Time To Admit I Have a Problem!!!

[Angelique]

Hi. This is my first time posting (actually second...but who's counting?) I found this site back in Feb. when I found out that I was pregnant with my now newborn daughter (5 weeks old today!) I was freaking out because I didn't know I was preggo for the first 3 weeks and was drinking myself into oblivion just about every other night (red wine is my poison of choice) I was up to about 1.5 to 2 bottles each time. I've drank my entire life pretty much. But, the heavy drinking started about 3-4 years ago and right before I got pregnant it was really bad. Surprisingly I didn't have a problem not drinking during the pregnancy, but knew in my heart that I needed to come up with a plan for afterward. Well being AF for 9 months makes you feel pretty good about yourself. Actually you feel so good that you have now convinced yourself that you never had a problem and can control anything (WRONG)!!! By the way the baby was born very healthy with no defects (thank God!!) I am now slowly noticing that I can't stop at one glass.....it HAS to be all or nothing with me. So I haven't gotten totally obliviated yet (except for my girlfriends birthday party). But the stresses of being at home with a 5 week old and also dealing with the "pre-teen" mood swings of my older daughter (shes' 12), life can be both stressful and sometimes boring. I've ordered the supps. and am not sure about the Topa?? I am due to go back to work Dec. 15 and have a very STRESSFUL job with a very DEMANDING company..so wish me luck. I'm glad to have found this site and you people are all so woderful. I can't tell you how many times I've both laughed and cried from reading all your posts. Sorry this is so long.:thanks:

[Zeppie2]

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Hello Angelique - welcome back and congrats on your new daugter.

[Waiting for his way out]

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Good luck with the stressful job and demanding company. I don't know if this will help you, but around my office we all support each other with the idea that we are lucky to have our jobs, most of our friends who used to work with us have been laid off and are still out of work since last June. It is not much, but it helps sometimes.
Topa is different for everyone, my husband has been on Topa since September, it did not seem to have a positive effect until he was at 200mg/day.
Good luck with the children, everyone tells us they grow up so fast and we really don't understand until they do. all the best.

[Evie.Lou]

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Glad your with us....A new baby and a 12 year old would be difficult, for sure...Maybe the working will not seem so stressful in comparison ????

[vlad]

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i'm on a pda and have little battery power but wanted to say 'welcome!'

[time2change]

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Welcome and Congratulations on the birth of your daughter. You will find so many supportive people here who can relate to what you are going through. We hope you stick around, read and post often. Good luck on your journey!!!

[MeowNow]

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Great

Glad you have a job. I too have a very hard one and can't wait to get home and have a drink after a 14 hour day. BUT I have a job, and so do you, and we have hope. I am glad your baby was born healthy. My husband is sick, and I am sure the A. has had a bad effect, but the doc said it was revesable so GOOD LUCK to us all.:goodjob:

[christyacc]

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Welcome, congratulations on your new baby and good luck with pre-teen and job! Holy! You certainly have a lot on your plate!!!

This is a great place to be with a lot of support. If you need anything just yell!!!

[Mackeral]

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Hi and welcome..

This is a great place to read and also get things off your mind...Dont worry about the long posts...Some people here go on for Hours..lol
:welcome:

[Bella]

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Hi Angelique......We have spoken before and i feel I am similiar to you with the "can't stop at one" thing. You mention things being boring sometimes!....that could be why you want to liven things up a bit and drink too much.? Could be totally wrong but sometimes being at home with the stresses of babies and kids....makes me want to turn to the bottle. Perhaps its a good thing going back to work soon. Even though you have a stressful job, it might take your mind off drink and keep you focused on whats important. I do wish you luck there..it is bloody hard going but admitting you might have a problem here is the best .....as you CAN deal with it and get back on track.

I sooooooo know what you mean about the 9 months off the alcohol when pregnant.....making you feel like there is no problem....I thought that too....but how wrong I was. My problem has come back with a vengence...worse than before....so be aware my friend of that ugly beast...and don't let it win.
lots of love, Bella XXXXXXXXXXXXXX

[Boss.man]

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Grats on the baby and you are a saint to go AF for the pregnancy. Did your hubby also? I always think fair is fair, the child is half his.

Stress, demanding, those are excuses. In the current economy a job is a lifeline. You can't much complain about the lifeline, because tons of people don't have it, and are right behind you wanting it should you lose it by choice or no.

Welcome to MYO. We're here to help. I'm sure with the baby you are busy and distracted. Let's work together to create a parent's life that is not pulled astray by the strings of dependency on AL.

[Angelique]

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Wow, thanks for all the great responses everyone. Yes, you are all right that I should be grateful for having a job and a great baby ....and I am. I didn't drink yesterday and don't plan on today either. I can't say what I'll do in the fututre for sure, but am planning on trying my hardest to be AF. Fortunately my hubby isn't a big drinker.....he's what I wish I can be. He can stop at one or two beers and be fine with that. On the other hand I carry on until I can't stand anymore. I have no "off" switch once I start. How absolutely insane is that?? Thanks for listening.

[brittzak]

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Angelique,
Moderating sounds REAL GOOD, but the majority can not do it...even after very long stints AF. It is easier to never pick up the first drink than to try and stop after 1-2. I speak from personal experience only. Topa really works for me...consider it. Read up on it here. AND WELCOME!!!!!!

[christyacc]

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Angelique;462541 wrote: Wow, thanks for all the great responses everyone. Yes, you are all right that I should be grateful for having a job and a great baby ....and I am. I didn't drink yesterday and don't plan on today either. I can't say what I'll do in the fututre for sure, but am planning on trying my hardest to be AF. Fortunately my hubby isn't a big drinker.....he's what I wish I can be. He can stop at one or two beers and be fine with that. On the other hand I carry on until I can't stand anymore. I have no "off" switch once I start. How absolutely insane is that?? Thanks for listening.

Good job not drinking those days.....and I wouldn't worry about what the future brings...worry about now. Just say, I won't drink NOW. Then when the next NOW comes, worry about it then....know what I mean? You can only do your best.....

My husband can take or leave drinking, and bless his soul, he stopped when I stopped in order to support me but there will come a time, when I will have to be strong enough to handle the temptations. It isn't fair of me to tell him he can't drink because when I start I have a hard time stopping.

Brittzak suggested Topamax.....excellent suggestion. I started it on Thursday so far so good. Maybe it's something you might consider......