Hey Sass,
I am in a very similar situation as you. After another "lost" Saturday night (20 beers, in public) my husband of 15 years told me I had to do something about my daily drinking. While not an ultimatum, the message was clear. I told him I'd "work on it" and not another word was said. Monday I found this website.
Sunday night I had 7 beers, almost half of my daily 16-20. Same thing Monday and Tuesday. I will probably stay at this point for a few more days, then keep trying to reduce.
If you really love him, you will do this for yourself. You obviously don't love yourself at this time, but that will come with learning what your issues are and dealing with them.
The slogan "One Day at A Time" means just that. It does not have to mean total sobriety yet. It means that you are not trying to conquer everything at once. That is a recipe for disaster! Seriously trying is (to me) almost as good as doing on this third day of my effort.
If you are not able to acknowledge you problem out loud (I am not), just keep in mind that you are doing this for yourself. You can fool people and make false comittments, but you cannot fool yourself. Don't even try. That's when the bad feelings come in.
We may not get there today, we may not get there tomorrow.
We will not get there in a straight line, but....WE WILL GET THERE!
Best of luck.
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