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[DestinyBloom]

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Thanks

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I'm going to try to get back to a positive attitude. It's been tough for a long time - I hope this is a place to help turn things around.

[Angelcakes]

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Hi Density, I don't think your pathetic at all...actually the opposite - you've lost your Mum, your Dad's really sick & your husband is disabled...Hello!!! That's some heavy S**t for one person to carry!
You've taken the first step by joing us (go you!) - this is a whole programme - someone else (RJ) has already done the research, we can just reap the benefits - so can I suggest that you download the book 'My Way Out' - I'm sure reading that will help you see that there is a more positive path for you.
I look forward to getting to know you.
:welcome:

Angel xo

[DestinyBloom]

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This is a reality check

I appreciate your perspective, because I've lost mine in the middle of trying to survive day by day. Thanks for your responses and I'll keep the hope that I can improve my situation.

[Guitarista]

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G'day Den... may i suggest your handle be slightly modified to.. 'Destiny' Good luck good lookin' Greg.

[akmom]

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Density....You are SOOOOOOO NOT pathetic!!!!

Let's see, I haven't peed alone in 7 years (yes lets get right into it!!). If I want to shower without the phone ringing or the kids banging on the door it has to be at 3 AM. My two step daughters love the line "You're not my mother", so my 5 year old and 3 year old love to use it. I am too busy for friends, as my life consists of soccer, rainbow girls, karate, basketball, cello, lego robotics, jrotc, Dr. Appt's, dentist appt's, kids forgetting things, 5 lunches(6 lunches 4 days a week), a husband who works 12 hour shifts, PTA, my mother(who is a widow and has health problems), and 2 dogs(1 we have had longer than most of the children). I would drink to escape reality for a while, I was so good when I was pregnant I actually thought once that if I could stay pregnant for the rest of my life then I would be fine. But seriously, I couldn't imagine my life without my children, and most days without everything I have to do. I know deep down inside the people I do things for do appreciate it(well maybe not my mother as nothing seems quite good enough for her), and some day some one with come up and say thank you and I might just keel over from shock.

We are with you every step of your journey, and know that you are strong....look, you made it here didn't you!!!!

[akmom]

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OH, and I try to hold down a job as the owner of "Truffles" a catering company that specializes in dessert parties, and individual dessert orders!!

So I also have to worry about gaining weight all the time, as any good cook knows, you ALWAYS have to taste your food!!!!!!!!!!!

I am sending your brain Cappucino cheesecake truffles as we speak!!!!!

[Mackeral]

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Cant beleive i missed this thread...I love being nosey..

32 year old Male
Have an amazing wife since we left school
5 gorgeous children..
Love Fishing..Cooking..Man utd..

[DestinyBloom]

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Interesting group

Sound like we have a lot of characters on this site - I love it, from devlish and loving life to tearing our hair out, to calm and collected. I'm really confused right now, but I will consider changing my "handle" to something more positive. Nice meeting you all. Don't know how you do it "akmom" - I guess I was there once when the kids were little with three in soccer at the same time, music lessons, karate, baseball, school functions, etc... and I had my own business for a while. We even survived our fourth season of select baseball ending with a trip to San Diego early august. I just go through the motions right now. I have a distrant memory when life was good, but it seems like another life. My interests were/are singing, guitar, visual arts, dancing, tennis, hosting great family parties and just having all the family together, happy...and I'd really like to make more money and get out of debt.

[jondoh]

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I suddenly feel very odd about who i am!!!!

33 man from Devon UK
Gorgeous wife to be
5 year old stepson....
Lunatic collie dog!!!
Work in IT/Telecoms (i have a love of wierdness like that)
Ummmmmm straight now for the nth time for ooh just over 24 hours.......

Hey ho lets go..... (to quote The Ramones......as you do)

[patricia]

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Married, grown-up children, excellent job, wonderful husband who doesn't drink. No pets, elderly mum, love clothes and make-up, have inherited good youthful looking genes! Put like this why the hell do I drink too much? Watched the diet doctors today - as well as scaring me it genuinely made me laugh because when the doctors asked what they'd done wrong (because the girl just was not co-operating) she just turned round and said "I just don't like you" - they were stunned . . . . funny but refreshing for the show to air a failure . . . . .

[Eve11]

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To Density

Dear D,
You haven't posted much so I would love to see you change your name from Density to
Destiny (if name is available).
I can relate...when I was little my girlfriends were called princess and pumpkin by their dads. My alcoholic dad favored the name a**hole for me.
I went through a lot of therapy and read something one day that was profound for me and was years of therapy in a nutshell. Here goes...Mother Hubbard went to the cupboard and the cupboard was bare. Well, my dad went to the cupboard and the cupboard was emotionally bare for him. He didn't have what he needed to be a good dad - his cupboard was bare. I forgave him that day...and the only time I've lived up to his name was when I added too much liquor and then became an instant a**hole.
I'd love to see you start here by getting beyond your mom's negative name. Keep coming and posting and we're all here for you. Private mail me if you wish. Just click on my name and it gives you the option to send a private mail. And please understand...the advice to change your name is only my opinion - you don't have to take my suggestion if you don't want to.
Take care. Welcome!!
Hugs,
Eve11
My name? Had a dream that my guardian angel said her name was Eve
and 11 is my favorite number
Signed
...no longer an a**hole.

[Eve11]

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To Guitarista,
Too funny...we must be twins. Just read the posts following Density's original post and saw that you had suggested the same name change.
Great minds think alike.
Have a great day everyone!
Eve11

[DestinyBloom]

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Been out of touch this weekend

I don't know how to change my name. Been out of touch, not doing well right now - chemically imbalanced and depressed. Taking valium to deal with the anxiety and (of course) it doesn't help in the long run. Bad weekend, worse Monday. I actually have a domain name - destinybloom.com I thought of it a long time ago and had some ideas about using it for the positive - not working yet - lost the initiative.

[matchee]

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34 year old Male
live in the center of the US
Beautiful if not understanding wife
2 Beautiful loving kids
2 alcoholic brothers.

My Dad quit drinking about the time I started. My Mom passed away a couple of years ago of the big C. She would advocate the drink as "boys being boys." My wife's father is a recovering alcoholic whom she gives the utmost respect. She says the I choose to drink because I choose alcohol over my family. It hurts. She doesn't see it as a disease rather a product of a weak constitution. I love her dearly but her lack of respect for me is amplified by my foolish actions and dialogue when nearly blacked out on a weekly (that she knows of) basis.

[DestinyBloom]

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Hi Matchee

Welcome to the thread. I'm not much help to people cause I have a lot of issues. I just wanted to say that I am really sorry about your mom. My mom died dec. 21 2006. A few weeks before she died she and I had what I thought to be the start of a reconciliation that ended in her saying she thought I was the most dense person ever - she didn't know what she was saying. She was very sick. She had COPD for 40 years and then cancer - I didn't even know until about 6 years ago. My family keeps their troubles to themselves - a dangerous way to live. The real truth I believe is that my mom thought I was a better mother than her and she didn't really know how to be a mom to a girl. She had boys before and her mom never talked to her about things that really mattered. And so the trend continued. I have three terrific and beautiful talented kids - lots of issues for everyone especially over the last months. Hang in there and keep talking to people. It is a disease and you have a chemical dependency. If you need some help or someone to talk to don't hesitate. Send me or someone in the group a personal message - help is here.