Tired of the fight
Cherbear,
I know this sounds cheezy but it does hold true. AA has a saying to watch out for HALT: hungry, angry, lonely, tired.
I also say hungry,hurting because of my mental state last week while in so much pain.
It is extremely critical to concentrate on staying on as even a keel as possible, especially in the first few weeks.
When we let ourselves get wrapped up in the world and not thinking about taking extra good care of ourselves, we put ourselves at risk for slipping.
For the first few weeks, Cherbear, put staying sober as #1 and do WHATEVER IT TAKES to be there and stay there.
One of the reasons I go to AA, especially when out of town in a city alone, is the lonely part. It does help to be around others, especially in the evenings, where otherwise I would be tempted to be at the bar.
The angry part, remove yourself from people who can upset you. We can't always avoid getting angry, life throws crap at us, but when you do find yourself getting angry, step back and talk to yourself about it. It is not worth letting anger lead you back to drink.
Remember, sobriety needs to be the most important thing. Without sobriety, everything else has no meaning. We will lose everything else that is important eventually because of our drinking.
Sorry if this is so long, but I do hope you think about this.
Love,
Cindi
Cherbear,
I know this sounds cheezy but it does hold true. AA has a saying to watch out for HALT: hungry, angry, lonely, tired.
I also say hungry,hurting because of my mental state last week while in so much pain.
It is extremely critical to concentrate on staying on as even a keel as possible, especially in the first few weeks.
When we let ourselves get wrapped up in the world and not thinking about taking extra good care of ourselves, we put ourselves at risk for slipping.
For the first few weeks, Cherbear, put staying sober as #1 and do WHATEVER IT TAKES to be there and stay there.
One of the reasons I go to AA, especially when out of town in a city alone, is the lonely part. It does help to be around others, especially in the evenings, where otherwise I would be tempted to be at the bar.
The angry part, remove yourself from people who can upset you. We can't always avoid getting angry, life throws crap at us, but when you do find yourself getting angry, step back and talk to yourself about it. It is not worth letting anger lead you back to drink.
Remember, sobriety needs to be the most important thing. Without sobriety, everything else has no meaning. We will lose everything else that is important eventually because of our drinking.
Sorry if this is so long, but I do hope you think about this.
Love,
Cindi
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