Don't know what to do

[Seacailin]

I stumbled upon this site, looking for alternatives to AA. I have spent a good chunk of my life in AA, and feel that it doesn't work. I have been battling alcohol for 20 years, 12 of them sober, but I am Not going back to AA, and I am drinking more than I would like to.

[Bambi]

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Dear Seacailin,

Welcome! This is a great site, full of information and support. We are all in the same boat just in different areas of the river.....some choose to drink moderately other choose AF (alcohol free). The one thing we all have in common is that we like to drink way to much and want support and help with our common problem. There is a book and supplements that go with this program that help bunches. Some use all the tools others just use this site. Keep reading and posting....I look forward to getting to know you better!

Best of luck to you.
Hugs, Bambi

[AMELIA]

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Hi Seacailin,
Welcome!!
:welcome::welcome:

This site and the programme could really work wonders for you if AA isn't your thing right now.
You have had 12 sober years so maybe if you added some or all of the supps listed in the MWO programme, you may be less likely to have a slip.
There are 6000 members here now with a lot of support to give.
Read the My Way Out book if you can. Very inspirational.

[karbihere]

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Sorry to hear that

Sorry to hear that AA hasnt worked for you. I myself am a retread in AA and for me it stopped working for me when I didnt want it to work. Like straying away, becoming complacement and not having a opened mind, and of course just not being honest with myself. This is great website I use it as another TOOL to hear other peoples experience strengh and hope. I know I can always come to this website and know that Im not alone battling this killer thing called DRUNKENESS..... good luck and hang around

[Seacailin]

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Thank u all for making me feel welcome. I know why AA did not work for me. It was me, not the program. I always got involved with men. I know, stupid. I am just exploring other options.

[cowgal]

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welcome

I am doing AA and MWO right now.....................................not really working the AA program as well as a stellar member should, but hey, it gives me quite a social life!

Take what you want from both if you want, that is what I am doing now...............it works pretty well, have had 9 months in AA and was MISERABLE!!! Kept waiting for that ever evasive "miracle" to happen!! We will do ANYTHING in our power to be supportive and help you here, you have found a great place,

Again, WELCOME!!!!!!:welcome:

love :hand hugs:l,

MA

[Seacailin]

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:thanks:

[Guest]

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12 years is great! I still am not where I want to be with AL, but I am working on it. Have you ordered the supps yet? They do work. The boost you will get from here will help as well. There are so many great people here, you will always find support when you need it. Don't be shy, dig right in and try to remain optimistic. As hard as that is somedays... ((hugs))

[karbihere]

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Seacailin I know just where your coming from. my sponsor says AA is just like a bar with out the booze, although we now cant blame the booze on our actions. OUCH !!! it took me years and years to understand why they say give yourself a year in the program before you start dating. I have watched so many people jump right into someones pants and forget about them selves, and the big price is going out and getting loaded, Ive done it but thank god I had the faith to go right back to the program. So i finally learned that one my excuses to go out have been over multiple deaths in my family and simply things not going MY way. ( imagine that ) as I sit here again with almost 10 months of sobriety I have to remind myself on a daily and some times a minute basis that I have no control over anything but the results of my actions. Each time I have relasped I come back into the program more desperate and full of guilt and fear then ever before, Today I try and try and make my fear a healthy fear and what I mean by that is remembering where I came from and not ever wanting to go back to that. Its hard to get sober and stay sober but I know it is possible, Im doing it today no matter what I just dont drink or use, and I can honestly say today my life is alot better, its far from perfect but all Im striving for is a little progress. Thanks a mill for your honesty, thats a huge step!!!!! hang in there

[Seacailin]

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Hmmm....

Still confused as to if I should rejoin AA, because I know where I always screw up, or try alternatives alone. I appreciate all of the input. I just know that I cannot continue, and I am becoming seriously depressed

[Guest]

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Do you have anyone that you can talk to? Either a professional, or even a friend. I have one person but I can be completely open and honest with him about everything. And the help he has been giving me has been amazing for my own self esteem, my self worth. You should do what feelr right for you, only you know that. And if it's AA for a while, then go for it.

[Guest]

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I too tried AA thinking it would give me a miracle cure - it obviously doesn't and I just carried on getting worse. I came to realise it isn't a way of GETting sober but a way to keep your head clear once the booze has been removed.

1 year ago I hated the meetings and just sat through them before going home to drink -result loss of my driving licence and almost lost my life a few times since. A miracle did happen to me in March, now I look forward to AA - it's a social occasion if anything. The last few days have been quite stressful for me and last night I got some worrying news - this morning I knew I needed a meeting so have searched for one on their website. Since I can't drive at the moment I text my partner and asked if he will drive me - means waiting around for him in a different town but he is more than willing to do it if it keeps my sobriety.

So it can be done!

[Seacailin]

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Not very good at opening up

I have a best friend, but she is dealing with a teenage son who is addicted to heroin. I have one other close friend, but he is dealing with the same problem as me (alcohol). I have a sister, but I have alot of trouble sharing with her. She knows of the years of my struggle. She is a possible. She did not understand before, but she has grown and changed, and has actually educated herself on alcoholism and depression since it has affected so many members of our family.

[Seacailin]

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Display name

I know my display name seems strange. It is Gaelic. Yes, blessed to be Irish on both sides.lol

[cedar]

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Hi Seacailin, welcome here ! looks like you quickly getting the hang of posting ! We've got a thread going for all of us who joined here in May - so pull in if you feel like it. I was going to PM (Private message you) but was not sure if you had got round to that yet...
hope to see you there...

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f9...8-a-22255.html

love cedar