newbie

[renewal]

Hello there....I am a 48 year old gentleman in need of support. I am a professional who has a drinking problem. I only drink late at night after work (I get home from work around midnight).......I've never done any other drugs in my life, but can't seem to stop drinking. My main issue is accountability. I live alone, so after a stressful night at work, I lean on a few drinks to unwind.....with nobody around to stop me. I'm a pretty high functioning guy in a lot of ways....except this issue. I've never been to any kind of treatment, but would greatly appreciate any help this forum can provide. Thank you so much and I hope to hear from you. Renewal

[biscuit]

newbie

Hey welcome, I am on the west coast so it is still early here, so I wanted to make sure you got
someone to talk to until all the others have got up. I joined (be 5 days tomorrow) so I am
a newbie also. I just want to encourage you to read everything you can on this site. Read
other peoples story, you will find out you are not alone and lots of help here. I am almost
5 days alcohol free and proud.

Biscuit

[biscuit]

newbie

brain fog, 5 days since my last drink. don't want to misrepresent.

[Cinders]

newbie

Renewal,

:welcome:

Have you read the MWO book yet? It is an inexpensive download from this site and well worth the investment. Cheaper than a good bottle of wine.

It has information in it that can help with quitting, such as supplements that help the body heal faster and help with cravings.

Glad you are here and look forward to getting to know you.

Cindi

[jessie]

newbie

Hallo Renewal,
Very welcome and you will get all the support you need. Just admitting that you have a problem is the first and most important step towards control. Congratulations.
About accountability, I am not the only one who started to drink secretly. It seems that especially women tend to drink in secret because the stigma is worse for them, even in these enlighted times. So even having family living with me (Kids) did not stop me. It only made me hide it and do the most disgusting things like drinking in the car and dumping the evidence before I got home. Can't begin to tell you what that does to self respect!
Well, good luck, you are on the right road.
Jessie

[patricia]

newbie

Hi, Welcome - I only joined a couple of weeks ago - initially to do a 30 day challenge and everybody has been really helpful. Day 14 for me (done 13 nights AF) and I think it's largely due to being able to log onto this website. Like you only drink at night but everynight although I do go for vast amounts of time AF as well but have a relative who's almost down and out and it scares the hell out of me. Welcome - you'll find lots of support here. P

[Evie.Lou]

newbie

Hello and welcome,You truly sound like a gentleman,and a wise one at that.I am a highly functioning Alcoholic as well.I always have been able to work and be a responible person that many others looked up to.Never any DUIs or public drunkeness.It was my deep dark secret.I acted compident and capable.That was what the outside world saw.Inside I felt powerless and unable to control my drinking.One drink would always lead to more and that lead to self hatred.By following the program here at MWO I have been able to get 36days in a row AF.The people here understand what you are going thru and will help you stop drinking.So much better to do it now before the BEAST distroys your life.Dont sit alone at home after work.With this site you will never have to be alone again.Read different peoples stories and I know you will find people that you can relate to.Ask on ASAP for a buddy to help you in a more personal way.It helps me to do that for new people and I am sure you will find it to help you to.you are in a good place,stay close...Evie

[LVT25]

newbie

Renewal--

:welcome:

I think this would be a great program for you. Even though I don't "Know" anyone here and i don't have to to "tell" anything, I still feel a bit accountable to them!

There are people from all time zones here, so you could be here instead of drinking. I think it's important to change your routine--drink something different when you get home, eat.

I also recommend you start with the book and go from there!

[renewal]

newbie

Thank you to all who responded to my first post last night. I,m truly impressed and pleased to see the support offered. I've never done this or any treatment before. As a fairly proud man, this is pretty hard to admit I can't control this......I'm not afraid to say, I NEED YOU. Can't tell you how many start dates I have set to quit, only to fail each and every time....well, gonna try again, with all of you. It's gonna be tomorrow (Tues 6/17). I don't get home from work till midnight Arizona time. I'm going to go straight to the computer and log on as soon as I set foot in the door....rather than my customary trip to the liquor cabinet. I will truly be blessed if some of you have left me whatever 'tools' you can to get me through tomorrow night.....I live alone, but cannot do this alone. I'm reaching out to anybody who can help me get started. I don't know any of you, but respect this forum and all the members. Thank you so much and I truly hope to see you tomorrow night when I get home........Renewal

[Seacailin]

newbie

Welcome

I am just beginning the journey myself, and I know that I cannot do this alone. I am single also. My two grown children live with me, but they are not around often. I have alot of alone time, which is not good. The people here have given me much support and very helpful suggestions. Look forward to getting to know u.

[lukalee]

newbie

Hi Renewal. I'm in AZ. too. Hotter than crap today. I think my skin is melting off my body. Just wanted to say welcome!!!!

[57Shelby]

newbie

Renewal, Welcome!!!!!! So happy to have you join us! I am fairly new here and would NEVER have been able to make it to where I am without this site and the wonderful people here. I am starting week 3 AF. I started the 30 day AF challenge on June 1st. After that, I will consider my options whether to try to moderate my drinking or remain AF. At this point, I just focus on today. I am enjoying the feeling of waking up clear headed, without the self-loathing. There is a peace settling in for me, replacing the negative energy spent on the battle with AL.

I look forward to getting to know you. I will be fast asleep when you get home from work, but I wanted to post and say hello and offer my support to you. You will do this!!!! You are not alone if you come here! You will learn the tools you need to replace the old habits and create new behaviors and be successful. Keep coming back! Look forward to hearing more from you.
Shelby

[louise]

newbie

Welcome (again, also saw you on general). Sounds like you have a plan. As you read here you will find many who have hidden their problem well and have good jobs, families, etc. The best to you on an alcohol free night.

[patricia]

newbie

Hi Renewal

It's the decision to stop and sticking to it for that initial period is the hardest isn't it. I've made that decision a million times and broken it a million times and then something clicks and it happens - I'm sure it will for you. LVT25 says make a drink when you get home and I agree but I really am the laziest - I was desperate for a cuppa last night - it would have been good for me but I was just too lazy - some things never change! Think you're in a completely different time zone to me but wishing you many positive thoughts during your witchin hours . . . . . .P

[57Shelby]

newbie

Hi Renewal, Hope things are going well for you. You sound determined to succeed. When you feel like you want to drink, come here. I read and see myself in other's posts. It makes me stop and think and get my head out of the cycle of the routine. Once you get the supplements you can take them to curb the cravings before you even walk in the door. THAT in itself is very helpful to ME. The first night I ever got home and was about to serve dinner and it hit me that I had not thought about a glass of wine until that very moment was unbelievable. Even at that, it wasn't that I thought about it because I wanted it, I dawned on me just like, oh, wow, you didn't even think about it!!!!! That was a grand moment in my life.
Have a great day.
Shelby