsense...
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