Dreaded first weekend AF

[Kiri]

Dreaded first weekend AF

I have only had 2 AF weekends so far and both went well as I stayed very busy. I purposely scheduled stuff for me to do of a physical nature as well as some non alcohol based social events so I would not need to get all worked up about it. I tried the self hypnosis counting when I thought of running by the bottle shop. I also used the hypnosis tapes and the topo. they seem to help. Without drinking I get a lot more done on a weekend! that is a truly cool thing too. Good books and Sudoku puzzles if you are interested in them can keep you occupied. Anyone do knitting? I don't but bet it would help. Talk to you kids. Play football youself with them. Go to a museum or garden show. Table tennis match. Whatever
Point is to do any pleasurable thing but drink or use so the pattern of drinking/using gets disconnected from the urge to drink. that is how the brain learns new patterns. Good luck
Kiri

[Hermit]

Dreaded first weekend AF

Hey Damo, how did your friday night go? Hope it went well, keep us posted!

[DAMO]

Dreaded first weekend AF

friday night was great, but tonights not, back on the beer unfortunately, have to sort this out, but really struggling,

nothing major going wrong, just feeling quite down because thats what beer is doing to me now, making me feel down.
I know this because when I do a few AF DAYS i feel great, but when I go back on the beer its all downhill and I can never just have 1 night on the beer,usually do 4 or 5 days/nights in a row and then feel really crap.
Will download the book next week when I go back to work and try again

[Hermit]

Dreaded first weekend AF

Hi Damo

Sorry to hear about your Saturday. I'm getting the book too this week - I'm sure it will help us. My weekend didn't exactly go as planned, I drank several glasses of wine last night and regret it. It's amazing how crap it makes you feel isn't it? I'm so moody today, I don't know what to do with myself! I hope your Sunday afternoon is going better and that you are able to get rid of the beer and have a 'clean' evening.

[The Londoner]

Dreaded first weekend AF

Hi Damo and all

Just wondering how you are all doing today.

Damo, I was thinking of you as i walked past countless pubs and bars heaving with men drinking beer whilst watching the footie-how did you get on? I'd say being in such a place would be pretty hellish for the non-drinker.

I know you feel a bit down after yesterday, just quietly resolve to kick the alcohol out of touch as soon as you can, with whatever method works for you-you might need to experiment! I know that for my first 30 days af I couldn't have alcho in the house and I didn't socialise with drinking friends until after that period. Boy, did my husband love me. Not.

When it comes to achieving AF.you have to say to yourself, I come first.
When you are determined to give up alcohol, in the long or the short term, you have to say to yourself, " This is War!" "A war I want to win."


So what am I doing instead of boozing? Well, now that you ask, I am celebrating something healthwise and so .................I went to the shop and bought 3, yes 3 desserts. I have only eaten 2 of 'em so far, but who knows, I might attack the rice pudding yet. The night is still young!

good luck to one and all
keep on keeping on
Anna :h

[FloridaBoy]

Dreaded first weekend AF

DAMO;324404 wrote: friday night was great, but tonights not, back on the beer unfortunately, have to sort this out, but really struggling,

nothing major going wrong, just feeling quite down because thats what beer is doing to me now, making me feel down.I know this because when I do a few AF DAYS i feel great, but when I go back on the beer its all downhill and I can never just have 1 night on the beer,usually do 4 or 5 days/nights in a row and then feel really crap.
Will download the book next week when I go back to work and try again

Hi Damo,

:goodjob: on realizing what it does to you. AL does the same thing to me..a nasty roller coaster. I like thrills but do not want to ride that one again.

[matthen]

Dreaded first weekend AF

Hi Florida -- good to see you. You and Damo describe my behavior. Only lately have I begun to realize that 4 beers on a Friday leads to 6 nights of getting drunk and feeling like I slammed into a wall. Thanks for the learning experience.

[FloridaBoy]

Dreaded first weekend AF

matthen;324692 wrote: Hi Florida -- good to see you. You and Damo describe my behavior. Only lately have I begun to realize that 4 beers on a Friday leads to 6 nights of getting drunk and feeling like I slammed into a wall. Thanks for the learning experience.

Hi Matt,

Once I realized I was not the only one, going AF became a lot easier. I just did not understand myself. AL makes me :nutso: No matter how much I tried or wanted to
be like 'normal' people regarding AL....I just can't. It is not a character defect.

FB