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**Panacea** · July 16, 2008, 12:04 PM

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Hey Sunlover!

I'm new too, only 6 days sober, and about your age at 44. We ALL have so many similar stories, it's very comforting for me...hopefully you too. Sorry, I don't have any real tips for you, being so early into this, but I can tell you one thing....the first few days were hard....getting better everyday, and I FEEL CLEAR HEADED. I feel as if I'm becoming more alive every day. Late afternoons and evenings are hard, but last night I came here, everyone was fantastic, and I made it through.

Others with more experience and wisdom will post soon, but I just wanted to say hi, and I'm here if ya need me. I KNOW this is the right choice, and something I must do and that, plus this place with such great people is whats keeping me sane.

You're in the right place. Keep reading and posting. It was hard for me at first, but now you can't shut me up! (sorry peeps!)

**Sunlover** · July 16, 2008, 12:22 PM

Newbie....

Thanks guys. I can't believe how many stories are similar to mine. It is really comforting.

SL

**Readyornot** · July 16, 2008, 12:29 PM

Newbie....

Welcome! Im only on Day 4...but it's already made a difference. Our stories are so similar...it's kind of freaky, but at the same time very reassuring. Be good to yourself during this rocky time. I suggest some sort of physical activity, a dog, good sex, and chocolate(no...not all at once. That would just be weird) We're in this together. And as crowded as it is, it's SO much better than being alone! :welcome:

**Seacailin** · July 16, 2008, 04:27 PM

Newbie....

Welcome

I am a 46 year old woman who also drank to quell the anxiety and panic attacks, trust me, they just got worse and worse, and I had to drink more and more. It is a vicious cycle. I did have to get help from a doctor to withdraw, but am now 12 days alcohol free. It is not easy, but well worth it. Just to be able to "show up" for life is amazing. I had several years of alcohol free time in the past and was able to eventually taper off all meds for anxiety and depression. It just went away after some time off the alcohol. I wish u well on your journey and look forward to your posts. You Can Do This!!!

**Evie.Lou** · July 16, 2008, 04:44 PM

Newbie....

:welcome::welcome::welcome:Spent lots of time reading old posts and going to chat to build a support system....That helped me beyond belief..

**tlrgs** · July 16, 2008, 04:58 PM

Newbie....

:hello2::colorwelcome::wave::groupluv:

**daisy-doo** · July 16, 2008, 05:07 PM

Newbie....

welcome sun lover and new guys. I have been on and off here for two years done all the mods meds and now been af for 8 nearly 9 weeks and its brill never felt better. My advise keep looking around to till you find whats right for you. I am doing a private home telephone programme its brill and after 25 years of destructive drinking found something that works for me . Golden rule for me having faith that it would work givng up for me really wanting to give up and being nice to myself in other area I eat cakes for fun now and why not I never gave a second though to how many calories I was drinking and I agree witht hte great sex thing too it sooooo much better when you are sober and can remember it lol and lets be honest there is only so much in life you can give up. Hope some of my ramblings have been helpfull oh and hallo to trgs not caught up with you for a while, hope you are doing good

DD x

**vera-b** · July 16, 2008, 05:14 PM

Newbie....

Sunlover,

Once again Evie's got some great advice - I didn't realize it at first, but you can go back through and read old threads in any category to get some perspective on what has or hasn't worked for many. There's a thread in the general discussion category "Newbies Unite" that may be of particular interest. We have more in common than differences, and booze is not our friend. I'm working on modding, but am very vigilant and will turn to AF if I feel I can't handle it. I will NOT let my life be defined by alcohol. Just ain't gonna happen. Best of luck to you--

V.

**daisy-doo** · July 16, 2008, 05:18 PM

Newbie....

whow dolphin you are brillant to come from where you was to where you are now thats amazing can't be easy to stop drinking a bottle of vodka a day to become af what an inspiration to us all and I know i bore people ridged saying this you can drink what you like but you are choosing not too and that shows how brilliant you are really uplifted me reading what you have done thank you

DD x

**mwo2** · July 16, 2008, 07:39 PM

Newbie....

You have found a great place to help you. I am AF 18 days and am doing with the help of mwo. I am 47 with 3 tweeners and my story is so much like everyone here it is amazing. There is strength here that will bring out your own inner strength. YOU CAN DO IT !

**keke** · July 17, 2008, 02:43 PM

Newbie....

To all of us 40 something year old women out there. What a great way to start the second half of our lives. I had been so lonely before this program. I am now learning that alcohol is a very parasitic friend. It just keeps taking and taking. Thank you all for being out there and willing to share your stories. The only thing I miss right now is that great big hug. Anyone figured out how to send those yet? See you tomorrow!!! keek

**gyco** · July 17, 2008, 03:15 PM

Newbie....

hi sun welcom to our way out,beats drinkin yur self to death? got questions,theres always som 1 here to answer it,we all ask pretty mucht the same questions ,booze how do we lik it,how do we live wit or without it ,but most of all we ,i stree the word WE, as eve would say strength coms in numbers,will help you the best we can gyco

**gyco** · July 17, 2008, 03:16 PM

Newbie....

gee tht writin is a bit to be desired gyco

**photobuff** · July 19, 2008, 05:29 PM

Newbie....

Hi Sunlover,

I just turned 40 in may 2008 and have suffered from anxiety and panic attacks
for the last 15 years but only started abusing AL in the last 3-4 years. Here
is what I just posted in some other forum.

photobuff.

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Wow!!

Thanks....Didn't expect so many replies. Right now my mood changes between a sense
of "Yes I can do it" to "Oh! God one month without AL"...BTW I am not planning on taking Topamax..right now. As I mentioned earlier, before I started the MWO program
(just listening to the CDs) I used to drink 5 days a week after work, anywhere between
6-8 drinks and then drive back home with no memory whatsoever. Used to wake
up feeling horrible (I also suffer from anxiety/panic attacks for which I take Clonazepam)
pop Clonazepams all day, promise to never drink again and do the same thing next eve.

As I started to listen to the CDs, an almost magical transformation happened...the urge
to drink around 3-4 pm was still there but not as strong. I started going to the gym at
work and after 2 hours of working out (love doing weights) lost all desire to drink.

Finally, as the wife allowed drinking at home on Fridays; I still find that I cannot (yet)
drink in moderation.....

So I decided to take the next step..I ordered the Kudzu extract, the all in one vitamin
supplement and the Calms forte. I still feel a little overwhelmed by the thought of
remembering to take all of these.

Let's see how it goes...This is my last hope
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