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[vera-b]

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Good Monday to you Spidey,

Congrats on your honesty - most of us lie to ourselves so much when we're drinking we don't know the truth if it kicked us in the (ok, I'm starting to love this word - must be our European friends who are letting us in on all the fun!) arse. That said, I think Ms. Doggy has a very valid point. I speak only from my own lousy experience, but putting off 'til tomorrow what should and could be done today is part of the bs we feed on.

Was watching a bit of the Randy Pausch video, shown on the news once again because of his death. In the face of terminal pancreatic cancer, he was the embodiment of living life to its fullest. Knowing his days were numbered (aren't we all?) he made every single moment count. I know his widow and young children will miss him dearly, but they have to take some measure of consolation in knowing that he was with them 110% until his last breath. Don't mean to be ominous - just was so impressed that a dying man could teach us all a thing or two about living. Something to consider.

V.

[spiderpig]

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Hey thanks everyone for all the replies, and encouragement.

Dont have much time to write just now so will be brief and write later after work.

One thing, re doggygirl's post, I set Sept to give me time to do a few things:

Order (done) and receive, and read book. (as my librarian wife will testify, I dont read a lot or quick)

I have a stock of beer which needs NOT to be there on hand for weak moments, yes I could give away, but that would be publicly admitting my prob, NOT want to go there.

I will try to mod until Sept, whilst running my supply out.

August is too soon and also my birthday which we have a social event planned for.

Its took me a while to accept I have a problem, now I'm takin some time out to attune to what I'm gonna do about it.

I will get another post going called SEPTEMBER CLUB, which hopefully will be a big popular one with lotsa members.

I think it helps to have a goal target date.

Welcome to all those who are signing up, this will be big and hopefully cos it'll be big, the extra sense of dropping out of the club, will be an added helper to anyone tempted.

Gotta go work now.

cya

SP

[Waves 2]

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Sounds like a good plan to me SP. I think its hard to move from realising you have a problem to abstinence within a day or two. The mind needs time to prepare itself, and yes that beer needs drinking.

To be honest I find it hard to believe that anyone can build up a stock of alcohol. In our house whatever was bought that day was drunk!
Unless it was 6 bottles of wine on special offer- in which case it may have lasted 2 days. Emphasis on the word MAY.

It took me from end July until October to try for 30 days AF but I did cut down first and have odd AF days to prepare. ( Still can't buy more than I plan to drink though-even after 2 years of mods.)

Good luck with September Club.

[Captnjack]

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Hey Spider all the best to you mate you will do it anyone with your frank honesty to write a post like "My acceptance" is going to achieve their goal and I find it so great that your wonderful wife supports you in this. All the best on your September effort you will do it . Thanks for your post very inspiring
Cap

[jessie]

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Hi Spider,
DG is so right...but I totally emphathize with you. My brain worked the same way. I tried 30 days AF but slipped so many times that I became discouraged and changed the 30 days to just increasing the AF days every month. That works better for my "insane" brain. Managed 15 days in May, 17 in June and 17 again July. So although I'm crawling there I will get there...the day I reach 30 days AF in any month I will throw the biggest gingerbeer/juice party ever.
To all the lonely people out there. Yes, I think an understanding partner can make it easier to go AF but a drinking partner must make it much more difficult. Shall we start a Lonely Hearts Club?
Love to all.
Jessie.

[spiderpig]

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Hey hey, more good replies.

Waves, dont normally have a stock, but recently there was a special on with my beer, 2 cases real cheap so I bought about 6!!

thanks captnjack.

Its all starting to feel like its gonna be a not so bad thing all together.

I hope I can (despite being a newbie) bring a lot of people together with the September club, and help us all unite, and with support encouragement, strength and numbers, achieve our goal!

Until then, we can all start to build some psychic conditioning inside.

SP

[Captnjack]

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Hey Jessie I have a drinking partener know exactly what you mean!!!! It can be very lonely and bloody hard doing this on your own but it has to be done for me its is a no choice situation.
Love cap

[Doggygirl]

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I hope I did not offend anyone. All any of us can do is speak the truth as we know it from our personal experiences.

Best wishes for September! One thing I know for sure, we CAN do this.

DG
Day 69 Alcohol Free, Hangover Free

[jessie]

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Hi Doggygirl,
No, I don't think anybody could take offense, I definitely did'nt. We are all so different and yet so much alike - especially where AL is concerned. I wish I could do the 30 day AF like many do - but the longest period I reached was 11 days. But someday I will.

[Captnjack]

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Hey doggie girl perfectly valid point!!!!!! (wise cheif) you didn't offend me or any one i don't think PS..... I have personally found everthing you post inspiring BOOZE BUSTERS thread is awesome. And Chief well gee he doesn't post often but when he does WHACK its always a real sage moment such a wise person
Love cap

[aplgrl]

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Hey Spiderpig (love the name - my son is a huge Simpsons fan)
I was one of the people who busted your chops in your origanal post. Glad you came back! I must say your new post in one or the realist I've seen - I'm just here since June. Happy to hear your wife is on board. This is a great place to relate to others who have gone and are going through with you. Best of luck on your journey.
Aplgrl

[happydog]

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Hi SP,

To be honest im not sure if its a good thing to set a date so far away......i remember when i started here 1st october (i think like you not sure).... i jump on mwo with my eyes close. someone said to me join a 30 days thread i was scare i found it hard to go one day af at first....but i did started on the ODAT THREAD the people on there help me a lot and give me lots of support i had the odd few days af under my belt ... by the end of october i thought i join the 30days AF firework thread 5th november, never got to the 5th i think i started on the 2rd because i knew i had to stop now i was really in a bad way maybe because i drunk so so much before hand knowing it was going to be my last AL drink.
Never did my 30days af straight away.... i am back to 1day af but did do 67days af.

What im really trying to say why dont you join the ODAT THREAD or the MOD THREAD AND GET SOME af DAYS UNDER YOUR BELT....it just reading your original thread ( i also posted on).... you say you can go a few days and have no issues or withdrawals. sorry but im a little bit that all.

Anyway if you do start early i can understand....

wishing you all the best for the 1st sept '08'

Love
Teardrop.x

[spiderpig]

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Teardrop;371350 wrote: Hi SP,

To be honest im not sure if its a good thing to set a date so far away......i remember when i started here 1st october (i think like you not sure).... i jump on mwo with my eyes close. someone said to me join a 30 days thread i was scare i found it hard to go one day af at first....but i did started on the ODAT THREAD the people on there help me a lot and give me lots of support i had the odd few days af under my belt ... by the end of october i thought i join the 30days AF firework thread 5th november, never got to the 5th i think i started on the 2rd because i knew i had to stop now i was really in a bad way maybe because i drunk so so much before hand knowing it was going to be my last AL drink.
Never did my 30days af straight away.... i am back to 1day af but did do 67days af.

What im really trying to say why dont you join the ODAT THREAD or the MOD THREAD AND GET SOME af DAYS UNDER YOUR BELT....it just reading your original thread ( i also posted on).... you say you can go a few days and have no issues or withdrawals. sorry but im a little bit that all.

Anyway if you do start early i can understand....

wishing you all the best for the 1st sept '08'

Love
Teardrop.x

Yes true, can go a few days with no issues, its when I start I seem to have the prob, 1 or 2 is not enough.
Never gone more than 2-3 days, so maybe I will have withdrawals at a later stage, will see.

What scares me more is I hear people on here doing large nos of AF days but they still have a problem.

To be honest I've NEVER known anyone, in all my tender 45yrs, who has had a drink problem and recovered. EVERYONE I know seems to have stopped drinking eventually, but they cannot touch a drop or they will be back at square one!!

I really hope I dont end up like that, that I can never drink socially or I am stuffed, cos then everyone will suss me out.

I'm hoping to do 30days, and feel good and not want to drink, then poss have 1 or 2 social, without lighting that fuse!

Thats my hope, I'm not sure if its a realistic hope though.

cya

SP

[A Work in Progress]

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I'd say slow down, don't cross that bridge of "what if I can never drink again and everyone will suss me out" till you get there! If you let yourself worry a lot about that now, it will give you all kinds of reasons to just give in to the fears and pressure you are placing on yourself, and drink.

Give it some time. In fact, as they say, one day at a time (ODAT). Get some AF days, string some of them together, get your brain and body back into shape... much later you can worry about what other people might think...

best wishes,

wip

[vera-b]

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Hi Spidey,

I think WIP makes a good point - don't get too ahead of yourself. That's what the ODAT thread is all about! And I think the notion that one sip and we're back on the drunk train was possibly valid years ago, but not necessarily now. RJ's program looks at our total physical and mental selves. We deal with cravings, and changing our relationship with alcohol for the long term. I do think we, the jolly drinkers of the world, will always have to be vigilant when we raise a glass to our lips. When we start to feel ourselves going down a slippery slope, we'll need to repeat some of the steps that helped us the first time around.

I've completed the 30 days of cd's and have found them to be particularly helpful in retraining the brain. Have had many AF days and several mod days (for me that's a scant glass of wine) and only 1 day when I drank 2 full glasses. Well, those 2 glasses really threw me for a loop, and the interesting thing was it didn't feel normal. I have been on an AF wave since then, and it never occured to me that after 2 full glasses of wine I'd be back to my nearly 2 bottle (or vodka) habit. Just not going to let it happen. Sorry for the ramble - just don't buy the old notion that one drink and we're back in the tank.

V.

p.s. Plus -- there are just too many wonderful people to visit daily on MWO, no time to booze it up!!!