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[KAT20]

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Just got in in this thread. My trouble is sex is actually better for me alittle toasted. Lets the inhibitions down. Any advise from you horny sober folks.

[roseknows]

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What a great post! How many times has my boyfriend said "do you remember what you asked me to do last night?!" Which I now realize is not funny at all... But my question: I've always been afraid that sex isn't as great when I'm sober...cause I'm not as uninhibited. Anyone gone through this? thoughts? I'm just realizing that I need to be 100% AF to actually function, and it's scaring me to death.

[KAT20]

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Rose, I was also concerned my husband thought I would not have sex with unless I had been drinking. I have had many a "did we last night?" mornings in the past. Have have been pretty much AF for the past 90 days but started up again and that has been one of the reasons why. The sex life is better for me. There has got to be a comfortable in between.

[roseknows]

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Hey KAT20 - When you say "started up again", you mean started up with sex, right? Or started up drinking? My bfriend is quite understanding...but out of town for a few months so I'm thinking now is the best time to start being AF - for me and him. But I just don't get turned on that much when I'm sober! Or, perhaps, I just haven't stayed sober enough to notice Thanks for the reply!

[DeeBee]

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hmmm second hand mojo's.... oh well I suppose hubby will have to take what ever he can get!

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[KAT20]

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Rose, started drinking again. I hear what your saying about not gettting turned on enough sober & also no sober enough. Gia, have gone the later route as well. Just wondered where the happy medium is. Could I get some of that mojo:bigwink:

[Glen]

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I saw this documentary on effects of alcohol. One point they made was that the opposite sex became 25% more attractive after a few drinks. I think this may be because sex is a primitive instinct hard wired into our primitive brain. Our inhibitions reside in our frontal lobe (?) which is the first thing to be effected (or turned off) when we start drinking.

If we keep on drinking, the alcohol will start turning of our primitive brain also, and along with it our sex drive. If we continue to drinking, alcohol will turn our whole brain off and we will be dead!

Essentially the primitive brain wants instant gratification whether it be sex, alcohol or other, and the higher brain will decide (for what ever reason) Yes or No.

While AF, two yeses = grate sex, a yes and a no probably mean theirs something your uncomfortable with (which is not surprising as we are all right in the middle of major life changes. give it time) or you?ve lost your mojo. I have very little idea were the mojo goes. Perhaps I could ask Austin Powers.

I think sex is better when sober, but I know that I have so many issues physically, emotionally and mentally I need to deal with AF at the moment. I need to concentrate on that first and believe that the good things of live will follow as a consequence of being AF.

It?s an interesting thread, which I have been avoiding posting to as it brings up feelings of resentment and inadequacy in the sex / relationship department. Also I am very lonely (ouch) and would love to have a special someone to hold. Alcohol was my girlfriend, now she is gone there is room for a real relationship (in time). But at the moment there is a void. I know I need to go though this void (with out a drink) as part of the healing and growth process.

I thank you all for your honest sharing and wish you all the joys that life has to offer.

[Hopefulguy]

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Learning...

I have to admit for me, I have maybe been masking a bad relationship with Al, as I reduce intake I am less interested in my current GF, 12 years older, I am 38 and more interested in the life I feel i missed. It is not her fault beyond being a 37 year old that scoped a 24 year old but, I think I have been hiding my reality that I had one life. Everyone around me I my GF, of 13 years has had 3 lives one in Europe, one here of 15 years and one if 13 with me, my parents each have had at least 2. I realize this is outside the scope of the program, but as the program works, I have to go back to basics and try and make the things that AL let me Glaze over? I want to find someone that is feeling what I am beyond the withdrawals because I am feeling that too day 5 just trying to figure when I double up on wednesday will that make it all ok? or not? I have incredible compassion for all that have the strenghth to be here, and I have extreme hopes that I can get this right once and for all.

[vera-b]

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Glen ,

Thank you for your thoughts. I think it's wonderful that you've put your commitment to AF first. When a real girlfried is in your life, it will be YOU, and not some drunk version of whoever that she loves. A good relationship is tough to maintain when one or both parties is in the "cups" so to speak.

And ladies, if you find the mojo revival somewhere, will ya let me know? With me it just might be an age thing. Sassy, you're doing so great. First, it's out with the booze. I leave for one little weekend to take my daughter back to college, come home and you're taming the hornies. What's next???? You go girl!

Vera-b.

[KAT20]

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Glen, Thanks for the insight, did not know all that. Thanks as well Gia, I am very attracted to my husband, just have trouble letting the stress of the day and my inhibitions down. In my next life I'm coming back a hoochie mama. Dam girl, your sexy:blinkylove: I think I need more of that attitude.

[Waiting for his way out]

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Sex and sleep

Hopefulguy,
you need to figure out if you still love your GF or if it is AL talking? I wonder the same thing about my husband sometimes, when he has doubts about our life together.
I hope you are doing well with the program.

[IAD]

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Remember: sex first then sleep ! Ha! IAD.

[ontheroad]

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Just curious...are you taking the supps? If so what?

[IAD]

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Ontheroad.... Yes on the supps, L-Glutamine ( 500mgs.) Twice a day, Kudzu (300mgs ) 3 times a day, Evening Primrose ( 1000 mgs twice a day) Milk Thisle (175 mgs, 3 times a day) I don't recommend you taking anything until you've read JW- MWO. Book. Thier are other alternative programs to go on. IAD

[ontheroad]

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IAD

I was trying (not too bright here) to ask sassy if she was on the supps because I am not AF yet but I am taking supps and find an increase in my libido. I was thinking it might be the supps...
If so we need to start mass spaming for them just like viagra!
:H