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    I just need to do this but can I?

    i went on a girls weekend away and when we arrived on Thursday a friend of mine was completely wasted. I hated seeing it and i know I have been that way more times than i can mention. Some of the girls were talking about this woman and discussing her drinking problem. i am pretty sure they have spoken about me in the same way...how could they not????
    I want to lose weight but why again go to Jenny Craig when i know all my efforts will be down the drain due to all I drink. I just feel horrible about myself and ashamed. I want to find a counselor good at helping people with drinking but i don't want anyone to know.
    It seems my bad feelings about myself just allows me to keep going with the drinking instead of doing something about it.
    Thank God i can at least come here and speak of it and get support.

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    I just need to do this but can I?

    FMN
    Have you read the book, or gotten any supps? I can only speek for myself but I was feeling like you are now for many many months. It was not until I actually decided that I would not allow myself to make excuses or break my promise to myself. I had to committ 100% to not drinking. It took a long time and I am a long way from where i want to be, but 1 year ago I would be shocked to have 21 AF days in a row.
    Please keep coming here. There are so many wonderful, caring and supportive pople here. This really can change your life if you want to make the change.

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      #3
      I just need to do this but can I?

      Hi formenow,

      What an eye opener it is to see others like we know we are or can be.....Try the supplements if you haven't, they do really help with depression and anxiety that comes from drinking and just causes us to drink all the more. It does take determination on our part to stay sober but is really worth it....you will be surprised by the weight you are losing just with out drinking and by eating healthy and exercising! Plus the good feeling about yourself and life with start coming back too...

      Keep reading and posting. We are all in on this together!
      Best of Luck,
      hugs, bambi
      "When you believe in a thing, believe in it all the way, implicitly and unquestionable." -- Walt Disney

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        #4
        I just need to do this but can I?

        Hello formenow. Glad to se you here. Yes, you can. You begin by getting over the shame and moving forward. I called a very good friend who is a high power divorce attorney knowing she would point me somewhere as AL was certainly in some of her cases. She referred me to someone else who I also know and had to fess up again. You cringe to think about fessing up but people think highly of you for stepping up to the plate. I was referred to an addiction therapist that doesn't take too many clients on. She was an addict of multiple things herself and understands beyond textbook. Fortunately, I only have alcohol. Lucky me. Doors don't always automaticaly open. Reach out. People are glad to take your hand. Put your heart and intentions out there. The universe will answer. Best of luck to you.
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        Thoughts become things..... choose the good ones. ~TUT

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          #5
          I just need to do this but can I?

          I have read the book,gotten the supps but don't take them consistently. I need to start again. I did order Topamax from Aclepsia pharmacy but am alittle afraid to take it due to the way i got it. Not knowing where it came from. You are right. i need to make a promise to myself and keep it. Thats what I never do. Whether it be a diet,or this horrible drinking thing. I feel so unproductive and I need that to change to be all I can be.
          Thanks for your words

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            #6
            I just need to do this but can I?

            I ordered my topamax online also from River Pharmacy. Like you I was nervous at first taking it, but it looked just like the picture for the generic.....so I took it and glad I did. It really does help with the cravings, just take as directed on this web site by starting out low and slowly increase the dose up. Oh, one of the side effects of the topa is a decrease in appetite, bonus! I lost 10 pounds!

            I am the same with you on the supplements. I do good for about 1-2 weeks and then get tired of taking all those pills all day long.......but they really do help and I find myself feeling so much better when I do.

            Hang in there, it will get better! Set a date, prepare......you'll get there!
            Hugs, Bambi
            "When you believe in a thing, believe in it all the way, implicitly and unquestionable." -- Walt Disney

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              #7
              I just need to do this but can I?

              How much better would you feel and proud if your friends were saying how well you were doing - recognising your problem and being sober.

              It doesn't come for a while but everyone starts to notice when you get sober, even yourself!

              Oh, and the weight is easy to shift without all that booze.

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                #8
                I just need to do this but can I?

                formenow;328693 wrote: It seems my bad feelings about myself just allows me to keep going with the drinking instead of doing something about it.
                Thank God i can at least come here and speak of it and get support.
                Formenow,

                Why don't you see a therapist about the low self esteem issue. As the relationship with the therapist evolves you may (or may not) then care to reveal the drinking issues. :h Whatever you do, do something :l

                Take Care,


                Myheart
                Patience has its limits. Take it too far, and it's cowardice.
                - George Jackson

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                  #9
                  I just need to do this but can I?

                  It is wonderful to come here and get suppurt and I too have issues with not wanting anyone to know.

                  I found what I was looking for here, just when I was ready to "kill the AL beast". I am wishing you the best in your battle with the AL beast.

                  PS, I have lost so much weight since I joined MWO and cut back my drinking. And it has just fallen off without even trying to lose weight.

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                    #10
                    I just need to do this but can I?

                    formenow: Have you looked in on the one day at a time thread (ODAT) here in the "Just Starting" forum? It's a good thread for just staying off alcohol for a day at a time. Also, keep coming here to MWO. You'll find camaraderie, support, & a great deal of understanding. Mary
                    Wisdom, Courage, Strength
                    October 3, 2012

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                      #11
                      I just need to do this but can I?

                      Hello for me now and welcome
                      The thing is all those bad feelings about yourself are probably because of the AL and the consequent lack of control of your life - not the other way around. It doesnt actually help at all it just makes everything so much worse. I now have 49 days AF and my confidence and self esteem are restored as I now know I have nothing to hide. It feels so good its like a drug in itself.
                      Most people are very supportive when I tell them. You could just say something like you are giving up drinking because it makes you sick. Its true isnt it. Anything else that made you sick you would give up. I find it helps to try and think positive about giving it up like as if its a challenge (like doing a marathon or something) and each day is the finish line. Like every challenge it hurts but the rewards are so worth it. Anyway keep posting and letting us know how you are doing.
                      BH

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                        #12
                        I just need to do this but can I?

                        Hi FMN, welcome.

                        As others have said (including yourself), beating Al requires you making a promise to yourself and keeping it. Having done this myself for the past 20 days, I can't describe what a huge difference it makes to your self-esteem. To feel in control of your own life, to be able to trust yourself - these things are priceless and well worth the effort involved. And it really does get easier as the days go by.

                        Look forward to hearing how you're doing.

                        Wooflet x

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                          #13
                          I just need to do this but can I?

                          It is so wonderful to check in and see all the people who take the time to respond to my post. it does give me strength for the day. Thank you so much.

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