Is It worse? Or is it all bad?

[one of 7]

hi

was just reflecting on some posts here. I recently posted in need help asap after a bad binge. And I have been doing a hell of a lot better since. no vodka, moderating on wine.

my question is, is it worse that you start your drinking early in the day, rather than being that bottle of wine a night person? What if you are a bottle of wine a day person? What if you drink the same but over a longer period of time? Does that make the nighttime drinkers better than us daytime ones? I'm not judging anyone. just asking for opinions, good or bad.

the long and the short of it is, anyone of us that knows we are drinking excessively at whatever time of the day knows it is a bad thing to do. But drinkers in the daytime are almost "looked down on". maybe that's just my opinion. I don't know. I am interested in responses.

for my reasons, the daytime drinking started when my husband was out all day and i was lonely. when he came home I never drank. Can anyone relate? I am on my own now as my husband left and we have one child


Thanx

sorry this was long but i was trying to get my point across (not very well it seems)

Day 8 of mods

[FloridaBoy]

Is It worse? Or is it all bad?

It makes no difference...your liver does not wear a watch.

[Lila]

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I know what you mean. It seems like during the day is more outside of our cultural norms. Like what is the problem with drinking alone? As opposed to with others? It's supposed to be worse, but what if you are an introvert? Lots of people drank more than I ever did or could, and with lots of people.
But during the day, then if there is an emergency or something to do, well, you can't function; drive a car or anything. And then you don't stop until you go to bed, maybe so it is more.
But I agree with FB; to your liver it is the same.
I'm glad you're here, and there's lots of different kinds of drinkers here!
Lila

[Bambi]

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Dear onof7,

I can so relate. I am a stay at Mom and drink during the day out of boredom and being all alone. I don't drink in the evenings (unless I started earlier in the day and on a major binge....but most evenings I will stop by the time my hubby and kids get home) and don't drink on the weekends when everyone is home. I find I don't even crave it then either so I do know my drinking habits are due to being lonely. I am in the process of looking for a part time job or volunteer work to get me out of the house during the day to hopefully help me.

As far as who is better.....none are better, we all drink and are here for the same reason. Like Florida Boy said, are livers don't care what time of the day it is!

Best of luck to you,
Hugs, Bambi

[bestlifeldms]

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There can be emergencies during the night too, or during the day with our children. Very scarey to think of what could happen. Our reactions times are slower, or reasoning skills are impaired. Someones life could be dependent on our being able to make an accurate split second decision.

I too drank alone, when lonely. Could go long periods of time, on vacation - etc. without. Just that hollow empty feeling - pacified by alcohol. At least I thought it helped.

It still makes my blood run cold to think what might have happened had I gotten that call late in the evening, when my hub was at work, that one of the kids had been in an accident. The twins & 2 other boys were in a wreck once, about 8:00 in the evening. Thank God, I was fine for a change. 2 had to be life flighted to the city. I could never have lived with myself.

Lots to think about...

[evie]

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Hi,One of 7
I can understand what you mean about maybe being 'looked down upon' but at the end of the day too much alcohol is too much! I'm the drink in the evening person (just don't get cravings in day) but over the week I was drinking far far too many units and my liver over the years would be shot to bits!
As has already been said emergency's can happen anytime, thankfully it didn't while i was alone with the children - can't believe how selfish I can behave.
So I reckon its all pretty bad! Well done on cutting out the vodka and on moderating - you have come such a long way ( I remember reading your posts a while back). :goodjob:
Keep on going!
Eviexx

[matthen]

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Hi 1 of 7

Can't really offer serious advice because sometimes I start at 9 am and other times at 6 pm. Both stink, if you want my opinion. I am on day 12 sober and I like this quite a lot. Just got to keep that beast away from me. God Bless and good luck.

btw: I actually think that the daytime drinker is more stigmatized than the night time boozer, but as Florida put it so well, the liver does not wear a watch .

[Accountable for Me]

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"It is noon somewhere in the world!" was a saying I use to use to make myself feel better when drinking during the day.

When I drank, I preferred drinking in the daytime. I was never much of an evening drinker. I don't know why it was that way for me. I even enjoyed at times getting up in the morning, having a couple of cups of coffee, shower etc., and then have a drink. Of course this was different when I worked. Although there were many, many, many ocassions I would have a couple of drinks to kill the hang over from the day before and go to work. UGH.... thinking back to that now............ what H*ll!

Drinking during the morning or during the day has a stigma - but ultimately drinking too much at anytime of the day is not good for you.

[Guest]

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I don't think it matters how or when we drank - just the fact the end result was the same.

I drank in binges which could be 1 or 4 days, always started in the evening until I passed out. Sometimes I would drink next morning - sometimes stop completely or start at lunchtime, early evening. Sometimes I couldn't start again because I was too sick so woul wait up to 8 hours til I could sit up without fainting and keep something in my stomach. I may wake in the night and pick up a can or bottle. I tried rules - time or just one bottle of wine..........

I do believe the fact you need a rule for a time or limit then that is a sign you are alcoholic.

Best way is to find what you are comfortable with and don't have to 'rule' your life with.

[boozehag]

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Obviously there is no rhyme or reason for the multitude of different patterns that people with drinking problems have. In my case I would binge drink every 3/4 days - I could for example start at 6pm in the evening and still be going at 4am or later on occasion. I didnt drink during the day and rarely drank alone at home and never hid my drinking as such. All so called "social drinking" but still talking probably 10-12 drinks maybe 2/3 times a week. I also binge smoked at the same time - just to really finish myself off. Once I started I would just keep going and going and going.
I would envy people who would say they passed out at 7pm or 8pm - I wish. Even if it was every night!
Now that I am heading for 2 months AF and NF I think in retrospect that my paticular binge/smoking drinking pattern may have been slightly easier to kick (after years of trying!!) than a daily smaller intake as it is easier for me to avoid the triggers and the pattern was not a daily one and once I got the 30 days AF I knew I could break that binge pattern.
Anyway thats just my tuppence worth in case it helps.
BH

[one of 7]

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thanx all for you replies. basically i have come to the conclusion
1. it's all bad
2. my own self-loathing is probably worse than what anyone else ever thought of me after discovering i was a daytime drinker

got to keep climbing this hill but oh boy it's steep.

nice to wake up without reaching for the old vodka bottle. going to try for an AF day today. Just got to get those horse sized tablets down my throat

[Guest]

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BH, you sound very much like myself 6 years ago. Pretty soon I moved on to drinking at home (before and after going out), then mostly at home since it was 'safer' that way - then of course the nights ran into the mornings - time doesn't matter really.

I remember someone at my gym telling me they would drink all afternoon at weekend, fall asleep in front of the TV, wake in the early hours (say 1 or 2 am), have some more to drink before finally going to bed around 3 or 4am. Where does morning start?

[cedar]

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hi oneofseven, just to add my morning drinking tales... i have drunk wine in the shower, wine for breakfast, wine while i work at my computer (i work from home), wine while driving to meetings, have finished off a bottle before lunch and then some, gone to bed by then feeling somewhat sober, then metally beating myself up because of being such a weak stupid shit. 'Hiding' it from everyone, i think even hiding it from myself... wine in a water bottle (duh)...
All that makes day 12 AF all the more precious and LOVING going to sleep with peaceful thoughts in my head x

[boozehag]

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I would never have been able to drink in the morning or during the day for the simple reason that drinking was party time for me. I didnt give me the buzz that some people talk about and I didnt need the slow constant trickle that other people talk about. It was more like an instant rocket fuel to the brain (especially accompanies by the obligatory hit of nicotene) the combination would make me high as a kite basically from the first drink/cig. But what goes up must come down...... with a bang - hangovers to beat all hangovers. Hence the inability to drink again for at least 3/4 days - although the gap was starting to narrow lately. 1 of 7 there is no point in worrying about what any one else thinks about you (in fact I have come to the conclusion that most people really only think about themselves) - we just imagine they are thinking about us - a bit like looking at photos - people only ever look at themselves! So you just focus on your goal and keep talking to us. You just try and find what will work for you even it it takes some trial and error.
BH

[My New Beginning]

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Hi 1 of 7. Boozehag is right. Mostly people are only thinking of themselves even though we think that they are focusing on us. It doesn't matter 'when' you drink, it's how bad you want to stop and have a better life without the bastard al dragging you down.
I used to start drinking at 5:00 pm and not stop til I basically passed out. Always drank at home where nobody would see me and I felt safe. My SO only drinks about 2 beers a week so he knew how much I was drinking even though I tried my hardest to hide the bottles etc. People know. We don't fool anyone. Not even ourselves.
Please keep coming back and reading and posting. You will find alot of support here.

Love and Peace