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[sunshine_gg]

So, I mentioned in another thread that my dad (recovered AL) advised me to talk openly to friends and family. Had a really tough time with that - still do. But, I did tell my bestest, oldest friend since I moved to this continent.... wasn't sure what to expect as a response.

You know what? She wants to join this forum.

She thinks, she herself has a problem and wants to join me in kicking it. How friggin awesome is that? I was SO afraid of coming forward...

[hart]

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Sunshine that is Great. I too have told people who have alcohol problems and people who love people that do about this site. :goodjob:

[christyacc]

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That's awesome Sun! It's always best if we just face our fears.......

[sunshine_gg]

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Thanks Hart!

My BIGGEST issue is to admit to everyone and their brother that I have a problem. Voluntarily, that is. There are some people I just can't fool anymore.

To talk to my g/f who I think the world of and who had helped me through the most difficult times of my life wasn't easy.. but darnit, it seems it may have been just the right time, because she is also struggling.

[LookingToGrow]

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Good job!

[Montana Mommy]

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That's great!!! Sometimes people surprise the hell out of me, and it's wonderful.
MM

[vlad]

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That's great and great that you'll have someone close by to support you!

[startingover]

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I am delighted for you sun. I think having support is key to success

[BecomingMeAtLast]

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Sunshine,

I'm so happy for you, you're so brave! It was nice chatting with you yesterday. :l

Be

[Waiting for his way out]

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Sunshine, I did not talk about my husband's problem with AL with anyone for many, many years. Then when things became a lot worse this year, I finally decided to talk to a couple of my old friends. It turns out one of them was married a long time ago to someone who had a big problem with AL and was abusive and the other one had his own problems with AL, was committed for several months etc.. when he was younger. My point is, sometimes help is all around us and because we are afraid of sharing our feelings, we don't see it and we miss out on its healing effect. I am glad you shared and found help. Good luck.

[sunshine_gg]

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I'm getting what you mean, WFHWO... and I really hope it helped you.

I don't know where to go from here. The book is on order. Some Supplements will be bought this weekend. My partner is totally supportive, albeit a little lost.

Still, my main issue is, I don't want to stop for ME. I want to stop for everyone around me. And, I'm just not sure it'll do.

[boozehag]

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Well done Sunshine
You might find that once you get it out there its not such a big deal. I was quite surprised when I first told people I wasnt drinking at how many said oh I wish I could drink less too. Not all are like that though some are threatened by others giving up drinking I had an honest conversation with one of my friends yesterday about my fall off the wagon last friday who tried to tell me I did not have a drink problem! I still have the bruises to show for it for crying out loud. I got so angry and I said I dont care what you think I know I have a drink problem and you dont live my life so how would you know. She was like okay okay.... I am still pissed off at that but you know its her problem not mine.
BH

[boozehag]

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Sunshine
I think you really need to do it for yourself first and the bonus is that others benefit. But it doesnt really matter what your motivation is as long as it gets you started. The worry is that if you are not doing it for yourself that you will be easily distracted from the major committment requird. A lot of people who have had success talk about hitting rock bottom - generally seems to be a point where it is do or die - physically or mentally. Just take baby steps - dont think too much about the big picture thats what ODAT is all about. Maybe just committ to 7 days then 14 then 21 etc. Come back and join us on the november Ass kickers thread if you are up to it.
BH

[mistyblue]

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sunshine_gg;460911 wrote: So, I mentioned in another thread that my dad (recovered AL) advised me to talk openly to friends and family. Had a really tough time with that - still do. But, I did tell my bestest, oldest friend since I moved to this continent.... wasn't sure what to expect as a response.

You know what? She wants to join this forum.

She thinks, she herself has a problem and wants to join me in kicking it. How friggin awesome is that? I was SO afraid of coming forward...

I'm so proud of you, and realizing together that we can do this together also. Thankyou so much for opening up, although we both knew we both had a problem. One day at a time my friend, your always in my heart.

[mistyblue]

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I meant opps sorry, we 'have' not had a problem.