Cloudy makes day 15!!!

[Cloudy]

Thank you Thank you all...... it's Day 15 today, and as steady I stand fighting the cravings, have Hubby starting to play mind games, keeps sms me with all sorts of flirts and romantic words, telling me he made a big mistake, and wants to put back time, erase words spoken, and get me back. He's really confusing me! I don't need this now! and it's only thru my "partially" clear mind that i'm starting to see, while not blaming anyone for my drinking problem, but see how week I have been, still am and how i allowed myself to be manipulated and played. I dont need this now, wont allow it to enter my realm of AF, as I know it would knock me right off my path. HELP!!!!!!! how can I shut down the part of mind that play's with the heart??????????

[universal]

Cloudy makes day 15!!!

Cloudy!!!!

First off, congrats on day 15! That's amazing!

I don't know the situation with your husband so I can't comment on it but isn't it nice to view things with a clear head?

I can't tell you how to fix the heart, just try to deal with everything with a clear head, you will make the right decisions......

Good job!
Uni

[startingover]

Cloudy makes day 15!!!

Ah, thats a tough one Cloudy. I am not sure that you can. But you can gradually change your thinking so it doesnt take up quite so much headspace. Concentrate on you and your needs, dont give way to negative thinking, if you find yourself slipping into stinking thinking, be aware and do something quick to change it. Eventually your mind will re train itself to be less sensetive.
Great going on day 15!! You are fantastic!

[Starlight Impress Forever]

Cloudy makes day 15!!!

Hi Cloudy,
Fantastic that you`re on Day 15.......well done.

Well, seems like hubby is already beginning to appreciate the sober you.

Hmmmm, this is all about you now. Just keep thinking of how proud you are of yourself and how worth it you are. Am an expert at allowing my heart to rule my head.........would never ever do that again though.........sometimes you simply have to put yourself first........is not selfish........is merely common sense and self-preservation. We are no good to anyone drunk, least of all ourselves.........

Star x

[boozehag]

Cloudy makes day 15!!!

Cloudy
Very well done on 15 days. Can you just imagine what he will be promising you for 30days! Dont give in now. Treat em mean keep em keen!
BH

[A Work in Progress]

Cloudy makes day 15!!!

CONGRATULATIONS, Cloudy!!! Well done under difficult circumstances!

wip

[dlw]

Cloudy makes day 15!!!

CONGRATS TO YOU CLOUDY. Looks like Sunny days ahead for you

DLW
AF 34 days
Member MYO 34 days

[Chief]

Cloudy makes day 15!!!

Good job, Cloudy!.....stay strong and focused. There is nothing that can happen to you that is a reason to drink.....nothing.

Don

[Popeye]

Cloudy makes day 15!!!

That's BRILLIANT Cloudy!
You'll be able to work your life out a lot better with a clear head.

[rubywillow]

Cloudy makes day 15!!!

Cloudy, your head is clear, now clear your heart. The only ones who belong there are your children and the people who are sincerely interested in your best interests, and nothing for them, nothing they can gain from you. You have a life to build, and you don't need anything that will distract or hold you back from your future. From there, you can look for the things in life that give us pleasure aside from AL. I am so proud of you. You are so different from that first day. Don't go back, please.

[Peacefull]

Cloudy makes day 15!!!

Congrats on Day 15 ....

[Montana Mommy]

Cloudy makes day 15!!!

Way to go on the 15 days!!!
MM

[cmhguy3]

Cloudy makes day 15!!!

Way to go! I hope every day gets less cloudy and more sunny for you!

[BecomingMeAtLast]

Cloudy makes day 15!!!

Congrats Cloudy!

15, great job! I know what you mean about the manipulation. My hubby (20) yrs together has tried the same mind games. Maybe not exactly but...

My point is to stay strong. When I have, my hubby has come around to respect me. Not at first, I think he was fighting the change in me. I think he was afraid. My hubby is afraid of change, even when it is needed. Now he has an occasional AF day with me and even takes supps with me sometimes. (His drinking problem is worse than mine but that's a different story.)

My advise is to stay strong, no matter what. This may be confusing to him, too.

15 days is awesome! :l
Becoming

[Cinders]

Cloudy makes day 15!!!

Cloudy,

I want to say big congratulations on the 15 days. I know how hard fought for and won they were.

However, I also want to speak on the relationship side of things because I have been watching my girl go through this.

Today she is sober. She is pregnant and in her mind there is no other option. (Thank God!!) However, her relationship has changed because of it. He no longer has a reason to "fault" her for her shortcomings. (of course, she has none, she is my daughter after all and therefore perfect...)

But, now that she is sober, she is realizing that many of their fights were not her fault to begin with, he was just using her drinking as an excuse.

I am not saying he is a bad person, we all do what we do.

It is good you are sober today. You can look at the relationship you are in with clear eyes, not the blurred, guilty eyes of a drunk, but the sober, clear eyes of a person who matters.

Take care of you and your sobriety. If he wants to play "mind games," that have no true substance, get rid of him and say, "whew!!"

Easier said than done, I know, but you are worth so much more than someone who will take advantage of your addiction to keep you where he wants you.

Be happy. Be sober. Be free.

Love,
Cindi