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    #1

    how do you deal with triggers

    As I said before, I am (was?) a weekend drinker.

    Tomorrow is Saturday, and I would normally be drinking cold beer by the pool all day.

    I just went outside to add some chemicals to the pool, and everything about it made me think of sitting in the hot sun with the brew.

    There are other "triggers" for me, but this one is "right in front of me".

    How do you others deal with breaking/altering years of such habits?

    :thanks:
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    #2
    how do you deal with triggers

    Well, for me, I had to AVOID those triggers for awhile. I knew I had to quit in the winter, because that would be easier for me. I finally did it in the early spring. I used to reward myself with a few cold beers after working outside in the yard or garden. Plus, most of the social gatherings are in the summer.
    If you can't avoid the situation, it will probably be harder. You do have to retrain your brain be satisfied with something besides alcohol to drink.
    It's easier now, but early in my quit, I had to avoid friends and situations.
    Hope this helps! :h
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      #3
      how do you deal with triggers

      I hear you. I don't think I have ever been so thankful for an all day conference on a Saturday! I'll be gone all day. Not thinking about when I get home tomorrow evening and want to unwind, though. Will have to cross that bridge a little later. I love knowing I can come here.
      :l
      **aclassicgirl

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        #4
        how do you deal with triggers

        I just try and do things a bit differently, maybe in a different order (if that makes sense?). If it is a real trigger, for example I love (d) to walk the dogs to the pub and sit in the garden and drink beer. For now I am avoiding that a bit.
        I also come here and read often to keep me on the straight and narrow. My hubby is becoming an MWO widower at the mo ;o)
        What about instead of sitting by the pool, swimming a few lengths really hard and giving your bod a bit of a workout?
        All the best.
        Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
        Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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          #5
          how do you deal with triggers

          have fun the right way af ..who needs al to relax

          change your habits anyway you can

          :beach: life does change as long as you are willing to change yourself ..
          best thing about the future it comes one day at a time..

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            #6
            how do you deal with triggers

            tlrgs, that is a WONDERFUL post!!! Fun!! Dunno how you did it, gotta figure it out... And that, too, can be done without DRINKING!!!

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              #7
              how do you deal with triggers

              Thanks everyone. I guess the point is that everyone has triggers in their home or right outside their door.

              Everyone has been so helpful since I came here a few days ago!!! I can definitely use the support and I appreciate it...

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                #8
                how do you deal with triggers

                The triggers are an issue for me too... thanks for all these posts! I remember when I quit smoking in 1993... it was 1994 before I flew out on a business trip. When I got to my destination, without any conscious thought, I was looking for the nearest smoking area... but I hadn't been smoking for MONTHS! It was a mental trigger I had not worked through. Talk about a strong pull. I am really hoping the CDs will help me re-program my thinking and those darn triggers... new habits take about 21 days to "implant"... I'm game! Cheers all!
                Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. -- Nelson Mandala 1994

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                  #9
                  how do you deal with triggers

                  Hi Budd et al,

                  One of my biggest triggers is the "cocktail hour." It was a ritual in my home growing up, was the relief for stress after a busy day at work, was the reward at the "end" of the day for whatever I thought I'd accomplished, was the soothing time after a day with the kids, was the . . . well, you get the picture. So I substituted the beverage (it's summer and I like diet tonic w/lime) which I drink in a wine glass because it feels special. Then, I relax/reward by coming here to this site. It's like a social time but with folks who encourage me not to drink. I have the headphones on listening to the subliminal cd, so feel I'm working both my concious and subconcious minds. This has worked so well since I started with MWO nearly a month ago. The only truly difficult night was last night. Computer wasn't working, so was on the phone with tech support when I needed to be here. Got very frustrating.

                  I also used to drink "extra" - when going out. The cd's have helped me learn to slowly sip, and I order club soda w/lime either first or after 1 glass of wine. So, I guess the challenge is to try to come up with a plan that works for you - avoidance, substitution, etc. I do think the cd's help. Good luck by the pool. Perhaps you should get some of those little umbrellas to put in your "mocktail.!"

                  v

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                    #10
                    how do you deal with triggers

                    ROY SAYS FEED HIM , GIVE HIM A GOOD RUN EVERY DAY, AND MAKE SURE HE SEE'S A VET REGULARLY.....HA! IAD.
                    ?Be who you are and say what you feel because
                    those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.?
                    Dr. Seuss

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                      #11
                      how do you deal with triggers

                      Took me a minute.....love how your mind bends Iad !!

                      As far as those al triggers go, you really need to change up what you do for awhile. Not do the pool on Sat.? or get yourself a nice tub of chilled other bubbly stuff with lemon and lime and set it out by the pool. Boost yourself with some supps kudzu - lglut. Swim after the sun goes down? That is a tough one. I have a hard time vaccuming, I always had al with me. The stairs aren't lookin so good, oh well..
                      workout:chick:mwo2

                      It's my world to make now...cuz I found my way out.

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                        #12
                        how do you deal with triggers

                        Hey budd-
                        Over dinner I was wondering if you had any children at home and thought that maybe you could give them a pool chemical/cleaning lesson. I know when I'm involved with my children, actually something hands-on not just watching them, I don't drink. Of course, if I'm just watching them play, that does not keep me from the drink.
                        The other thing I thought was maybe hiring someone to clean the pool for a couple of weeks. I'm sure that can be costly but just brainstorming...
                        **aclassicgirl

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