Hopeless and lost

[Frogzter]

Hopeless and lost

I sit here and cry at all the amazing and warm people on this site that are slow to judge and quick to reach out! I have been the trial lawyer, the judge and jury in my own case and deemed myself unworthy, condemned... yet here you all are telling me that it will get better and I must take a different perspective in order for that to happen.

THANK YOU ALL FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY BROKEN HEART!

[gyco]

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hi frog your wrong you are capable,yur here,yur husband doesnt hav a lot of tolerance till death do us part,your son well if he thinks this is painful he should of tried havin him, himself yur a good lady never for get tht,the aa book the words are one persons opinion,here u get a open option AA you dont total critisism.i no ive been there plenty.were here 4 you as they say at AA keep comin back gyco

[startingover]

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Hi Frogz,

I am new here and probably not in a position to offer any advice. However, I would like to say that my thoughts and prayers are with you and I hope with all my heart that you feel better soon.
xx

[Thankful]

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Frogz, so sorry you are having such a tough time now. I too wish I had the right words to say, but I fall short.

I do know that you can never give up. But you also have to want this for yourself. You can't do this to make other people happy. Please know that life is so much easier sober. These words were hard for me to read when I first got here too, but it's so true. You just have to make the decision to not drink for this next 15 minutes. And make that same choice throughout the day. I don't mean to make it sound simple because I know that it's not. But if you want to change, then do it now. Right this minute. No thinking about it, no worrying about the "what ifs". In this moment, commit to yourself. You want to be happy. You deserve to be happy and alcohol just isn't accomplishing that for you. Work on you. Your husband and son will see the results. But even if they don't, you need to do this for you.

Self pity and loathing leads to thoughts of drinking. So chin up! Today's a new day. How are you going to spend it?

We are here for you, hun. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Love, Me
:l

[nancy]

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There are a lot of AA slogans that I disagree with and the one you quote is one of them.
I am with other people who think that the denial myth is just that-- a myth. AA is fine in some ways but the slogans, brainwashing and treatment of alcoholics as if they are identical are ridiculous.

So what should you do? the account of the woman who has a felony should be a wakeup call to you that things could actually be worse!

It's amazing how low alcohol can make people sink.

I think for some alcoholics though, it feels deserved. I hope you don't feel that way, as if you are so bad you somehow deserve this life. It's very tempting to turn to booze when things go wrong and the substance is addictive. How can you get out of this? One way is to look at things that helped you in the past. When did you succeed the most? Whose accounts here on this site are most motivating to you and who do you identify with the most? Can you PM those people and get support?

It's a bad antisocial problem so your husband has every right to leave though he may well come back and try to work with you through this. It sounds like what you are saying is that whatever you geet out of booze, it's not worth the loss of your husband and son.

As for your son, the teen years are very emotional times. And if you add to that a dysfunctional family problem it's very bad. Does he have good friends to turn to? Can you talk to your husband frankly, when he gets back, and ask him what he thinks is best for your son to protect him while you are trying to get sober? Have you thought about going to rehab/is that an option?

good luck and please come back and post away, hope it makes you feel better.

[vera-b]

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Hi again Frogz,

My hats off to Nancy. She hit on a brilliant idea in my mind. Begin the upward climb by looking at what worked in the past, and build on that. You intuitively did that when you came back here. Now take the next step. I promise I'll stick to my earlier thoughts. Very little advice, great big ears. Keep coming back and I'll keep listening. And who knows -- I'll probably learn a thing or two as well. That's one of the beautiful things about this place. I'll send a special prayer heavenward tonight just for you and your family.

v.

[mwo2]

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Frog - You are not lost, you are here! You sound like you are being very honest with yourself. Keep posting keep reading.

[maggymay]

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here i was thinking i had troubles and then i read what is happening to you. i feel like a jerk for being sorry for myself. I am really sad for you and hope things work out - for you especially. Please dont give up on yourself and I dont really know much about the AA slogans but I do know now that we are all different coming together for help. Take it very easy for a while and and that might help you feel better. I dont know what to offer you but I will do everything today well and will dedicate it to you and your family xxx

[bigkahuna]

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dont give up. some times our biggest mistakes turns out to be our most valuable lesson. be strong

[Theme2be]

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What has decided to overwhelm what was my life, has come to you with the same lies.

I have lost my notes because I need that manner of assistance when I am in the dark prisim. It has no reflection. Its lies deflect the colors of light trusting for a way to be scatter to heal and help.

Stay close here, let your breathing relax as you can trust.

Listen, and the live what is learnable.

Learn what is livable.

I care.