Reasons to Quit

[Waiting for his way out]

Reasons to Quit

I am sorry, I meant the reason TO QUIT

[LVT25]

Reasons to Quit

Go for it, waiting!

[Waiting for his way out]

Reasons to Quit

here are some reasons for my loved one to quit. they may sound selfish to some.
I will stop crying myself to sleep, 3 days week
I will stop making deal with God in exchange for his sobriety
I will stop feeling guilty because "I must have done something to bring this on"
I can leave my mobile phone in the charger at night instead of the night table, just in case he calls or the Police calls
I can stop searching around the house for that ugly bottle.. i know it is somewhere
Maybe, just maybe, I will go home more than one day and find him sober
he will not kill himself or kill someone while DUI
He will be back to me and to himself as the wonderful loving person I know he is.
i could go on and on.. but most of all.. because I miss him so much.
Now I am crying.. sorry

[Waiting for his way out]

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Yes I saw a couple of Therapist. they both told me to get out and run. I am not ready for that. I want to see him get through the MWO program, I have great hopes he will succeed.
I am now seeing a new therapist who is more understanding and is guiding me through my pain and frustration. Although, as you can tell, I still need a lot of work.. but tomorrow is a new day.
Thank you for letting me know success is possible.

[Waiting for his way out]

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this has been going on for over 10 years, but only the few recent ones have become very serious and have brought on very damaging and hurtful events.
As I read books about improving my codependency and learn how to deal with the problem, I have been able to better formulate a resolution should the worst case become a reality. Some days I am at peace with the fact it may need to be over and we may need to go our separate ways, not too may of those yet. He started the program a few weeks ago, since I have been waiting for so long.. I feel it would be unfair, for both of us, not to give it a chance to work. I will wait to see if we have a real chance to happiness together again. I just hope I can wait long enough.

[vera-b]

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Waiting,

You've reminded us all of the pain we drinkers inflict on our loved ones. I was thinking as I read this thread that the thing I cherish the most sober is the warmth and love I can share with my husband. AL put a chasm between us that could not be bridged as long as AL was in the picture. The nights he went to bed alone while I was passed out in the chair. Not pretty. I have plenty of regret and guilt over that, which is a big part of my motivation to hold onto this precious sobriety at all costs. Thank you for the reminder.

Vera-b

[Helpwanted08]

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I agree to all of the above and Yoga girl I am proud of you becasue I found myself sneaking out to the trash can and hiding the wine bottle deep in there instead of putting it in the recycle because I thought I could convince my husband I only had a couple of glasses versus the whole bottle...like he did not know. Yeah for 14 days AF...I have to say not drunk dialing and making a fool out of ones self is so very nice...
HW

[AstraiaJ.]

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In answer to someone's question, I think it's true we've had discussions like like before, but this is one discussion that bears a LOT of repeating! I don't know about others, but I need the continual inspiration. SO, in addition to sleeping better, I don't have that continual ache that I am convinced was a totally stressed out liver. My liver numbers from the doc. came back normal, thank God, but I think that can happen on a general test even if your liver is trying to tell you, "No more alcohol, please!"

Yogagirl, I also remember a discussion this summer where some of us were talking about our embarrassing recycling stories -- you might want to look that one up because I couldn't believe how many people had experiences like that. For some crazy reason I thought I was the only one. I remember holding my hands over my ears in the morning so I wouldn't hear the glass crashing, or trying like mad to leave for work before the recycling truck came so I wouldn't hear it. One time I took the wine bottles down to a local recycling center because there were so many, and I didn't want to put them in the bin for the recycling truck (they wouldn't have all fit anyway). While I was trying as fast as I could to get rid of all those bottles, a woman and her son came up behind me and the son said, "Wow that woman must get really drunk!" or something like that. Geese, how embarrassing. So, one more good thing about my ongoing fight is that I don't need to make a special trip to get rid of record wine bottle accumulations!!!!