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[Chelle12]

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LookingToGrow;450585 wrote: Chelle, seems like you don't really want help, just a place to post. I find it offensive that your thread pops up all the time, with you're posting about drinking, while most of us are trying to go AF or mod. It makes no matter what threads we read or not read, your thread keeps surfacing as a drinking thread because you post so often to yourself. You are not even a member here! I wish you would come up with a plan and stick to it.

I am a member here actually.
Subscribed.
But your point has been taken.
Im sorry my presence has been so offensive to you.
I'll go now and not return.
Cheers.

[DeeBee]

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Chelle,
There isin't an option on your profile to send you a PM, so here goes....

You are a very special lady who is loving, compassionate and full of life... don't let AL win!
Did the Antabuse ever reach you? And the l-Glut that you ordered?
Let us know how we can help you, k? Let's get a plan together, even for one day, tomorrow we'll deal with tomorrow.
I know it's hard, but together with the support of your fiance and everyone here who cares for you, YOU CAN DO THIS!

[A Work in Progress]

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Chelle, I have been hoping that this thread would give you time and space to gather your strength to do something about your drinking. And I hope that you will not allow the negative comments of one person to stop whatever positive progress you were hoping (and maybe beginning) to make here. This MWO "place," I have found, is NOT a place where any of us can expect that everyone will always like us and approve of us. There will ALWAYS be someone who makes nasty remarks, or who addresses us directly, saying they don't like what we are saying or doing. You just have to step back and carefully consider whether the positives that you are getting, and hope to get, here are more important than the parts that can be unpleasant.

I hope you will decide to stay, and I very much hope you will decide to do something positive about your drinking problem. You have a lot to live for! It is very difficult to get away from the drinking... it's like much of life, that way... the things that are really worthwhile and meaningful take quite a bit of work and struggle.

best wishes,

wip

[nancy]

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Hi Chelle

I hope you don't leave because of that comment. COUNTLESS times I have seen things like this happen.

People are attacked for doing too well, people are attacked for failing too much, or doing silly threads or religious threads. MWO is mostly good but there are sometimes attacks on the boards. I sometimes think that any member with high visibility is bound to be attacked.

I don't know why people think they can come here and expect to like everything and your thread is clearly labeled for those who are still drinking. I certainly don't have a problem with it. You are drinking but your posts are readable and not offensive. It's not like you are posting drunk and attacking others. And you aren't the only one posting, lots of others are.

It does seem like you are struggling with drinking and I hope that you get some help.
But please stick around.
Nancy

[Rachelita]

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LTG,
PLease don't be mean to Chelle. Try to remember how it was when you were drinking and how hard it was to quit and/or mod. Of course she needs a place to post. She is not trying to offend anyone. I'm sorry you find this thread offensive. Don't read it anymore if it bothers you so. That may be easier said than done, but if you kicked the booze you can kick this thread too.

She's in a lot of pain, kicking while she's down only makes things worse. As hard as is might be to believe, she is trying.

I apologize if I offend you with this response.

[Starlight Impress Forever]

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Hi Chelle,
I NEVER come to this thread........don`t know what brought me here today........just at rather a loose end I suppose, and doing my nosy :H

The reason I don`t come to your thread isn`t that I find the title or tone offensive.........I am just at a different stage in this journey from you.

But you know, I`m inclined to say........"Live and let live". I believe that it takes all sorts to make a world.........just as it takes all sorts to make a MWO. Sure, you may not be to everyones` liking, but then........who is ?

I am fortunate in that I have rather a lengthy sobriety under my belt now, but........I can vividly recall how I could never really imagine quitting.........I was afraid of having to deal with life sans alcohol.........most alkies are .........

I like you........you`re sassy and funny, but I don`t believe for a minute that you`re in any way taking the piss out of MWO and all that it stands for. I think that you`re much similar to how I was before I quit, and I think all your drinking chit-chat in here is merely tongue-in-cheek and that you use humour to play down your fear a little........it`s a tough, albeit rewarding road you are contemplating travelling, and I think that is exactly why you are here..........YOU ARE CONTEMPLATING travelling this road and wondering if you really have got what it takes to succeed. Well........of course you have.........trust me........if I could find what it takes........you have it too, and hopefully you`ll bring those qualities to the surface........sooner rather than later.

So, for now........keep on laughing and joking.........you`ll get there. We all have down days.........days when we wonder what this is all about, which is why I say that we shouldn`t equate sober with sombre. I love humour........some nights I come on here and just laugh my head off........laughter is therapeutic, after all. I would go off my "trolley" if this was all doom and gloom.

Just........don`t take too long.......if you`re waiting for a GOOD day to quit.........sorry........there isn`t one :H It is tough nomatter which day you choose........hard fact. Somehow, I get the feeling that you`re getting closer and closer to your chosen day.

I wish you fantastic success,

Star x

[thirdsister]

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Chelle,
I'm just a family member here, but I really love that you put up this thread. Maybe I'm wrong (but based on the high # of regular posters to this thread, I'm not wrong), but I think it is important for those out there who haven't yet reached sobriety to find good company. It hardly makes sense to only be welcome to MWO if you've already conquered this 'beast' as some are calling it.
Keep posting, please. It is helpful not only for those, like you, who are still drinking...but helpful for family members who get a glipse into the daily life. Sometimes we (family) only see the AL, we can forget that there's a WHOLE person there. Reading the posts, see the humor, humility, sarcasim, fear, strength, etc is a refreshing reminder that I haven't lost my family member completely to AL. She's still out there fighting the good fight all while maintaining her compassion for others and a wicked sense of humor...and making me proud as hell, I might add.
Anyway, that's my two cents, for what it's worth.
ThirdSister
P.S. I was just reminded of my absolute favorite part of the novel To Kill A Mockingbird when Aticus tells Scout that the bravest person he ever met was the really old lady next door (can't recal her name) because she was fighting an unwinnable (probably not a word, sorry sis) war (I think against a disease). She was courageous because she knew she couldn't win, but was still fighting. - Your war against AL may feel like hers, impossible, but you are still fighting and that is the most courageous thing anyone could ask of you. Keep on fighting the good fight!

[boozehag]

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Hi Chelle
Please dont lose hope for as long as you are here you will eventually get there. It took me two years of desperately wanting to give up binge drinking and smoking before I was finally able to get the hang of it. Keep posting please as you are encouraging lots of people to join us but who may not be quite ready yet to take the plunge or havent figured out how to yet and you are also funny and way cool!
BH

[1morechance]

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Chelle
Hope you come back. I've been a member for 7 months and believe me it's been a rollercoster ride, some AF days, several binge days; but I keep coming back because I always find some hope and support in something that someone writes or shares as an experience. Take care and don't let this get to you.

[BecomingMeAtLast]

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Chelle,

I hope you come back. I find your posts very funny and you inspired me to cook dinner one day when I didn't think I was up to it. It was from one of your posts on your thread! You sound like a wonderful chef and I hate to cook and you inspired me that day :l

We are all adults here and can read what we want to and ignore what we want to. We all have a choice with these threads.

I have read some posts which have kind of bothered me, not in your thread but I mean in this forum, and I just ignored them. I'm kind of moody anyway so I just figured it wasn't for me at the time.

It seems like you're struggling with your drinking. So am I. So are a lot of people on this forum, that's why we're here!

Take care.
Be

[cymru]

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chelle. you and me are in the same boat. Im sinking. come back.

[Chelle12]

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Hi Cym,
Hi Everyone and thanks for your replies.
Yesterday was the day from hell for me (not through drinking) but some very personal relationship problems.. spent most of it crying.
Its ironic how in a crisis, I steer clear of the bottle.
I had hoped to come on here and chat and post with friends, but LTG's post hit mehard and hit me at a really distressing time.
I dont want to post on a public forum about the personal problems (they're not drinking-related anyway) but suffice to say, I was devastated.
I still feel sorry to LTG for causing any offence, and hope she reads this.
Yes, I post tongue in cheek stuff about life.. its my defence mechanism and the only way I can cope with life sometimes.
Sometimes I probably joke too much,but if its raised a smile and brightened anyone's day for a minute, then its worth it.
Im crying now..
3 hours of talking last night, and so much thinking to do.

[cymru]

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So good to hear from u chelle.
Im not going to be here, but im thinking of you.

[DeeBee]

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Chelle (((hugs)))
Let me know if there is anything I can do for you, k?

[cymru]

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And its def on sky chelle.