Didnt Make it

[Cloudy]

I blew it - ashamed , weak and absolutely worthless

[Boss.man]

Didnt Make it

No.

You are here.

That blows your concept of "worthless" because you posted here, therefore you have worth to yourself and to others.

We all have moments of shame. I'm not happy about my own results. But no one promised a rose garden and there's nothing more than getting up for a new try.

In this game there is no failure. Success is found in simply getting up, and regaining commitment and doing just a bit better than before.

[startingover]

Didnt Make it

Cloudy, you are most certainly not worthless. You are here, and you have made a mistake. You can learn from that and put it behind you. If you have been drinking, which I am assuming you have, that will make you feel worse than maybe it really is.
I would suggest that you drink lots of water, eat some nutritious food and then take a look at your plan and see where you went wrong.
You are NOT worthless cloudy, you are on a journey and have hit a bump in the road. You will get through it. OK?

[Catwoman]

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You didn't blow it...you postponed it. You have to be generous to yourself...life is a series of knockbacks but ultimately worth trying again. Look at it this way now you have more experience of what caused you to drink again and you can use that from this second on. Don't be so hard on yourself, talk to your friends on the forum and good luck !!

[Seacailin]

Didnt Make it

Exactly what SO said. It is my belief that as long as we are still breathing, there is hope. Just right back in. Let us know how we can be of help.

[cymru]

Didnt Make it

There are very few of us who havent fallen at some point on our journey to sobriety. It is a long and bumpy road, but you can do it with self belief and help from everyone here and at home. You have but started your journey.

[Cloudy]

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Sunday son, daughter and a girl I took in 7 months ago ( This girl ran away from her mom in UK, her father here doesnt want her, she was practically living off the streets and prostituting herself to grown men. I took her in, gave her shelter, food, a home) left home with excuse they were going to an Internet cafe - in the meanwhile I discover that son with this girl are planning behind my back to go off to the UK. Feeling so hurt, that's when the drinking starts.........By late evening and no response form their cell phones I called the cops and went searching for them.......find them at my sons fathers girlfriend house, a woman that herself abandoned 4 of her own kids. I was drunk yes,but with 2 cops at my side, was cool, calm and collected, just asked for my daughter and my car. Missed work Monday - they came home - girl found her belongings packet - told her she was bad influence, kicked her out - but son leaves with her! Son is 17 and this girl 20. do I just let them be?????

[Guitarista]

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Hi there Cloudy. Sorry about your situation there. It sounds bloody hard. I don't have any advice, but i remember when i was 17, well, i was a young man, and NOBODY could tell me what to do...i had my own road, and wouldn't listen to anyone else. I hope at least writing here about it may ease your stress a little....G.

[bloggy]

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Cloudy;471225 wrote: Sunday son, daughter and a girl I took in 7 months ago ( This girl ran away from her mom in UK, her father here doesnt want her, she was practically living off the streets and prostituting herself to grown men. I took her in, gave her shelter, food, a home) left home with excuse they were going to an Internet cafe - in the meanwhile I discover that son with this girl are planning behind my back to go off to the UK. Feeling so hurt, that's when the drinking starts.........By late evening and no response form their cell phones I called the cops and went searching for them.......find them at my sons fathers girlfriend house, a woman that herself abandoned 4 of her own kids. I was drunk yes,but with 2 cops at my side, was cool, calm and collected, just asked for my daughter and my car. Missed work Monday - they came home - girl found her belongings packet - told her she was bad influence, kicked her out - but son leaves with her! Son is 17 and this girl 20. do I just let them be?????

Cloudy so sorry you are going through such a hard time- I don't have kids, so it is hard for me to have much of an angle on such things- but I would say to let them be.

They are not children anymore, and I think you will give yourself huge amounts of stress trying to control them- stress you don't need.

Good luck to you.

[Peacefull]

Didnt Make it

Cloudy, firstly, you are not worthless. I am so sorry for what you are going through,

[notevergivingup]

Didnt Make it

Cloudy, so sorry to hear about your situation, as hard as it may be to let him go you might have to, so he can learn from his own mistakes and you only tripped, just pick yourself up and start walking again. I can't tell you how many times I tripped. Will be praying for your situation.

Twosox :l

[savon19]

Didnt Make it

Join the crowd. You're not alone!!

:dunno:

[JAMMS]

Didnt Make it

I wish I had more

Cloudy-
Being the mother of a 17 year old boy...my heart is aching for you right now. I wish I had some miricle answer for the question "should I let them be?" my instinct is to say "No!" but I have no idea what to tell you to do about it.

I am so sorry that you are in this situation. Be strong, remember that the drinking may make it even worse and perhaps take some time to think about what do after you are AF.

I wish you the best. Let us know how your doing.
:h

[BecomingMeAtLast]

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Cloudy,

You are NOT worthless. You are a loving father. You are trying and you have turned here for support. My son is 17 and it is so difficult. Only you know the answer of what to do with your son. There are too many variables for another parent to tell you what to do.

Work on getting yourself better, healthy and strong. Don't give up on yourself. We haven't given up on you. :l

Becoming

[lil.michelle]

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NEVER EVER say that or think about yourself like that. You are NOT worthless and do not be ashamed. Drink is a hard battle, life long for most and it's a very normal way of like for most of the world. So you had a drink? is it a crime? NO. Don't beat yourself up about it. It does no good. Just get back on that wagoon and start again. That ashamed feeling will go but you CAN do this hun. Do not beat yourself up. You're only human! All those you didn't drink.... You are soo strong. GET BACK ON HUN!