Been and done, would you say i screwed up?

[lil.michelle]

Hi all.
It's me!!!

SOOOO, this weekend was my brothers wedding. Me and my brother are VERY close and i get along GREAT with his new wife.

We went up to birmingham on Friday and met up with everyone who was going to the wedding. ALL of my friends were there, some i haven't seen in years. It was FANTASTIC. We stayed in the priemer inn and next to the inn was a pub. We all went there for dinner and drinks while we waited for everyone to turn up, chatted about everything ect ect. Everyone was drinking and getting drunk... GOOD GIRL ME did not have a single bit. I stayed on coke and had a fantastic night.

Saturday was the wedding day, I was a bridesmaid. I went to the brides house and we were all getting ready. The mother of the bride gave us all a small glass of bucks fizz to toast the wedding and all before we left. Although i didn't want to, i had the glass and joined in with the toast. I ALSO had a very small glass of pink champange at the reception to join in with the toasts. I stayed the whole night and didn't drink anything else apart from coke and water.

I feel i did the wrong thing by joinig in with the toasts, i should have had water or something. Would you say i've screwed up? I just felt like... this is my only brothers wedding, i should be able to join in to the toasts.

I think i done sooo well. Half way through the reception, i went back to my room and cried a bit as i felt out of place not drinking. It seemed everyone was having soo much fun, while i sat sipping on my coke. I went back and as people started getting REALLY drunk, i started feeling good about myself. I unlike some, wasn't making a complete ass of myself and it felt really good to be sober and to wake up without a hangover.

I just wanted to share that with everyone and see what other people think about drink and toasting.... is it a screw up or an exception?

Love you all XXXXXXX

[vlad]

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I think you did exceptionally well! You rock!

[DeeBee]

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Well done!!

I think taking a couple of sips to toast and then say NO TO AL is an amazing thing to do. I don't know if I would've been able to not drink after having a couple of sips.

Don't beat yourself up about it, I think you are showed strength and determination:-)

[river0123]

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Be proud of yourself - you did good!:goodjob:

[cymru]

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I agree. To have a few sips and then not drink when everyone else was in party mode is amazing. Dont think i could of done it. Shows great will power and strengh.

[river0123]

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Oh, and sorry to hear you cried, but I do understand! This is very hard work, but very worthwhile, as look at how good you feel now

[1967]

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no screw up.
u did fantastic!

u should be SO PROUD OF YOURSELF!!

(isn't it just cool to wake up w/out a hangover!!!?? )

[universal]

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That is awesome! You didn't screw up at all! The fact that you were able to have a sip to toast and not continue is amazing!

Be proud, you have come a long way girl.

[savon19]

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:goodjob:

I think you did GREAT! A couple toasts at such a "once in a lifetime" occasion is nothing to be ashamed of.

It sounds like you were very much in Control!

[New Day]

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I don't think toasting something as big as you're brother's wedding is at all wrong. Even people who don't drink (by choice) will participate in the toasts. I know how you felt mid-evening when everyone seems like they're having more fun than you .... but you had the last laugh as they got totally wasted and feel like crap the next day. At least you can remember the whole event!
I went to a close friend's daughter's wedding where my daughter and her BF where both in the wedding party. I did the toasts and had a couple of drinks throughout the evening, but nothing like I would normally have had. At first I did feel it was a strain, being determined to limit my drinking, but as the evening wore on I was so glad I did! It was a lesson learned as to handle these occassions better in the future.

[Evie.Lou]

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YOU DID GREAT..

Toasting at your brothers wedding is not like getting drunk.We get some alcohol in fruit juices,canned tomato soup has AL in it.Forget it,you did nothing wrong,in my eyes.

[Seacailin]

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I agree with all of the above. You did Great!!! Isn't it fun to be sober and watch others' make asses out of themselves. LOL

[Lala]

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I think you are amazing as well - I hope one day I can be that strong !!!!

[kriger]

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Lil, Good job, girlfirend. You deserve a big gold star

Love Ya, Kriger

[caysea]

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Hi Lil
What you did was great!! We all know how hard it is in certain situations not to drink and I think this was probably one of the hardest.I don't consider a toast drinking.
I am AF and wouldn't have because just that first little bit would lead me into trouble ,that is just me.What I am realizing now is that every time I decline a drink it doesn't seem to matter to anyone else it is in my head they they are looking at me as a non drinker.And so what i want to be looked at as a non drinker. You will soon become more comfortable with yourself as a non drinker and yes you will be having as much fun as everyone else minus the negatives of al
It is great to read about someone working hard and winning this battle
Stay Healthy and Keep Fighting
{4 months AF}