Hi and Good Monday Morning!
I could easily explain my dilemma in one quick sentence but I feel I should preface first.
We've been married for 20 years. During this time most nights were spent drinking. The first 17 years our drink of choice was beer. Like most of what I have read on the boards we timed our outside events around drinking. About 3 years ago I decided to loose 50 lbs so I switched to whiskey and no carb no cal lime fizzy mix. Sure enough the weight came off within 6 months but I was drunk the entire time. Not really all the time. But I sure was every night. Recently I began drinking myself into black outs. Scary stuff indeed.
Jump forward to last week (8-11-08) I, all by myself with the help of God, decided that I no longer felt like drinking. Our fights all happened during either my blackout, his blackout or both of us blacked out. I had virtually hit rock bottom. During the 20 year drinking phase I was as functional as could be during the day. Nobody would have guessed, unless they knew me personally, that I even drank.
THANK GOD my wanting to stop was all I needed. Haven't touched a drop in 9 days. Now understand that I am already on meds that I recently learned on this very community that I would need to help me wean myself off booze. I take Atenolol for hypertension. I take Klonopin for anxiety. I take an anti depressant for nerve pain. I elected to start l-glut and muli vitamins about 6 months ago just because I wanted to. Never knew I was all set to stop because I already take the right meds.
I feel EXUBERANT. seriously, I feel normal now. After only 9 days AF!! I had only one effect..lol..it was my first night of not drinking. This actually is very funny to me now but it did scare me so bad at the time that I almost fell out of bed. I had just drifted off and all of a sudden a very loud radio announcer appeared talking into my right ear. This episode lasted only 2 seconds but it scared the bageebies outta me!
Now on to my problem. My husband is scared to death. This is not a whine session here. I just would love to know how others have handled this problem. Right now he is a pendulum. One minute he's nicer than heck to me then the next he's very discouraging and in NO way supportive. Not that I expect him to support my decision. This is my decision and mine alone. He even poured me a stiff drink last night and sweetly asked if I would just have one with him. I smiled and thanked him but told him I had absolutely no desire to drink. I have tried to be very aware of his feelings because I am not trying to scare him. I even explained to him that unless he became violent towards me that he can drink if he wants. It has to be his choice to quit. I assured him that my feelings for him have not changed. My reasons for stopping the drinking is because I want to.
Is there a way to handle this situation that I am not thinking of?
If I have left out any info that could make this post seem confusing please let me know.
Sorry for the LONG post. You people were the rock I held in my hand and said YES..I CAN do this! When I read and read through your posts I was SO encouraged. THANK ALL of YOU!
(I hope this form has spell check..if it doesn't please excuse my mistakes..lol)
Hap-Hap-Happy Feet!:new:
I could easily explain my dilemma in one quick sentence but I feel I should preface first.
We've been married for 20 years. During this time most nights were spent drinking. The first 17 years our drink of choice was beer. Like most of what I have read on the boards we timed our outside events around drinking. About 3 years ago I decided to loose 50 lbs so I switched to whiskey and no carb no cal lime fizzy mix. Sure enough the weight came off within 6 months but I was drunk the entire time. Not really all the time. But I sure was every night. Recently I began drinking myself into black outs. Scary stuff indeed.
Jump forward to last week (8-11-08) I, all by myself with the help of God, decided that I no longer felt like drinking. Our fights all happened during either my blackout, his blackout or both of us blacked out. I had virtually hit rock bottom. During the 20 year drinking phase I was as functional as could be during the day. Nobody would have guessed, unless they knew me personally, that I even drank.
THANK GOD my wanting to stop was all I needed. Haven't touched a drop in 9 days. Now understand that I am already on meds that I recently learned on this very community that I would need to help me wean myself off booze. I take Atenolol for hypertension. I take Klonopin for anxiety. I take an anti depressant for nerve pain. I elected to start l-glut and muli vitamins about 6 months ago just because I wanted to. Never knew I was all set to stop because I already take the right meds.
I feel EXUBERANT. seriously, I feel normal now. After only 9 days AF!! I had only one effect..lol..it was my first night of not drinking. This actually is very funny to me now but it did scare me so bad at the time that I almost fell out of bed. I had just drifted off and all of a sudden a very loud radio announcer appeared talking into my right ear. This episode lasted only 2 seconds but it scared the bageebies outta me!
Now on to my problem. My husband is scared to death. This is not a whine session here. I just would love to know how others have handled this problem. Right now he is a pendulum. One minute he's nicer than heck to me then the next he's very discouraging and in NO way supportive. Not that I expect him to support my decision. This is my decision and mine alone. He even poured me a stiff drink last night and sweetly asked if I would just have one with him. I smiled and thanked him but told him I had absolutely no desire to drink. I have tried to be very aware of his feelings because I am not trying to scare him. I even explained to him that unless he became violent towards me that he can drink if he wants. It has to be his choice to quit. I assured him that my feelings for him have not changed. My reasons for stopping the drinking is because I want to.
Is there a way to handle this situation that I am not thinking of?
If I have left out any info that could make this post seem confusing please let me know.
Sorry for the LONG post. You people were the rock I held in my hand and said YES..I CAN do this! When I read and read through your posts I was SO encouraged. THANK ALL of YOU!
(I hope this form has spell check..if it doesn't please excuse my mistakes..lol)
Hap-Hap-Happy Feet!:new:
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