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    I'm new here. I posted "my story" under the "long term abstainence" board - I know incorrect placement, but if you get a chance, go there and read it. I could use the support as I know we all can.

    I've been AL for 14 days today. My great fear? Losing my faith that it can continue. All it takes is that one sip for me. Then it's all downhill from there. I've made several attempts to moderate and quit altogether, but have failed time and time again.

    I've taken supps and read the book. Some has helped me and has started me on the journey where I believe will lead me to the peace of mind that I so crave.

    Just wanted to touch base to all of you out there. I get a kick out of hearing from people all over the world -- people just like me, same struggles.

    My latest problem is that now that I feel so flippin' great, I've got so much more time on my hands. It's Sat. afternoon and I'm finished with working out, chores, and before, I would be exhausted by now, needing my long afternoon nap! I think I may take my dog for a walk! Jeesh! Problems!
    Sometimes what you're most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.
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    awesome it only get better with time stay strong and think positive ..
    :beach: life does change as long as you are willing to change yourself ..
    best thing about the future it comes one day at a time..

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      #3
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      How long has it been for you? How long until you quit thinking about it 24/7? Just curious. I'm in an obsessive state right now, constantly thinking about it, getting on with my life, but it takes up most of my thought time.
      Sometimes what you're most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.

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        Hi J, I think the early days are the most difficult, your body is going through so many ajustments and your mind will be too.
        I have been sober for nearly 2 months now and I rarely think about actually wanting a drink, most of my thoughts are thoughts of gratitude about how far I have come.
        I think for the first few weeks I was even dreaming of booze and sometimes waking up thinking that I had a hangover, over time that has gone away. Give yourself time and try not to be too hard on yourself you know with thoughts like "I should be feeling whatever by now" Everyone is different but ultimately eveyone feels better when they settle down.
        Best wishes
        Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
        Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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          #5
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          Welcome J,
          Congrats on 14 days, that's awesome!!!!!!!!!
          :flower: I'm not as good as I'm gonna get, but I'm better than I used to be.

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            #6
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            i am 10 months plus and i can say yes i still think about it but .. its more of a joke with it now .. the thing is that i know what i want .. and al is not it ..i have my life back not everything but the most things i need which are my two sons , my gf and well my family .. believe me it does get better with time ..dont let it control you .. you control it and there are better things out there then just getting drunk every nite and waking up in that fog....stay strong and think positive
            :beach: life does change as long as you are willing to change yourself ..
            best thing about the future it comes one day at a time..

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              Hey J-Vo! Welcome! 14 days is great. I am on day 11. I am having a bit of a struggle for some reason this past few days...really wanting "just one glass". Bought some AL free wine today to see if that can get me over this depression. It is really hard, but every day I wake up not hungover, I thank God and thank the people on these boards. They have been lifesavers. We are all struggling and this is a great place to get the support you need. I am hoping I can shake this funk I am in and not fall off the wagon. We'll see - I can only hope! Stay strong and keep posting!

              K
              "All that we are is a result of what we have thought" Buddah:heart:

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                #8
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                It takes a while. The constant thinking of AL will ease up a little over time. I tend to think about AL on a regular basis as not being an option for me. If I go out to dinner I may have one glass of wine and that is it. If I REALLY want it I don't have it. If I can take it or leave it I have one. Not drinking has begun to change my life. I feel great, my mind is clear, my relationship with my husband is better, etc.

                You can do this thing! It is difficult and trying to reprogram your brain is tough. I find that my body doesn't crave AL at all but my brain tells me I WANT IT! I just have to be stronger than that little portion of my brain that is trying to pour wine down my throat. Keep going, your doing fantastic! All the best, Gabby.
                Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.

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                  Thanks for all of your support. To "startingover" I read your post and cried. You're an extremely strong person. And to all, I've put in my daily prayers. You've mentioned about dreaming of booze, and actually, I'm going through that currently. Years ago when I quit smoking, the same thing occurred. But then with all the drink, I started up the smokes again, which sometime soon, I'd like to quit - I thing at a time! tlrgs - 10 months is an awesome accomplishment! I believe you that it will get better with time, just like with most things we lose and love. Anybody read "Drinking: A Love Story?" Excellent memoir. I've read about 10 memoirs over this past year. Every single one I can find a connection, some more than others, but it feels good to know there's hope. KBCE - we're at the same days, so I can feel your struggles. Let's stick together on this. We'll win! And Gabby - yes, my mind seems to overpower me in a bad way at times. I've got to control it somehow. Thank you again all!
                  Sometimes what you're most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.

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                    J-vo and KBCE,
                    I wish you both the best in getting thought these tough days. Everyone has already said that these feelings will pass in time; I believe that too. Keep focusing on all the good benefits you are feeling sober and that will help a bit. I am on day 27 and have been "down" the past two days. I can't seem to shake it but I will continue to try. We're all going to have ups and downs because this battle with AL is difficult....but it is definately doable and you two are proving that now. Have either of you chosen to do the CDs in your plans? I have found them helpful to me...just a thought. Hsve a good evening and find ways to pamper yourselves every now and then...you deserve it!! Kriger
                    "People usually fail when they are on the verge of success. So give as much care to the end as to the beginning." Lao-Tzu

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                      #11
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                      Hello J-vo & Everyone

                      I am just 8 days (been a member since 8/2007 check out my posts) shy from where you are at and can agree with what person (sorry can't remember who, but very well said) said about the mind wanting the drink. I too, find myself thinking about it but I TRY to stir my thinking back to where I was six days ago, when I was so hungover from binge drinking with my boyfriend. He too, has an issue and has joined me in not drinking, which is such a great relief, otherwise I would have had to move out:upset: I had fallen so completely off track (again) of what I worked so hard for and luckily it wasn't too bad but to me it was.

                      Anywho, congrats on your 14 days and keep posting. "Mind over matter" is what I tell myself and then I take our 8 month Siberian husky Maya and the feeling subsides. This is a great site and I am so glad you shared your story

                      Big hugs,
                      Janet :h
                      AF Day 6
                      AF Since May 2nd 2012

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                        #12
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                        Hey!! Welcome!! 14 days is GREAT! I know it's worrying that you may mess up but try not to think about it. In the end, if you mess up, you start again. No point worrying or thinking about it till it happens, if i ever does.
                        I'm so happy you're in the place you want to be. We're here for you. Keep posting and i look forward to getting to know you.
                        Stay strong!

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