Baby or Booze?

[CCP]

Hi All. First post for me but reading since May of 2007. tried Topomax, Kudzu, L-glutamine last year for a couple of months with minimal effect. I'm a hardcore closet drinker.
My beautiful (40 wk pregnant) wife caught me taking a swig out of a hidden bottle of vodka last night(one of many). She had enough and so do I. I don't want booze in my life anymore so I'm going AF for as long as I can. While hugging my wifes belly this morning I told my unborn son or daughter that I was going AF and that I never want him or her to see me drunk. I have the loving support of my wife and in a few days a new little bundle of joy that will depend on me for everything so I will have to replace my liquid courage (whisky was my favorite) with strong minded determination, lots of love :h and any help or tips I can get from this forum.

[A Work in Progress]

Baby or Booze?

Good for you, for coming on out into the threads! You know, all the topa and supps in the world will do nothing for you till you manage to find (and keep) the determination to get the alcohol out of your life. Like you said, "strong minded determination." You will get a lot of encouragement here, too, and I expect that actually interacting with others engaged in the same battle (a fight for your life, actually) will help you maintain your strong mind-set.

Best wishes to you and your family.

wip

[KBCE]

Baby or Booze?

Good for you that you have recognized this. And WONDERFUL that you now know that you have to make a choice - BABY or BOOZE. WHen you write it out, it seems like a no-brainer. You will marvel at the joy of children if you are sober...you will miss EVERYTHING if you keep drinking, and I can tell by your post you don't want to do that. I woudl suggest going to the doctor for help. They WILL help you and your life will improve dramatically. Your stress will go down (no guilt, no stress!) and you will be healthier for your new baby. And your wife needs you especially now. My ex was never there for my first two, always drunk/drugging and the stress was horrible. Do this for you, but do it for your wife and unborn baby too. You all deserve the best life. It starts with you. We will be here for you!!!

[Bartender]

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Hi CCP!
Congratulations of your choice to become AF and your new baby to be of course!!
I am just starting out myself but I will lend you what's been helping me in my mindset as I feel it relates to you.
Remember when you were a child? You could make all kinds of fun for yourself and keep yourself entertained without alcohol.
If it was possible then, It's possible now.
And you have a golden opportunity to recapture your inner child as you will have one soon yourself.
You can now focus most of your spare time on family oriented activities and think of how much better they will be when you're actually AF and much more aware...first tooth, first steps , first dance recital or soccer game maybe? the possibilities are endless and you will be there to enjoy them all as long as you work hard and keep your determination, which from the sounds of it , you seem more than capable.
You have a good head on your shoulders and the will to live and that's the best place to start right?
And let's not forget you have yet another opportunity to break the cycle here with yourself because we've all read the scary statistics about children of alcoholics and how much more likely they are to become alcoholics themselves.....

GOOD LUCK!!!

p.s make sure to tell your family and friends you're trying to go AF so they don't bug you at the next cookout.

[DeeBee]

Baby or Booze?

You have got the best incentive, a new baby to welcome into the world.

Good on you for making the right changes in your life, we'll be here to help you but like WIP has said, at the end of the day it's all up to you.

Oh KBCE, I'm so sorry you had to go through that!!

Coming from a woman, pregnancy is filled with worry and your wife needs her partner to be there for her and the baby 100%.

Stay stong willed and determined!!

[CCP]

Baby or Booze?

CCP

Thanks for all the kind words of encouragement. It's only been 2 days but so FAR SO GOOD. I have a doctors appoint. next week. No baby yet. She is getting induced tomorrow morning and I'm very exited about the whole experience but at the same time scared that I will not be able to stay AF. A few years ago my wife and I competed in marathon's and triathlon's so I plan on starting that up again with a running stroller and swimming with our new little pumpkin.
Thanks again. I'll post his or her pic in a few days.

Chow

[startingover]

Baby or Booze?

MWO is having a baby!!!! Yay!
CCP you are doing great on two days, lots of prayers coming your way.
Good luck to you all for tomorrow.
Let us know?

[lil.michelle]

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Hey!
First, congrats on the baby front!
You're soo lucky to have a supportive wife. You're right, it's time you go AF. Your baby will need you at ALL times of the day and night and your wife too. It's a hard and stressful job having a baby but trust me, it's the BEST job in the world. Get rid of ALL the drink you have hidden, EVERY SINGLE BOTTLE (do not leave one for 'just incase moments') cause you'll have LOTS of times with a new born where you'll want a swig of something but you can't. You need to be there for you wife and child and enjoy every second cause before you know it, 1/2/3/4 months will pass and you'll never get that time back. I learnt the hard way. I had postnatal depression and after going to the doctors time and time again asking for help and not getting any, i turned to drink. Don't end up missing your babys first few months.
I know you can do this. Be strong. You have the BEST thing life can bring you coming your way, love every moment! Good luck, give you wife a hug from me!!! Keep us posted!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[vera-b]

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Hi CCP,

Congratulations for coming here before your beautiful baby is born. There's probably a part of you that already knows that children can be a real source of stress at times. Whether they're a dependent bundle of joy or a pain in the arse teenager, they will depend on you to show them what life is all about. You sure as hell don't want them to think the only thing that matters in life is the next drink!!

But to deal with you own stress, I highly encourage you to explore now those activities that bring you joy. Whether it's the triathalon or pulling weeds in the back yard, they're the things that keep our sanity intact when tested. Congratulations to you and the Mrs. on your beautiful addition to the world!

Vera-b.

[Breez]

Baby or Booze?

CCP~Congrats!

Make a pact with wifey & do the healthy route. I know it's hard. But if she eats right...you eat right. If she exercises, you exercise. When she gives birth, have the nurse kick you in the "you know whats". Just kidding.

Try to make this a duo situation. She's not drinking-be supportive and do the same. Once you get that healthy frame of mind-you can do it.

Blessings to you!