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    #1

    Newbie. My Story.

    Hey Everybody

    I am 31 yrs old and have been drinking heavily now for 10 yrs. Started in college and has just progressed over time. I regularly have 5-10oz hard liquor per evening.

    I am married with 2 young children. I know I should quit, but I don't care enough about my health to do so. Well, it's not that I don't care about my health, it's just after the stress of the day, my need to relax outweighs my care for good health.

    I've tried a few times on my own to cut back or quit, but have always fallen back off. I guess I need a reason, and my own health or seeing my grandkids just isn't enough because I'm so short sighted.

    I guess my biggest problem is that nothing in my life has suffered yet as a result of my drinking, except for my wallet. My marriage is good, I have a good career, family life is good, health is iffy but that's b/c I'm 6' 6" and 340 lbs. Am working on that too.

    I just know that eventually I'm gonna do something real stupid, or my liver is just going to quit one day, so I need to do something.

    I look forward to hanging out here and chatting.
    Sobriety Is Wasted On The Sober
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    #2
    Newbie. My Story.

    Roamer ~ welcome!

    Forgive me for saying this, but you seem to be on the fence here. I'm not sure what your goal is. If you think that you may have a problem, than you do. What could be more important than your health? Even if you don't care. What about your family? Don't you think that they would care? I hope you can love yourself enough to know that you do indeed deserve to be healthy.

    Please read as many of the posts as you can. And post with as many thoughts and questions as you want.

    Also, please get the book. You can download it or order it. There is a link at the top of the page that says Health Store. It's a quick read as it is only about 88 pages. Please read through it and then see how you feel about things.

    I'm looking forward to you hanging out here and chatting as well.

    I wish you the best of luck. We are here for you always.

    Love, Me
    :l
    Alcohol is simply the device between success and failure.

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      #3
      Newbie. My Story.

      thanks!

      it's not that I'm on the fence, it's just that I'm dragging myself kicking and screaming into doing this b/c I know it's the right thing to do even tho I really don't care to. Does that make sense?
      Sobriety Is Wasted On The Sober

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        #4
        Newbie. My Story.

        Yes, it makes perfect sense. Sometimes in life we have to do things we don't like to do.
        Please believe me when I tell you that all the work is going to be so worth it.

        There is a new thread out there called Days 1-30: "Hello Sober Living". When you get a chance, go read the post by Big Mac. I think you might find some inspiration there. It's a great post as to what he has accompliched in just 3 weeks.

        Keep posting and reading!

        Good luck!

        Love, Me
        :l
        Alcohol is simply the device between success and failure.

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          #5
          Newbie. My Story.

          will do, thanks
          Sobriety Is Wasted On The Sober

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            #6
            Newbie. My Story.

            Alcoholism is a disease of stress and as far as I know the biggest cause of any stress in my life was drink - beit physical (withdrawing from alcohol on a daily basis can cause you to feel anxious), mental (AL influences your thought patterns and behaviours), or spiritual (AL is definitely a depressant.

            You have to want to go AF though. Read a few posts and think about it - preferrably as sober as possible.

            You are in good hands here.

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              #7
              Newbie. My Story.

              thanks for the advice
              Sobriety Is Wasted On The Sober

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                #8
                Newbie. My Story.

                You are here but don't want to be. You really want to be here but are afraid of life w/o AL. I was too...but life w/o AL is better and gets better each day. You have nothing to loose if you try it and you might find that you like yourself and life more. You just think you need AL to relax. Only you can tell if you have a problem with AL. Can you have just one or two and be relaxed and stop drinking? I cannot do that.

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                  #9
                  Newbie. My Story.

                  two is about my limit....but they're a freaking big two
                  Sobriety Is Wasted On The Sober

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                    #10
                    Newbie. My Story.

                    Roamer- Welcome, you have come to a great place. It is really ok to be on the fence at this point in regards to alcohol and the role it is playing in your life. In order to make a change ,if that is what you would like , you must first really do alot of thinking and "soul-searching" , so to speak in order to make some solid changes. That, in my opinion is a normal part of the process.Sometimes in the beginning it is even hard to verbalize exactly what you are feeling and wanting to do . It sounds like you really do have a serious concern for yourself and are just starting to figure out what you want or should do about it. Keep coming back. There are lots of very supportive people here with lots of valuable advice who can really relate to what you are going through. Take Care, Aquamarine
                    NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF YOUR OWN DETERMINATION
                    AF SINCE 3/16/2016

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                      #11
                      Newbie. My Story.

                      thanks aquamarine.

                      my problem is knowing what to do, but not caring enough to do it, even though I know what it's going to do to me.

                      I will keep coming back, believe me.
                      Sobriety Is Wasted On The Sober

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                        #12
                        Newbie. My Story.

                        Roamer-The fact that you actually came on here and reached out says that you care at least a little bit about yourself. Don't sell yourself short. One bit of advice is that if you try to not drink at all for even a short period of time, when you are ready ,it can really kind of get your head a little cleared out and give you a little jump start in the right direction. You might want to try that. You might suprise yourself at what you actually have the ability to
                        do to help yourself. Aquamarine
                        NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF YOUR OWN DETERMINATION
                        AF SINCE 3/16/2016

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                          #13
                          Newbie. My Story.

                          Hi Roamer

                          I know exactly what you mean about knowing what you need to do but not caring enough to do it. I actually bought the MWO book over a year ago, had a cursory glance at this site, and did nothing. I guess I just wasn't ready, even though I knew not-so-deep-down that I had a problem. Like you I didn't binge drink and my drinking wasn't overtly affecting anything (or so I thought) so I kept putting off the decision to do something about it. Then one day last month for some inexplicable reason I just had the urge to come back to this site, read the book, order the CDs and supplements and commit to 30 days AF starting yesterday. Of course it's very early days but so far so good.

                          So I guess I'm saying I agree with Aquamarine in that this can take some soul-searching and preparation, and while I'm certainly not advocating waiting a year like I did, don't feel bad if you need to take a little time to figure out what you want to do. And I agree with everyone who says do lots of reading here - I don't think I would have waited so long if I'd done that in the first place.

                          Wooflet

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                            #14
                            Newbie. My Story.

                            thanks guys for your support. hopefully I'll be able to change the way i think just coming here and reading all the great support.

                            take care
                            Sobriety Is Wasted On The Sober

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                              #15
                              Newbie. My Story.

                              helloo out there

                              Very new to this and trying to navigate my way around useing this...i feel like i stumbled into a huge blessing...i just orderd the cds and the gaba and the kudzo stuff... i drank too much last night and made drunkin phone calls and text messages that sober i would not have done.. i then become so filled with humiliation and self loathing that it becomes crippiling,,,,, i have to work later and i feel sad and pathetic...i know alcoholis a depressent....does anyone have any ideas of thought shifts thta might help me through this day....no alcohol today .....this i know:new:

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