Well, here goes... been up all night thinking about how much i'm drinking and how i'm realizing that if i don't do something about it.. its gonna get worse! drinking a bottle of wine a night and going to bed without feeling drunk,, think that says it all and for the fact that i'm on this sight, says it even louded!! Today i want to make changes but know that by the time i get home from work tonight, i'll be wanting that first glass.
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Welcome Smiley, We are here for you. Start One Day at a time. Say just for tonight.
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doesn't everyone agree that drinking is not only genetic habit but also is avoidance and abstinence of the dangers of authenticity of life??? That's what scares the shit out of me. I used to be embroiled in what 'life' truly meant and that i was a part of it!! the core part. Now I drink for all those base reasons....as if i purposely want to provoke 'normal people', i want 'normal people' to know that i'm not happy with the way things are. I used to be an anarchist, now i'm a nobody that still wishes to provoke reaction.....and fuck! its not the type of reaction i planned.....i do NOT do WELL if life doesn't fit my plan. Am i a control freak? I always thot I was uber-liberal....hippyish...now i'm just a loser and want to say 'fuck you' to al lthe people that have put me in that box....and yet a box it is....hippy-ism is including....now i isolate myself by other peoples obtrusive-ism.....somehow i'm the only one working all this out...and that says (fucking) something!Comment
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When do you know you've got a problem... i know a bottle of wines too much!! but i'm making excuses to myself all the time... should i try alcohol free days and judge by the cravings i get?Comment
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Smiley, Everyone is different. Have you ever taken a problem drinker questionaire ? For me it was the inability to stop at one and was moving on to 2 bottles. Them it became every day. I also was starting to have backouts.Comment
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I'm feeling the same as you smiley. We KNOW it's too much. And we think we will just give it up for a few days. This morning I was ready to quit and now, as we near the afternoon, my resolve is weakening. :new:Comment
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smiley only u know what is too much and how it is affecting you. I think as well as loads of other things drinking is habit if you come in form work and have a drink its a habit so you need to try and break the habit, its all about mind set it helped me saying i can drink what i like but i choose not to and i brought juice etc to subsittie having a drink and now after the initial week i now have af beer and wine some of it is fairly good got the taste but not the effects. hope some of this is helpfulComment
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Welcome Lemonlover, and hello Daisydoo, I agree, alot is just the habit. I took enjoy AF beer and wine. I have that when I feel a craving and busy myself till I can get the feeling to pass. It has taken me over a year but if you set your mind to it you can do this.Comment
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Stop now while you are still not sure if you have a problem. You wouldnt be here if you didnt feel that you were on the slippery slope. Give it the heave ho while you have a chance as it adds nothing to any of our lives. Dont wait until you get to the blackout stage which will most definitely happen as it is a sneaky little devil that will slowly creep up on you and drag you down. I was like you too for ages until gradually I could remember less and less about what happened the night before etc. I am not binge drinking any more and am so pleased about that but I sure wish I had done it sooner.
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Hi lemon welcome on board , god this all such a bind if only we could say thats it I am never drinking again and hey presto we didin't it would be great but its not like that and we just have to slog away at it and hope one day it will click and we wont think about drinking, I want to sing if from the rafters that its clicked for me been 7 weeks not getting comlacement though I am doing a 1 2 1 programme that is on the phone and brilliant . A big thing ias beleiving it will work so believe u won't have a drink tonight good luck xComment
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I did a problem drinking questionaire at some website.. told me to see a Dr. Guess that means i've got a problem. I know deep down that i've got to make changes, I've got great kids and a good husband and reailze that drinkings becoming a real habit for me. All my friends and family drink, i'm going to have a real battle keeping away from temptationComment
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Start with the book if you can and keep coming here. Find a doctor or therapist you trust even if it takes a couple as it did me.Comment
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Got to get ready for work now.. thanks for all the advice... it is a sneaky little devil and i can feel it creeping up on me.. tonight i will absolutely try my best to divert all my tho!!ughts away from that bottle... good luck to all of youComment
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yes.... good luck all. stay strong!Comment
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Larissa, I really relate to what you're saying and I've been thinking about it a lot since I tend to "lose it" in social situations, mostly when I'm uncomfortable (feeling "less than") or pissed off by people I don't relate to. This is what happened to me last weekend and I woke up and thought 'if someone says something that upsets me why am I taking it out on myself'? Is this an act of hostility towards them? It certainly seems antisocial, a way of "disappearing" from the situation. Sometimes I make a unconscious choice to just "check out". This is the behavior that was modeled for me by my mother. She and my dad had to entertain his clients a lot and sometimes she would just get blitzed, which my sisters and I found disgusting and embarrassing. As I am getting older (54) I see how much she and I are alike and I see her pain and insecurity behind it all. She is no longer living, but I know she would want me to do better than her. To find a way to "show up" for myself and my life. It will be interesting to go to a party and actually "be there'. I think it's important to try to figure out what drives us as part of this process. Thanks for listening."As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
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