wedding next weekend

[bloggy]

wedding next weekend

I understand you dont want to be stuck at home all the time- but what about going elsewhere with your friend another night and giving the wedding a miss?

Movies, bowling, a meal- something where drinking is not the main focus? I think a wedding when you are newly sober is a terrible idea- even if you have taken the Antabuse I don't see what enjoyment you will get surrounded by people who you do not know, who will all be heartily drinking?

[Rachelita]

wedding next weekend

Hey all, decidedly NOT going to the wedding. I slipped tonight and had one glass of wine after one full week AF. You were right. It's too early. My friend is glad I was able to be honest with myself (and him) about it.
I did stop at one glass. God it felt good, not gonna lie. But I never ever want to withdraw ever again.
My parents hid all the car keys and locked their bedroom doors.

Why do we kid ourselves in the begining?

[Chelle12]

wedding next weekend

Hi Rachelita, I think we all kid ourselves in the beginning. It was only saturday gone when I was adamant that I was only going to have one glass of wine when I was out to dinner and ended up drinking a vineyard full.
Christ, I even excused myself from the table saying to my partner that I was going to the toilets, when 20 mins later he found me plonked at the bar chatting to the waiter over different types of wine with two empty wine glasses in front of me!
The amount of times Ive posted on the AF army thread whilst DRINKING has to be one of the utmost self-conning things Ive done here as well.
Anyway, not going to the wedding was YOUR decision and yours only. Only you can know whether it was right or not. I DO think you and your friend should get together though.. with him being anon-drinker then there'll be loads of places you cna meet up and if he's not drinking then it certainly helps you
BTW.. well done on stopping after that one glass of wine.. you're a strong lady
C

[bloggy]

wedding next weekend

Chelle12;421085 wrote:
The amount of times Ive posted on the AF army thread whilst DRINKING has to be one of the utmost self-conning things Ive done here as well.

C

I doubt you're the only one Chelle.

But you are right- it is self-conning.

Most of us have lied and pretended for years- it is part of our addiction.

I think to be this beast we have to start to be scrupulously honest- and that begins with ourselves.