Morning all!
Hope you got through Friday night intact. Just been reading a thread on 'obligation' - going out after work drinking, feeling obliged when friends invite you out for a drink etc. One thing I have learnt from my efforts to go AF where possible is that the obligation to drink should not be given in to. There is temptation, there is habit, there are patterns of behvaiour, there is addiction but these are all yours to deal with. The obligation is the perceived expectations of others and is their problem to deal with - absolutely no need to do anything about satisfying them where Al is concerned. I know it is really hard but that obligation is almost always only a social nicety.
I know that when I feel obliged to drink and give in to that obligation (weakened always by my other issues with Al - habit, temptation etc) that is when I am MOST annoyed with myself. It is bad enough that Al has a hold on my life - having other people affect my drinking to suit their own requirements is not acceptable.
Oooh get me! Getting all unecessary this early in the morning....!! :H:H
Got up at 5am (the same time Greeny gets into her gym kit across the Pond. At this time I can only manage to get into a large mug of tea and, this morning anyway, a diatribe about social obligation drinking!) Feeling great due to another AF night and a FABULOUS shiatsu massage. Boy it really bought me right back down into myself and I slept like a baby (probably with the same amount of gas and dribble!) Got a full day ahead. Let's go.
ODAT my lovelies.
Love to all to come. :h
Bessie xx
Hope you got through Friday night intact. Just been reading a thread on 'obligation' - going out after work drinking, feeling obliged when friends invite you out for a drink etc. One thing I have learnt from my efforts to go AF where possible is that the obligation to drink should not be given in to. There is temptation, there is habit, there are patterns of behvaiour, there is addiction but these are all yours to deal with. The obligation is the perceived expectations of others and is their problem to deal with - absolutely no need to do anything about satisfying them where Al is concerned. I know it is really hard but that obligation is almost always only a social nicety.
I know that when I feel obliged to drink and give in to that obligation (weakened always by my other issues with Al - habit, temptation etc) that is when I am MOST annoyed with myself. It is bad enough that Al has a hold on my life - having other people affect my drinking to suit their own requirements is not acceptable.
Oooh get me! Getting all unecessary this early in the morning....!! :H:H
Got up at 5am (the same time Greeny gets into her gym kit across the Pond. At this time I can only manage to get into a large mug of tea and, this morning anyway, a diatribe about social obligation drinking!) Feeling great due to another AF night and a FABULOUS shiatsu massage. Boy it really bought me right back down into myself and I slept like a baby (probably with the same amount of gas and dribble!) Got a full day ahead. Let's go.
ODAT my lovelies.
Love to all to come. :h
Bessie xx
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